Mutuals are now deleting me off Facebook

[jakt]

I have maintained NC for what will be 7 days today. My first solid week, alright. I decided to strengthen that commitment to not contacting by blocking her on Facebook about 2 days ago. Because she likes to tag our mutuals (I'm talking like handfuls of them at a time and only mutuals) in a lot of things so that she's still popping up on my feed. It's childish. I recognize what she's doing. It's always about making future plans or bringing up past fun stuff that happened before me and how it should happen again. *cringe*

Anyway. She had deleted my parents and a handful of others from her page. But decided to keep my two best friends. I actually don't care. I know where their loyalty is. I haven't deleted any of hers or her parents. Let her play and show her true self. HOWEVER.

 

Back story:

There was a time way back in the very beginning of our relationship where we broke up for awhile. And she dragged a lot of her friends to the bar. No one really knew me that well yet. And she had a "let's delete" party. And everyone erased me from FB. I lost 20+ people from my list in a span of an hour. So it was noticeable.

 

We got back together. Since then we've all become friends. Close enough that she would encourage us to hangout while she was at work, go out for drinks, etc. Group stuff.

Well. Today my friends list went down by 2. Her best friend and a mutual. We have over 50 mutuals at this point. I'm rolling my eyes because I'm ready for it to happen again.

Despite blocking her, I actually haven't posted on my wall in over a week. So it's not like I'm taunting her in anyway. Not like I'm putting messages out there that I want to get back to her through mutuals. I've been an adult about this. And I have literally done nothing.

So it's just annoying.

Because I imagine the lies she feeding them. Or maybe truths of some messed up stuff I said, but out of context and not the things she said to encourage them or in response. I imagine faux tears over alcohol, "Can we just.. can we just delete him, guys?! I need your support in this. Let's delete him!" /rant

[gorf]

You're hurt and upset by it cause she is showing her last ditch effort to control your feelings. This is about all she can do to control the breakup and you, now that she does not have you. Are you going to let her control you and your feelings?

 

Look at it this way then: She wants to have a delete party and 2 or 50 or 100 people join in with her?? Good. Let them. Now you have her out of your life, and the scum that she spends time with. She may not know it, but she and her childish friends are doing you a favor. Now you got her out of your life, and a bonus is she is taking all the scum with her. So every time one of the 'mutual friends' blocks or deletes you, that is a mutual someone you didn't want around anyway. Now you dont have to wonder who they are. I would sit back quietly and let it happen

 

As for people talking smack cause of rumors etc.. I mean, that will pass. Soon it will be too much. Here she is trashing you, if she decides to its going to happen anyway. But here you are not trashing her. See what I mean? Its going to show through who is the piece of trash with no respect for another person and their image, its going to be her. And people might laugh and smile throug their teeth at her, but she will discredit herself and only make herself look bad. Let it ride

Edited December 16, 2016 by gorf

[sorano]

If the mutual friends were her friends to begin with, and you met them through her, they will never be your friend. They will block you and remove you just like her. Her friends, will never be your friends. I learned that as well and was told by many many people that went through this before me. It is what it is