Girl has a boyfriend but acting like she is interested in me?

[Redemptionblue07]

Hey all,

 

So I am a university student and I was interested in this girl in class. Now we are both Polish and one time while walking along the same road she takes with her friend who is a girl she heard me speaking Polish to my parents over the phone and I overheard her mentioning this to her friend and saying "He is cute." Now after this she would keep glancing over at me from time to time while in class so I assumed she was interested, I went and talked with her one time to introduce myself and she got all nervous, normally she is very talkative with others in class.

 

On that same day I talked with her, however, as I was walking along the street on my way to the train station (the two of them are normally ahead of me on the same street), I saw her walking with a guy with their arms linked, and the friend of hers was looking back to see if I was there. Now I have poor eyesight without my glasses from long distances and it was dark so I thought maybe I was just saw another couple.

 

Since I am a pretty shy guy towards girls I am attracted to I decided to back off a bit and just greet her whenever I saw her. After a while she started to talk to my friend in class that sits next to me out of nowhere as if to try and get my attention and started going out the door that's on my end instead of the one closer to hers when we leave class (there's two doorways in the class). She would also keep glancing over at me, so I assumed that since she was acting this way then she probably does not have a boyfriend.

 

So I picked up my courage and asked her out and then she say's she has a boyfriend. Now this just dumbfounded me with the way she was acting and left me confused. Was she just trying to get attention or what?

[browzer]

Doesn't matter what some of her signals to you might mean, because if she's the type to be interested in another guy when she's with her boyfriend, then even if she leaves him for you it will only be a matter of time before you too become another statistic.

[Gloria25]

You know what I'm finally learning in life...?

 

That even though some people have someone in their lives, they still have a wandering eye and/or it's easy for someone else to catch their eye. BUT, that doesn't mean they intend to leave their SO.

 

Me? When I'm happy and all into someone I'm with - NO ONE can catch my eye. And, you'll never catch me making any effort to acknowledge/stare at/chat up/etc. someone besides my SO.

 

So, kudos for having the courage to ask her out and now that she's said she's got a bf, ignore her and move on. Would you like to be with someone who has a wandering eye?

 

IMO, if she genuinely was interested in you, she'd admit that she has a bf but found you interesting and/or attractive. And, then, you should've followed up and ask her then what's her deal with her bf. I wish I'd ask that frank question when someone who was involved with someone showed signs of attraction/interest towards me.

 

Cuz, yes, some people may be unhappy in their RL and may try to test the waters with someone new before deep sixing their SO...BUT, then, that's a tricky line you're on cuz you gotta wonder if they're just playing you cuz they like the attention from you, but won't leave their SO (no matter how unhappy they may be with their SO); you don't wanna disrespect their RL by hanging with them till they decide if they wanna leave their SO; there's a chance they may decide to stick with their SO; and, even "if" they leave their SO for you at some point - you got someone who is capable of chatting with someone else while still with their SO and then you gotta wonder if they'll do that to you.

 

Lastly, if you try to stick around as their "friend" in hopes they one day will get with you if they leave their SO. Then get ready to be disappointed.

 

So, she said she had a bf. Best to just let her be and one day if she's single she should look you up.