Prettyinblack Posted July 16, 2005 Posted July 16, 2005 My boyfriend and I havae been together for 3 1/2 years. We have been very on and off in the last six months-------dealing with committment issues and things have been going ok....lots of talking and working things out. However, I have an extremely stressful job. Most of the time, I deal with it ok, but then, there are days when I am more stressed with others and PMS time seems to be one of them. PMS and my job???? Geez.......it's a tall order to be happy, happy, happy.......it really is. This week, it's PMS week and my boss is away and I've been running the Agency where I work but of sourse, every crisis hits and I'm in charge and my boyfriend knows this. On Thursday, I speak with him from work on the phone and I know I am being short with him, but can't help it. He HATES it when I get like this, but it doesn't happen often. I called him yesterday and left him a message at home saying that I knew I was having an "off" day but I have PMS and was feeling overwhelmed but it had nothing to do with him. I haven't heard back from him. URGH! This is what he does when he gets pissed. How do I address this without losing my cool? I feel like I can't even have a bad day and that I have to be 'happy, happy, happy.' And he'll say, "I just can't deal with this", i'm sure. Mean while, he is the moodiest little sucker you could ever meet..???? Go figure? How would you guys deal with this?
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 16, 2005 Posted July 16, 2005 Originally posted by Prettyinblack How do I address this without losing my cool? You already did address it .. You called him and told him what was really going on . He didn't react the way you wanted. Don't get upset just wait a little time and calmly get in touch with him again. You also need to learn your triggers and the ones that put you in a bad mood ( sounds like you already know what they are ) and not take them out on your bf.. He's your bf not a emotional punching bag.
smile95 Posted July 16, 2005 Posted July 16, 2005 being on the other end of this, i know how he feels. But, as long as you called and explained, you have done all you can. He may just be reaching a point where he cannot deal with the fact that work takes a lot of your time. He may feel unimportant. That is exactly why I am leaving my realtionship of 3 yrs. As long as you explined(and in a nice way) you have done all you can.
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