Triple T Posted December 15, 2016 Posted December 15, 2016 All, No matter who i meet, at some point i get bored and lose sexual interest. The worst part is when im with someone i tend to think about other women im with or know. I find it impossible to be completely into someone 100%; i feel bad about it but am unable to rectify the situation. Any thoughts?
stillafool Posted December 15, 2016 Posted December 15, 2016 You haven't fallen in love yet. When you do you will beg her to commit.
smackie9 Posted December 15, 2016 Posted December 15, 2016 Compatibility....not just someone who listens to the same music or likes the same colour, but someone who stimulates your brain, who thinks like you but is able to still surprise you....stimulate you intellectually, gives you the right amount of space, someone that "gets" you. You haven't met that person yet....you are too focused on just physical attraction....you need compatibility to sustain for the long haul. 1
Sweetfish Posted December 15, 2016 Posted December 15, 2016 All, No matter who i meet, at some point i get bored and lose sexual interest. The worst part is when im with someone i tend to think about other women im with or know. I find it impossible to be completely into someone 100%; i feel bad about it but am unable to rectify the situation. Any thoughts? You say at some point... what point does it usually happen
kendahke Posted December 16, 2016 Posted December 16, 2016 When you say you're "unable to rectify the situation", does this mean you've also exhausted getting this resolved with a therapist?
Author Triple T Posted December 16, 2016 Author Posted December 16, 2016 Spoke to therapists in the past; not getting much out of them. I am 48 and been dealing with for many years. I think ive lost interest or am becoming cynical. Would like to start a family before its too late; but only if i can find the woman who can capture my interest. Seems very hard to find; most women i meet all have good and bad. None sweep me off my feet; haven't felt like that in a long time.
Sweetfish Posted December 16, 2016 Posted December 16, 2016 Spoke to therapists in the past; not getting much out of them. I am 48 and been dealing with for many years. I think ive lost interest or am becoming cynical. Would like to start a family before its too late; but only if i can find the woman who can capture my interest. Seems very hard to find; most women i meet all have good and bad. None sweep me off my feet; haven't felt like that in a long time. We are not therapists, but more information would greatly help understand you. What im saying is, be selfish and speak your mind and how you feel.
CommittedToThis Posted December 16, 2016 Posted December 16, 2016 most women i meet all have good and bad. Wow, you've been pretty lucky; all of the women I've met have good and bad. All of the men, too. Including myself.
Terry8889 Posted December 17, 2016 Posted December 17, 2016 Maybe you have unrealistic expectations. I dont think it's common for people to be dealing with this issue at your age. If you want to start a family you better do something about it now. Good luck
UltimatePanacea Posted December 19, 2016 Posted December 19, 2016 All, No matter who i meet, at some point i get bored and lose sexual interest. The worst part is when im with someone i tend to think about other women im with or know. I find it impossible to be completely into someone 100%; i feel bad about it but am unable to rectify the situation. Any thoughts? Classic case of commitment phobic personality disorder. This is also known as avoidant attachment style. See a therapist.
UltimatePanacea Posted December 19, 2016 Posted December 19, 2016 Don't pretend to be a professional and diagnose people in here with fake things. You should see a therapist for all the men hate you are throwing out there. Toxic. I am my own therapist dear, I don't hate men, I hate toxic boys who manipulate women and are unable to have a committed mature relationship.
coolheadal Posted December 19, 2016 Posted December 19, 2016 All, No matter who i meet, at some point i get bored and lose sexual interest. The worst part is when im with someone i tend to think about other women im with or know. I find it impossible to be completely into someone 100%; i feel bad about it but am unable to rectify the situation. Any thoughts? Your not emotionally there yet with anyone. Just want to be with women now and then. Until you change and if you do change then you'll always feel this emotional let down. Can't force a commitment on yourself or anyone else until your feel ready. What you have type clearly shows me your have a lot to learn!
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