hildagnome Posted December 18, 2016 Share Posted December 18, 2016 (edited) I know this amazing guy who is really nice, successful and super good looking (this bit is really important to my stor I'my talking like a close to 10). We work together and everyone we work with keeps telling me how obvious the chemistry we have and everyone can see it. A lot of my work friends have also told me that it is so obvious he likes me. We do spend a lot of time together alone but I just always put that down to other factors, like he likes me as a friend, we have adjoining offices so it is easy for him to stop by and ask if I want to go to lunch or whatever. Sometimes we go to this wine bar downstairs from work together after work. We do have good conversations and I know he likes that I'm smart. Body language signs are like this: Whenever we walk along together we are always touching, when we stand together somehow his shoe will ALWAYS be touching mine, he always stands way too close. I would now call us good friends and we even send whatsapp messages to each other sometimes on weekends. A couple of times he sent me cute pictures. I suspect the reason why he is not asking me out IF he does want to, is me. I am playing it a little too cool, and I'm pretty sure he has no idea how much I like him. The reason I am playing it so cool, I cannot believe a guy who looks like that likes me. You should see some of the other girls he has hooked up with look like! I have a pretty face, I used to be pretty fat but I lost a lot of weight a long time ago but I still don't think I'm the kind of girl who guys stop in their tracks to stare at! I guess the problem here is twofold. First despite what other people tell me I cannot believe he likes me and I remain convinced deep down he likes me as a friend (I do sense the chemistry though, it is electric when we're in the room together, but how do I know that is not one sided and he feels it too? It's the kind of chemistry where when we're sitting side by side it's all I can do not to just gravitate over and hold his hand It's like my body has alife of its own when I'm around him) I know he is hooking up with girls on tinder but he told me a couple of weeks ago that he is tired of this and would soon be in the place in his life when he wants a serious girlfriend. ( Oh and I am also on tinder which he knows but not hooking up at the same rate as him ) In the same conversation I mentioned how my departments finance guy had asked me out a couple of months ago and I felt real awkward about this as things were a bit weird and I didn't like going into their office now. This guy then said he would be pretty nervous to ask a girl out at work because of this creating awkwardness. Could this also be the reason why he isn't asking me out? I am so confused by this, and would hate the reason why he never asks me out to be my lack of confidence and my inability to understand why such a hot guy who could literally have anyone would want me. Edited December 18, 2016 by hildagnome 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted December 18, 2016 Share Posted December 18, 2016 Stop waiting around for him and ask him if he would like to join you for an after work drink....see what he is like outside of work. Just make it casual and not date like, so it's not "awkward". 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hildagnome Posted December 18, 2016 Author Share Posted December 18, 2016 Stop waiting around for him and ask him if he would like to join you for an after work drink....see what he is like outside of work. Just make it casual and not date like, so it's not "awkward". He has already done this. We go to this wine bar after work just the two of us, after work. We have never hung out on a weekend though. Sometimes we'll drink in the wine bar until it closes. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
vampirebrat Posted December 18, 2016 Share Posted December 18, 2016 (edited) He has already done this. We go to this wine bar after work just the two of us, after work. We have never hung out on a weekend though. Sometimes we'll drink in the wine bar until it closes. Ask him if wants to grab a coffee or watch a movie sometime. Something that can be seen as a friend-date. Save Edited December 18, 2016 by vampirebrat missed a word 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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