spiderowl Posted December 18, 2016 Posted December 18, 2016 I'm feeling quite low at the moment. I've been chatting to a guy online for a year. We had an amazing connection and I really doubt I would find better. However, there were problems and we never met and his behaviour seemed disrespectful, especially recently. It seemed like he was trying to wind me and push the limits to the point where I was hurt and exasperated. I decided that despite everything good, he didn't care about me and just wanted company when he wanted it and that was it. So we are not chatting now. It might sound ridiculous but I am going to miss him and it has affected me in that I am not really interested in others. This means I just feel low and with no hope of things improving. He blocked me recently because he didn't want to see me online because he would want to chat if he did. So there is a still a 'pull' on both sides, but I don't want to get back into a hurtful place again. I really felt he was just playing with me. I know many will say it is not a relationship, but it is in some ways - we were relating, chatting, sharing the day's events, ideas, thoughts. I just feel sad and hollow. Even if he wanted to chat again, things are not going to get any better, the same problems would be there. It's just a real shame that the best connection I've felt in years has gone this way. How do you get over the sadness? 1
Satu Posted December 18, 2016 Posted December 18, 2016 snip How do you get over the sadness? I got over it by consciously deciding to embrace it, and go into it, until I felt I'd fully experienced it. It was a period of mourning. The process ran its course until there were simply no more tears to be shed. When you cry, you cry for everyone. Take care. 1
umirano Posted December 18, 2016 Posted December 18, 2016 I sympathize. I'm also feeling like this these days, albeit for slightly different reasons. Can you delve into something that completely occupies your mind? A project? A novel or a computer game? Other people are always a great distraction. Do you have family or a friend who need help remodeling a house or something like that? 2
angel.eyes Posted December 18, 2016 Posted December 18, 2016 Ultimately, time. Time heals all wounds. Be kind to yourself in the meanwhile. 2
BonerFide Posted December 19, 2016 Posted December 19, 2016 I can echo what others have said, give it time. You're bound to miss him at least a little if he was a big part of your life for a year. You seem non-regretful and so it sounds like you did the right thing. Maybe try and spend less time online for a while as you mend and reform who you are without this guy.
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