thecrucible Posted December 18, 2016 Posted December 18, 2016 I'm a member of a tennis club at a sports facility. There's this guy I kind of just talk to in a friendly way there although for a while I had a sneaky suspicion he was interested in me for some reason. I pretty just dismissed this as banter/him being friendly. He chats to me on Facebook from time to time and I liked status update from him a few months ago which talked about an amazing girl he'd met. Anyway we had a club night out a few days ago for Christmas. I didn't really talk to him much there but caught a few glances from him and I'm always friendly to him/happy to chat. So I got home in the early hours of the morning and was woken by a Facebook message with lots of heart emojis and he asked me "Would you like to date sometime?". I'm not sure whether to dismiss this as drunk talk since I know he drank a lot that night. I'm not sure how to respond either. To be honest he hasn't been on my radar as a romantic prospect as he is 5 years younger than me.
Shanex Posted December 19, 2016 Posted December 19, 2016 Most likely drunk talk.. IME, not to be rude but I've done that to a girl I was an orbiter of, and regretted it waking up in the afternoon, cause I got no reply and her attitude towards me changed drastically afterwards.
ThisisIt606 Posted December 19, 2016 Posted December 19, 2016 He was most likely drunk since it was just after you two came back from the same party and you mentioned you knew he was drinking. He also sounds really young ( 5 years younger + drunk texting is a classic immature youth move) Do you really want to be asked out in this manner? Seems so "first semester of college and I got drunk" style to me. You also said he isn't even on your romantic radar. If I were you, I wouldn't accept the date for these reasons. Tell him you're not interested or don't respond to the message and talk in person next time. 1
Author thecrucible Posted December 19, 2016 Author Posted December 19, 2016 He was most likely drunk since it was just after you two came back from the same party and you mentioned you knew he was drinking. He also sounds really young ( 5 years younger + drunk texting is a classic immature youth move) Do you really want to be asked out in this manner? Seems so "first semester of college and I got drunk" style to me. You also said he isn't even on your romantic radar. If I were you, I wouldn't accept the date for these reasons. Tell him you're not interested or don't respond to the message and talk in person next time. Thanks. I'm going to go the route of just not replying and seeing what he's like in person as I see him weekly. Thing is I wouldn't want to take his question seriously if it was just drunk talk and then end up embarrassing myself. I really only see him as an acquaintance anyway. Cheers for the advice I always feel like I ask silly questions on here but I appreciate the support I get from this site. 1
Author thecrucible Posted December 19, 2016 Author Posted December 19, 2016 Most likely drunk talk.. IME, not to be rude but I've done that to a girl I was an orbiter of, and regretted it waking up in the afternoon, cause I got no reply and her attitude towards me changed drastically afterwards. Ah okay. That's another point of view. That's the thing. I don't want to be rude but I never know how to interpret stuff online or by text because I don't know whether they are messing with me or if someone grabbed their phone and did it for a joke. So I think I'll just ignore it and see what he's like in person. I always have the ready excuse of not spending much time on Facebook, which is genuinely true.
Erik30 Posted December 19, 2016 Posted December 19, 2016 Well if you like him you can just say yes, (though the way he did it was kinda lame) and if you don't, reject him or ignore. It's not that complicated. "Drunk talk" will probably be his excuse in case you say no. Seems like he doesn't care about the age difference so you don't have to worry about that.. unless he doesn't know
Shanex Posted December 19, 2016 Posted December 19, 2016 Ah okay. That's another point of view. That's the thing. I don't want to be rude but I never know how to interpret stuff online or by text because I don't know whether they are messing with me or if someone grabbed their phone and did it for a joke. So I think I'll just ignore it and see what he's like in person. I always have the ready excuse of not spending much time on Facebook, which is genuinely true. Yep, I also agree with the above poster advice. I don't think he was joking or just messing with you. He was definitely sincere but I am sure since you didn't reply to him (there was nothing to reply to at this hour of night and both of you got back from the party drunk) that he will feel bad about it, and your next encounter may be awkward. He's also very young. I wouldn't if I were you make him feel bad about that.. just be clear, if you're not interested.
Author thecrucible Posted December 19, 2016 Author Posted December 19, 2016 Yep, I also agree with the above poster advice. I don't think he was joking or just messing with you. He was definitely sincere but I am sure since you didn't reply to him (there was nothing to reply to at this hour of night and both of you got back from the party drunk) that he will feel bad about it, and your next encounter may be awkward. He's also very young. I wouldn't if I were you make him feel bad about that.. just be clear, if you're not interested. Yeah I could be projecting because I don't feel particularly attractive at the moment, I tend to not think people are interested when they are. I just don't want him to feel awkward about it and I won't treat him any differently or make him feel bad. I like him as a person and normally would go on a date, I just feel that he's too young for me. Maybe I would look at it differently if he was older. I just don't know.
Author thecrucible Posted December 30, 2016 Author Posted December 30, 2016 Yeah I'm glad I'm not taking him seriously. We just talked on Facebook chat and I'm trying to be responsive because I know I'll see him in person (I don't really want to look like a jerk about it). Anyway he kind of just said "I'm about to get naked and go for a shower" and then dropping little hints haha not my type of thing. He's in my mind as someone fun to talk to in my social group and that's it.
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