Is it likely that my boyfriend is cheating on me?

[Boyfriend Probs]

We're both 19 and in our first year of college. We've been dating for a year (friends for 3), and are long distance only when I'm away for college. I'm currently back at home for winter break so we're close to each other.

 

I need some help reading my situation. My boyfriend has always been more of a physically affectionate guy. However, in the past week or two he's been abnormally MUCH more affectionate than usual...He kisses me every chance he gets and has his arm around me 95% of the time when we're together. He also has been calling me a lot more often. He even sang me a love song today (he's been saying for months that he would, but he finally did).

 

Maybe my mind is screwing with me and trying to mess up a perfectly good thing, but I need a second opinion. I can't help but wonder if he's feeling guilty about something (whatever this could be, cheating or other). Since about a month ago, he's also started dressing more nicely and buying new clothes, which I've heard is also a sign of cheating. He says it's because he wants to look better now that it's college, but there's a tiny voice in the back of my head that questions this. In addition, I typically only see him once every month bc of the distance. Prior to him acting all lovey-dovey though, I had just seen him slightly over a week ago because of Thanksgiving Break, yet he's even more affectionate now than when we meet after a month of being away from each other. As in, he's more affectionate after not seeing me for ten days than when we hadn't seen each other for four weeks - which is weird.

 

What do you guys think? I can't tell if he's really all of a sudden has found a new appreciation for me, or if something is up. Thank you!!!

[DarrenB]

If he was cheating, I'd imagine he'd be the complete opposite of what he currently is. That can be argued, but it's more common that if your significant other was being deceitful, they'd be the opposite of affectionate and caring. Different but similar views from other perspectives really because everyone's different. I've seen both sides to it so there's no genuine way to tell.

 

I don't think he is. He's probably just feeling better about himself. Unless there's other signs that can provide you some valid evidence that he may be cheating, I think you should just stop worrying and over-reacting.

[salparadise]

What do you guys think? I can't tell if he's really all of a sudden has found a new appreciation for me, or if something is up. Thank you!!!

 

 

Nobody here can tell you anything definitively. They could say yes, they could say no. Either way, you end up knowing nothing more than you already do. Here's what I think... you have zero evidence of anything being wrong, and you have some pretty good evidence that his feelings for you are strong. Don't mess it up by switching to reverse Polish notation. 1 + 1 = 2, not 3

[Ami1uwant]

His behavior would be normal if he hasn't seen you for 3 months when previously he was seeing you around every day.

[butterfly84]

I have had two relationships where a guy cheated on me, so I can only speak to what I noticed if this helps. In those relationships it was more of the opposite - they were becoming more distant/less affectionate and trying to hide things like e-mails or phones when another girl was emailing or texting.

 

Just from your blurb it doesn't sound like anything is going on, but I think if you spend a few days together you'd more likely notice if something was up in person/have a better hunch.

 

hope that helps!

[Boyfriend Probs]

Thanks for all your replies guys! I'm going to let go of my fears and just enjoy the fact that is extra nice lately. If anything weird sticks out to me again, I'll directly ask him about it next time.