jade_98765 Posted December 16, 2016 Posted December 16, 2016 So me and my boyfriend have bern dating for a little over a year. We are 2 hours apart. We met local, dated local for 6 months and will move in together after I finish my schooling. He's been having a really tough time recently, a combination of a really bad cold, finals, money problems and roommate stressors. I've been trying my best to support him, but it can be tough a couple hours away. Yesterday, he was feeling really bad and had a headache on top of his cold. We called and he was grumpy. Which is fine, we just wanted to talk about our days and I figured we'd keep it pretty short. Then he asks, in a very accusatory tone, why I took so long to text him back when he told me he was feeling bad. (Took me 4 hours to respond) I was super confused at first, once i realized what he was talking about I explained that I had been quite busy during that time. He was fine after I explained that but I was a little hurt. During the call I asked him why he didn't think I would be busy when he knows I have things to do, or why he thinks I would ignore his text on purpose. He just chalked it up to being really sick and in a bad mood. We ended the phone call soon after, because I didn't feel like we could really talk. He called again a little later but I was asleep by that point. He apologized in the morning for the not so good conversation and his bad mood. That made me feel a bit better, but it made me feel hurt that he didn't trust me or he didn't think I care enough about him. I really wanted to have this conversation with him last night but now that I slept on it it doesn't seem as important. I just want to know what you guys think. Was he just being a little needy? Does it show that he thinks I don't care enough? Should I have a conversation with him about it latet today? Part of me dosent want to because of all the stuff he's going through right now. Thanks 1
ExpatInItaly Posted December 16, 2016 Posted December 16, 2016 How is the relationship going in general? Have there ever been any trust issues? Who initiates contact and meet-ups most of the time? If the relationship has generally been a healthy one with no problems regarding trust, his comment is a little random. Yes, it might just have been him feeling down and a bit needy, but it's also possible it points to something else on his mind. 1
Raena Posted December 16, 2016 Posted December 16, 2016 Welcome to the "man cold". I'm just kidding but seriously, he was probably just feeling moody because he was sick and wanted to talk but you took awhile to respond. I wouldn't worry about it too much unless he makes a habit of it. 4
smackie9 Posted December 16, 2016 Posted December 16, 2016 Get used to it because this sort of thing will happen from time to time in a relationship. It's all good because he saw the error and apologized....it's when they don't is when you have a problem on your hands. 4
basil67 Posted December 16, 2016 Posted December 16, 2016 Our partners aren't faultless. He was feeling horrible and over-reacted. It's not worth spending another moment thinking about. Just let it go. 5
Satu Posted December 16, 2016 Posted December 16, 2016 People can act out of character when they're feeling unwell. It's a part of the human condition. It's not something that should happen often, though. Take care. 3
Author jade_98765 Posted December 16, 2016 Author Posted December 16, 2016 How is the relationship going in general? Have there ever been any trust issues? Who initiates contact and meet-ups most of the time? If the relationship has generally been a healthy one with no problems regarding trust, his comment is a little random. Yes, it might just have been him feeling down and a bit needy, but it's also possible it points to something else on his mind. Relationship is going pretty well. We have had to work on communication, especially in the beginning, but now that we've done that, it's been going pretty well. It's pretty much half and half for contact. I'm not sure for meet ups. Basically it can only be weekends because I have been busy during the week with school stuff. But the only conversation we have about meets ups is if we can't meet up. 1
Gaeta Posted December 17, 2016 Posted December 17, 2016 You have nothing to be hurt over. No do not bring this back. He was moody and he already apologized. Men can be big needy babies when they're sick. 2
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