Coping, down the road a bit...

[tinytiger87]

I just wanted to get on here and post a positive recovery story from someone who went through a very bad breakup back in in the summer of this year. Maybe it will provide some hope for people who are experiencing similar circumstances now to what i went through.

 

To summarize, I had been dating a woman for 1.5 years and had just moved in with her finally on March 19th of this year. I moved out during Memorial Day weekend. How did it go so wrong, so fast? Long story short she cheated on me and got pregnant with her ex. There are many many more details to it, but for the two months that we lived together, she was seeing him behind my back and that culminated in a pregnancy about 3 weeks before i moved out. I didn't find out about all of this until around August, when i deduced what was going on myself, i never got an explanation or apology from her. She DID tell me she was pregnant, so at least i didnt have to hear that from someone else i suppose.

 

Anyway, I spent the entire summer in denial that this woman that i was so in love with would do something like that to me. Like anyone in that circumstance, I was very confused, upset, angry. I felt like she owed me an apology and was very angry that she could just sweep me and my emotions toward the situation under the rug so quickly. For a while I let it destroy me. I think anyone is entitled to a little bit of a pity party.

 

As time has gone on though, I have used the incident as a catalyst for positive change in my life though. I joined a gym, and began working out, lifting and doing cardio. I bought new clothes and have sort of re-invented my image in an attempt to distance myself from the person that i was when i was with her. I am cooking more, and i have become a MUCH better housekeeper in the wake of all of this. I came up with a very specific self-improvement plan and have followed it to a T. I am feeling better and better about myself every single day and the anger, hatred, the jealousy is all leaving my head slowly. Maybe its a case of "time heals all wounds", too, but i Like to think that my plan has helped me immensely.

 

I guess what im saying is, its easy for those of us who have experienced this kind of heartache to let it destroy us. Its easy to just recede from the world and let our anger and jealousy define who we are. DONT LET IT HAPPEN. Focus on you, focus on your life and the things that YOU can control. In the end, you will be a much stronger, and a much happier person for it.

[DarrenB]

Very well put, Tiger. Always lovely to hear a recovery story every now and then.

 

I'm certain that it must have been a very difficult and enduring period for yourself. I can relate to an extent on that.

 

I'm glad you've found your peace. Let that continue in your present life and proceed to give you new opportunities and new hope for the new year and for every other year infact.

 

Godspeed.