Remystacks Posted December 15, 2016 Posted December 15, 2016 I've got to ask all you happily married or engaged gentlemen.. what was it about your lady/man that sealed the deal? What made you make the decision to ask this person to be your partner for life? I'd love to hear your stories about why they are the one for you...
gaius Posted December 15, 2016 Posted December 15, 2016 Framing it as a decision would be kind of inaccurate. I knew pretty early on. When we first met here and started talking we had this incredibly raw, deep emotional and sexual connection. Like nothing I had ever experienced before. We just fit together like some perfect puzzle piece. I had to see if it translated into real life. Once I found out it did that was it. The thing with us is there wasn't really any choice in the matter. I don't think we could stay away from each other if we tried. To me, to not have her in my bed, by my side, to not talk to her and touch her is unpalatable. She can't just be my girlfriend because that would suggest our bond is something less than it is. I want her, and everyone around us to know that we'll still be making passionate love and memories years from now. Spending what time we have here together. That it's me and her. 7
JHandy Posted December 15, 2016 Posted December 15, 2016 (edited) What I find cool about being married to the right babe, the notion we are partners in crime so to speak. I agree with everything the previous poster said, but I'll add what makes my marriage enjoyable is how the two of us work together. Too many couples keep things from each other and a distrust builds. For me, what seals the deal is how much a compadre my wife wants to be in this life. Are we both doing everything we can to grab as much life we can? That's where I feel I scored! The best thing is the two of us strive to appear as vanilla as we can but then secretly get down and dirty. And we are both doing it - trying to get away with it. Just like partners in crime. Generally there are far to many enemies of a happy and rich marriage out there. Trying to have a happy marriage is an uphill battle at times. The two of you need to be on the same side of this battle with your own unique comradery. Being too careful sucks. What I like is the two of us knowing exactly where the two of us want to be, then taking the most amazingl journey getting there, if that means you end up stumbling and tripping over every obstacle. If we get there all bruised up, hair a mess and covered head to to with mud and we look at each other laughing historically and completely out of breath and can give each other a big hug and a passionate kiss, we've done well. The way I see it, my wife has to be my bestest friend ever. The two of us Knowing things about the other and about ourselves, no one will ever know, and frankly could never comprehend. The true story of a couples' marriage should truly stunn the people who surround that couple. It just means the two of you lived, loved and laughed. Edited December 15, 2016 by JHandy 1
Mr. Lucky Posted December 15, 2016 Posted December 15, 2016 Framing it as a decision would be kind of inaccurate. I knew pretty early on. When we first met here and started talking we had this incredibly raw, deep emotional and sexual connection. Like nothing I had ever experienced before. We just fit together like some perfect puzzle piece. I had to see if it translated into real life. Once I found out it did that was it. Boy, not sure I've ever seen this expressed so well. For me, it was less of a decision and more of a realization. The proposal was just a formal statement of that we already knew to be true ... Mr. Lucky 1
Woggle Posted December 15, 2016 Posted December 15, 2016 I am a good judge of character and I knew she was a good woman who would make a good partner and my life would be better with her in it. Before I met her I swore I would never marry again but when she came along I knew she was different. 1
central Posted December 15, 2016 Posted December 15, 2016 What sealed the deal was very deep and wide-ranging compatibility, combined with intense sexual chemistry. Just being a good person isn't enough, IMO, even if there is great chemistry. Lasting, great relationships require higher standards of compatibility, especially when times get difficult. We are at 17 years, the compatibility is unchanged - and the intense sexual chemistry also persists (even though we've slowed down - a little). 1
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