XannyB20 Posted December 18, 2016 Posted December 18, 2016 So recently me and a girl I've seen around plenty of times, have started to talk on social media. We got to the point that we admitted that we both had feelings for each other and that they still existed.We were both coming out of relationships too so we didn't feel like we were doing anything wrong. So we began to talk more and more everyday. We went out about 4 times in a row and each time was fun for the both of us. She told me how emotionally draining the relationship was and how it caused her to become mentally unstable. However, I received a call from her ex boyfriend at 3am one night. Then shortly afterwards, she completely went ghost! She blocked my number, but kept me as a friend on all other forms of social media. I'm confused about how she randomly disappeared. What do you guys think could've been the reason behind that? I don't wanna feel like im kissing ass so i refuse to reach out to her even though I REALLY want to. What's my next move here? 1
HereNorThere Posted December 18, 2016 Posted December 18, 2016 What did the ex say? Was she creepin on him and he caught her? Most logical answer, they're back together. Otherwise, she lost attraction. You haven't given us enough info to really tell you. 2
Author XannyB20 Posted December 18, 2016 Author Posted December 18, 2016 What did the ex say? Was she creepin on him and he caught her? Most logical answer, they're back together. Otherwise, she lost attraction. You haven't given us enough info to really tell you. He just said that he didn't like me trying to talk to her. I just find it so hard to believe that she lost attraction to me, because she was flirting with me the day before she started disappearing LOL. I guess maybe I am a little upset because we were starting to open up to one another, and then without explanation, it ended just as fast as it started. 1
HereNorThere Posted December 18, 2016 Posted December 18, 2016 I know that feel, bro. It's something you have to get used to in this game. Even when you feel it, you can never show it. Like 50% of the time, if you play it cool, they'll come back around. Which is good because it gives me a little time to get their hopes up and drop them on their head like they did me. Seriously, don't you think she's back with ole dude? That seem the most logical answer. They obviously weren't done if he was contacting you. You also mentioned coming out of the relationships. I hope you weren't using courtship behavior with a girl you've just started dating. You gotta play it cool for a while and lay back in the cut. You need to let them come to you. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted December 18, 2016 Posted December 18, 2016 Is this guy actually her ex, or are they still together? It sounds to me like they are not broken up, you were her side attraction, and she got caught. I would forget about her. 2
Author XannyB20 Posted December 18, 2016 Author Posted December 18, 2016 I know that feel, bro. It's something you have to get used to in this game. Even when you feel it, you can never show it. Like 50% of the time, if you play it cool, they'll come back around. Which is good because it gives me a little time to get their hopes up and drop them on their head like they did me. Seriously, don't you think she's back with ole dude? That seem the most logical answer. They obviously weren't done if he was contacting you. You also mentioned coming out of the relationships. I hope you weren't using courtship behavior with a girl you've just started dating. You gotta play it cool for a while and lay back in the cut. You need to let them come to you. yeah she probably is back with him. thats a crappy situation dude lol. I'd feel better if i at least knew WHY it happened. right now, it just feels like a low blow lol 1
Author XannyB20 Posted December 18, 2016 Author Posted December 18, 2016 Is this guy actually her ex, or are they still together? It sounds to me like they are not broken up, you were her side attraction, and she got caught. I would forget about her. To my knowledge, they were broken up. But clearly that wasn't the case. Now I'm left feeling pretty handed lol. She seemed great too 1
ExpatInItaly Posted December 18, 2016 Posted December 18, 2016 It sucks, but it's very good you found out now. You know not to waste any more time with her. 2
Satu Posted December 18, 2016 Posted December 18, 2016 Rebound relationships rarely work out. Take care. 1
PinkPampies Posted December 18, 2016 Posted December 18, 2016 She may be attracted to you, but has a stronger connection. In the future, don't start a relationship with someone so soon out of a relationship, or still in one. Even though they may claim to be over them, they're not truly over them until they've had plenty of time to heal. As far as keeping you on social media, she doesn't want to burn the bridge. Cut all ties because you're only going to get heartbroken if you continue with her. 2
OatsAndHall Posted December 18, 2016 Posted December 18, 2016 Cut ties, ASAP. You don't want any ex/current boyfriend drama., no matter how much you like this woman. Any guy that's going to be angry, gets your number and calls you at 3am is going to cause nothing but problems for you. Plus, she's being sneaky, one way or another. I would imagine he got your number off of her phone which means she's hanging around with him. I will never date a woman who has a jealous ex floating around, even if she's doing everything she can to cut ties with the guy. I know it's not fair to them if they've cut the dude off but I've been down this road before and I won't do it again. 4
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