The Square One

[WonderKid]

I went back to the square one now. A member on here asked me something I haven't thought of. She said am I attracting the wrong women. Good effing question! Because as I look down the line, to all my exes, not one of them had things in common with me that were important.

 

My ex, she would watch anime with me. She didn't game much. But the uncommon outweighed our connection. I think me not smoking weed was a bigger deal because she felt judged by it. I am more goofy, she could only gauge half my humor. She didn't even share my same views on art unless they were feminist or religious somehow. And if you pay attention to the zodiac signs, she was a Sag and I am a Scorpio. We are not good together whatsoever. She taught me a lot. She taught me ways a woman can be selfish and you'd rarely know it.

 

I am more of an artistic, free thinking, gamer anime guy. I've only two girls like that. One is married (she didn't tell me she was getting married before flirting with me), and the other is taken but still goes out the way to talk to me.

 

I seem to attract single moms a lot. And many women with harsh emotional damage. Like ones that have been abused somehow in the past. My sis is a Scorpio too. But we both have the tendency to accept people for who they are. I think that is where I mess up and end up with incompatible women.

 

One thing I am not trying to get into is using sex to fill a void. It's slowly coming back. I don't want to date anymore because I cannot see the point of me having a GF. I'm running out of room for it. But as a human I will get lonely sometimes. What to do?

[Philosoraptor]

We usually attract based on what we project. I've found that the best way to attract the best fit, is to just put your whole self out there.

 

So what do you put out there? Are you reserved? Do you show certain things, but not others?

 

I won't get into astrology, but it's ridiculous to think that everyone born during the same time period would have similar traits.

[smackie9]

There are plenty of artsy free thing women out there....you are looking in the wrong places....these women are not they type to use OLD, they would be at protest rallies, poetry readings, art exhibits in the shady part of town, hipster coffee shops, comi-con, anime film festival. etc.

 

You definitely won't meet that woman sitting on your sofa playing games.

[WonderKid]

When I lived downtown I visited the cafes and whatnot but not as often as I should I suppose. I was too busy with school and training. My days consist of this.

 

I'll wake up and take care of myself and the house.

If I don't have any work I check out my blogs, social media, gaming status.

If it is winter time, I end up gaming or writing.

If it is warm outside then I'm out there surfing around parks to play basketball

I don't train like I used to, usually I did that in the morning

Weekends I will visit old friends or do more writing

When I don't want to write at home (which I am getting out of the habit of doing) I go to the library

Then I night I just check my messages again

 

It seems like I do get out more but I don't go to the right places

Parks, gyms, library, and certainly OLDing is not working. Now I have seen "some" ladies like that on OLD sites but they are bone crazy or very introverted.

I stay in west MI. Once the winter kicks in here it gets crazy.

 

I've been looking into MeetUps though. I am wondering if they work.

[WonderKid]

I have made sure I closed down all the OLD sites. Even ones that would pop up in my email. I still keep my social medias because I don't look to date from those. Lol

But what I am planning to do for next year is to revert to how I was before I met my ex. I was single and on the brink of getting my mental together until she came.

 

So I'll focus on getting out the house way more. Even though it is winter, I am going to make it my mission to be out. Because sometimes staying in the house can create a very limited world for you. I'm not going to focus on dating or anything. I'll just focus more on my happiness, what I want more of in life, and take it from there.