My GF almost has no sex drive and it ruined our relationship but i still love her

[RealGood]

Backstory. We dated and broke up October 2015. She got a new bf and it didnt work out and she missed me and still loved me. I still loved her and we got back together September 2016.

 

I love her very much. I love spending time with her. Going on dates, cuddling, watching movies, taking trips, etc. She's so much fun to be around. Except there's such a lack of sex. She has no sex drive whatsoever.

 

I tried to explain to her my feelings. Im in love with her and I find her so damn attractive, and I want to be intimate with her. But she says sex isn't everything. I know its not everything but it should be something.

 

She says she wants to do it with me, except when we're about to, she doesn't anymore. She always has an excuse. She'll say "not tonight, but we can this night" and then that night will come and there will be another excuse.

 

Plus, I only got to see her maybe once or twice a week because of school, and she says she doesnt want to use that time to have sex with me. I said we can do other things but I can only see you and I want to be intimate when I can. She still refuses.

 

Its not just sex either. Its anything "sexual". She will let me finger her, but once shes done, she pulls her pants back up and I just sit there frustrated. Its like she has no interest in me at all.

 

Everything about her I love except this one problem and its a big problem. Im super frustrated. Plus, I know couples who are all over each other and I wish we were like that because that how i feel about her.

 

I broke it off for this reason. I told her i cant keep feeling unwanted and having my desires rejected. She just called me a pig and said good luck finding someone who obsessed with sex like I was.

 

I miss her though. A lot and I want to be with her but I know this problem prob will come up again.

 

Should i walk away for good?

 

No sex is a deal breaker. She's definitely using you.

[Methodical]

Hey guys thanks for your input. I talked with her and she said she doesnt think sex is important and she doesn't enjoy it. I kind of figured that because she wouldnt do anything if we ever did. She would never try new positions or really do any foreplay on me. It was always just missionary. She basically told me she doesnt like having men on top of her thrusting and she only does it just so they'll be happy they got "something".

 

These were all red flags. I cant be with someone who doesnt enjoy sex or never wants to do it or when does, theres no passion or emotion involved. She has some issues she needs sorted out and thats not my problem anymore

 

Sexual incompatibility is a dealbreaker. Even if you thought you could make it work, eventually it would wear you thin and most likely resentment would build. None of which are the makings of a happy, stable relationship.