How does its feel being a single person at a family member's wedding? Do people peste

[Oladeji123]

So my older brother's wedding is coming up next year and I'm already dreading it. Mainly because i will still be single by then and will most likely not even have a plus one. And a lot of people will most likely start asking me about my love life and when i'm gonna get married etc. I've already told myself that i may not even find a girlfriend, let alone a get married until I'm like towards my 30s as i want to focus on my career. My parents of course, don't want to accept that but i just can't see myself getting any luckier with girls. My parents even questioned my sexuality one day because they have never seen me with any kind of girl who wasn't a family member. Im sure you'll say that I'm still young, etc, but by the time my brother was 24, he already was on his 2nd or 3rd girlfriend and he had female friends even before then. And since I'm very much an introvert and like to keep to myself, my family are worried that I'm just gonna stay closed from everyone and focus so much on my career that life would have passed by before i know it. My parents keep telling me about how they are gonna invite certain girls to the wedding but my parents don't know the type of girls i like so most likely won't be attracted to any of them, even if they like me.

[eightytwenty]

Well if it makes you feel any better. I went to my cousins wedding and my then husband went with me.

 

He was a jerk the whole time, acted like he was too good, wouldn't dance, we finally had to go home early because he was embarrassing me. So I rather be single then deal with what I had to. Guess that's why he's now a ex.

[Shining One]

I enjoyed going to weddings when I was single. I almost always found a bridesmaid or another guest to entertain me. Yes, people would ask me about my love life, but I didn't let that bother me.

[GunslingerRoland]

If you've already made up your mind that you won't meet someone before a wedding NEXT YEAR, I think the wedding is hardly the biggest issue.

 

There are lots of single people at weddings and they don't get harassed because most of them are comfortable with the fact they are single.

 

Keep in mind that weddings are a great place to meet other single people!

[Miss Peach]

OP - Are you in a culture where marriage is a big deal and people are pressured (i.e., Indian, Middle Eastern, etc.)

 

I've been to wedding as a single and I just mingle and have fun as I would at any other party. But I could understand the issue within certain cultures. I used to work in a heavily Indian department and they would constantly ask me why I wasn't married.

 

The funniest moment was one of my coworkers told me "You are gorgeous and not difficult so I can't figure out why you're not married".

[Oladeji123]

OP - Are you in a culture where marriage is a big deal and people are pressured (i.e., Indian, Middle Eastern, etc.)

 

I've been to wedding as a single and I just mingle and have fun as I would at any other party. But I could understand the issue within certain cultures. I used to work in a heavily Indian department and they would constantly ask me why I wasn't married.

 

The funniest moment was one of my coworkers told me "You are gorgeous and not difficult so I can't figure out why you're not married".

 

Well, my parents are african and you're kinda supposed to at least starting to think about marriage but i guess because I'm not even bothering about even getting a girlfriend at my age, that's probably why they're concerned.

[Oladeji123]

If you've already made up your mind that you won't meet someone before a wedding NEXT YEAR, I think the wedding is hardly the biggest issue.

 

There are lots of single people at weddings and they don't get harassed because most of them are comfortable with the fact they are single.

 

Keep in mind that weddings are a great place to meet other single people!

 

Its not that i don't want to meet anyone but my circumstances right now and also the luck i have just means i probably won't. And i don't even think i will meet someone at the wedding because the type of girl i like won't be at the wedding

[Oladeji123]

I enjoyed going to weddings when I was single. I almost always found a bridesmaid or another guest to entertain me. Yes, people would ask me about my love life, but I didn't let that bother me.

 

I wouldn't really care if all they did was ask. But my parents have already said that they would invite certain single girls to the wedding in hope that i like one of them but i know i won't. My parents don't know the sort of girls i find attractive

[Tribble]

I feel ya. My brother is getting married next year - but he's younger! Even worse. My Mum keeps going on about how if I'm with someone she'll make sure I get a plus one etc. Yeah right! I was dating someone a couple of months ago and she was fretting over whether the room at the hotel I've booked is a double or a single... Enough to say, me and this guy haven't worked out so he won't be coming along.

 

I think what you have to remember is, your parents want you to be happy. They don't mean to pressure you but it can feel like that sometimes. My parents also questioned my sexuality until I brought my bf to meet them a couple of years ago. But he's really been the one and only. It takes a loooong time for me to develop a relationship so I have no doubt I'll be flying solo at this wedding knowing no-one really but my parents and the married couple.

 

At the end of the day, it's one day. And all focus will be on the wedding and the couple, not you. So you may get some comments. Just remember, they come from a place of love and shrug them off. Have a good time and be open to talking to people. Even if you don't find them attractive or get a date out of it.