Sweetfish Posted December 17, 2016 Posted December 17, 2016 So this is a question that may have some critical debate. I noticed on a couple post, women have talked about marriage and children and I find these traditional values very important, specially when two people are involved with each other. I understand about critical years of bearing kids. I read both men and women media (news, magazines, and internet etc) Do you believe women are more prepped with the idea of marriage and having children and that's why many men may have a fear to commit to such things. I believe in the old "Leave it to Beaver" days it was more traditional for both men and women to look forward to settling down. I think the way society has progressed men are not prepped to give a full on answer to these questions. I see many men literally react to the question as if they are a dear hypnotically gazing into the headlights of a moving suburban. You can open up any Mens magazine or media and marriage and children are like unicorn word. While women media and magazines are loaded with the latest yoga positions for the bearing woman ( a little stretch maybe) Do you see society pushing men and women in two different directions opposed to 30 years ago? Men do you feel pressure when marriage and children talk enters the relationship?
thecrucible Posted December 17, 2016 Posted December 17, 2016 I want to have children at some point. But I wouldn't say I have always wanted this and I worry about certain things like whether I will find the right man to have children with, what impact it will have on my career and free time and that kind of thing. I have spent a lot of time about the practicalities of it and what sacrifices I'll have to make. So yeah I think women experience some fear to commit too. For me it's the fact that my child-bearing years are numbered. I've got to find the right guy! I think I would ask someone I was dating what they are looking for at this stage in their lives. It can be as vague as that. You can always tell when they are in the right mindset too. In my experience, men who are ready to commit will happily tell you that that's what they are looking for within the first few dates (it doesn't mean they want me, they are just looking for someone with the same point of view). I think it's better all round to know where people are coming from when you get involved with them. Someone I know wants to have children with her partner but the partner is on the fence. That situation can be really difficult because you can date a guy for years, waste your productive years and then not settle down. It can be really worrying.
Shanex Posted December 17, 2016 Posted December 17, 2016 Seems I have never been the right guy to the few ladies I was in love with. That said, the feelings were reciprocated but two of my exes while they medically could have had children didn't want any. On the other hand, and shamefully, some other women loved me deeply but I didn't think long-term and the whole commitment that involve marriage and children, it's either bad luck, or I don't date/hang-out enough.
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