lovechunker Posted December 15, 2016 Posted December 15, 2016 So I've been talking to this girl for for about a week. Not that long. Need some insight... We met on tinder so I slow rolled it and started with a coffee date, partly because I'm not into the hookup aspect of tinder and because I wanted to vet her out first. We laughed a ton and had a good time. She texted me after saying I had a great time. Thanks for coffee! with a blushing emoji...blah blah blah Anyways, at one point in the date she says "where are all the single guys it's tough when you get older cuz all the good people our age are taken. (were 28) Then she asks me if I have any single friends. She definitely flirts with me but very non committal about it. How should I take this? Is this just a case of a woman being a woman. Or is she not interested in me? Or is she playing games by flirting but then asking a question like this?
angel.eyes Posted December 15, 2016 Posted December 15, 2016 So I've been talking to this girl for for about a week. Not that long. Need some insight... We met on tinder so I slow rolled it and started with a coffee date, partly because I'm not into the hookup aspect of tinder and because I wanted to vet her out first. We laughed a ton and had a good time. She texted me after saying I had a great time. Thanks for coffee! with a blushing emoji...blah blah blah Have you asked her on a second date? Or is the plan to navel gaze and micro-analyze every comment until she gives up and moves on to someone else who is more assertive and self-assured?
LostOnes05 Posted December 15, 2016 Posted December 15, 2016 That was her way of saying, "WELCOME TO THE FRIEND ZONE"...
Author lovechunker Posted December 15, 2016 Author Posted December 15, 2016 Haha at "naval gazing". Gotta be honest I'm on the fence about her anyways because she mentioned that "most of her friends are guys" and thats not a good thing in my experience. Usually not good girlfriend material. Yes, asked her on a second date. She was into it, so we shall see. Thanks for comments!
Author lovechunker Posted December 15, 2016 Author Posted December 15, 2016 @lostones05 Experience with this or just trolling? Some chicks that don't feel like they can get a good guy, take the approach of trying to fit in with guys and then after you've made your move they turn into this super feminine woman who was just scared to act that way because they aren't confident in themselves. I'm on the fence with her. Definitely a red flag that most her friends are guys tho. Could totally be looking to add another to her clique of orbiters.
LargoLagg Posted December 15, 2016 Posted December 15, 2016 Tindering a girl for a whole week? I understand that this screams "I shouldn't really be on Tinder! Send me to match.com!"
angel.eyes Posted December 15, 2016 Posted December 15, 2016 Haha at "naval gazing". Gotta be honest I'm on the fence about her anyways because she mentioned that "most of her friends are guys" and thats not a good thing in my experience. Usually not good girlfriend material. Yes, asked her on a second date. She was into it, so we shall see. Thanks for comments! Great! The best way to figure out interest: if she says yes and shows up for a second date. Everything else is speculation about a complete stranger. That tends to be pretty inaccurate. Let us know how date #2 goes.
angel.eyes Posted December 15, 2016 Posted December 15, 2016 Tindering a girl for a whole week? I understand that this screams "I shouldn't really be on Tinder! Send me to match.com!" Not trying to give you a hard time, OP, but you're coming across as uncertain of yourself, unsure, and hesitant. That tends to kill attraction and interest, especially early on. When I did OLD, I just moved on to the next guy who was genuinely enthusiastic and excited to date me. The same was true if I met a guy the old-fashioned way--through hobbies or my social circle. Why waste time with someone who, at best, was ambivalent at the outset when I could be with someone who thinks I'm the best thing since sliced bread?
TheTraveler Posted December 15, 2016 Posted December 15, 2016 Haha at "naval gazing". Gotta be honest I'm on the fence about her anyways because she mentioned that "most of her friends are guys" and thats not a good thing in my experience. Usually not good girlfriend material. Yes, asked her on a second date. She was into it, so we shall see. Thanks for comments! keep being on the fence and judgmental GL
Author lovechunker Posted December 17, 2016 Author Posted December 17, 2016 Thanks for all the responses. No date two yet, but she basically forced me to meet up with her last night and I took her back to my place after the bars. Both were pretty drunk but sober enough to know what we were doing. Did the dirty. But anyways, she was all about sucking my D and would kiss me and stuff (all over) but when we kissed on the lips she kept hers really tight. It was weird. Basically, trying to a french would have been fort knox. Never experienced something like that. Enjoyed out time tho. no clue where this is going but only one way to find out.
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