vampirebrat Posted December 16, 2016 Posted December 16, 2016 There's a guy I've known on-and-off for a few years, and whenever I'm around him I get the weirdest signals. Most notably, he stares. A lot. Like even if we're in a big group I can feel his eyes boring into me. I've even caught him doing it when his gf was in the same room. The worse one was when I walked past him in town and out of the corner of my eye I saw him checking me out. When his gf was holding his hand. She was not happy I can tell you. Anyway, fast forward a few years. I wonder how he's doing and ask him for a coffee. I thought by then the odd behaviour would have abated. Boy was I wrong. The smooth, gregarious guy I remembered was replaced with a nervous wreck. He spent the entire time fidgeting and jabbering like an agitated monkey. So I had to lean in to hear him, which made him even worse. We finished up at Costa and made our way over to the pub. Where I spent several hours watching him show off in front of the other patrons. He was determined that I saw him performing his card tricks, yet whenever I looked over he would go red and fluff it up. The rest of the time there was spent invading my personal space, making up lame excuses for physical contact and checking my reaction to everything he said. At the end of the day, we shared an uncomfortably long hug/back stroke. There's other stuff as well, but this post is already long enough. So, what do you guys think? 1
Philosoraptor Posted December 16, 2016 Posted December 16, 2016 Sounds like he's had a big crush on you and went goofy when actually having the chance to go out with you. I'm sure he's somewhere thinking "man, I finally got to go out with her and made a complete fool of myself" 1
Satu Posted December 16, 2016 Posted December 16, 2016 Yes, he was very nervous because he has feelings for you. Take care.
OatsAndHall Posted December 16, 2016 Posted December 16, 2016 The guy is into you and didn't know how to handle a date with you. It happens to the best of us. I like to think I'm confident on dates but there have been times when I fell apart. After a few dates, one woman asked me about my former step-sons which is a topic I avoid. She knew I had been married to a woman with kids and it was an innocent question. It went from a fun, relaxing date to me stammering, not making eye contact and then it snowballed from there. She realized it had made me uncomfortable, which made her uncomfortable , etc..etc.. 1
smackie9 Posted December 16, 2016 Posted December 16, 2016 You should just confront him about his behavior....next time you "lean in" touch his hand and say "It's ok, I won't bite....unless you want me too....." 2
kendahke Posted December 16, 2016 Posted December 16, 2016 I see no reason for you to continue in something so painful. 1
loverboy69 Posted December 16, 2016 Posted December 16, 2016 I think that's adorable. He puts her on a pedestal. She's a goddess to him. Girl enjoy it while it lasts! Have fun. He'll come around.
Author vampirebrat Posted December 18, 2016 Author Posted December 18, 2016 (edited) Sounds like he's had a big crush on you and went goofy when actually having the chance to go out with you. I'm sure he's somewhere thinking "man, I finally got to go out with her and made a complete fool of myself" I don't know. =/ I asked him yesterday if he wanted to see a movie sometime, and he just replied saying 'can do'. I don't expect him to be super excited at the prospect of my company. But it just sounds so vague and non-committal. Maybe I'm just reading too much into it, he could just be tired or something. Edited December 18, 2016 by vampirebrat more detail
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