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Yes, he does have what sounds to be a decent full-time job, in an office. It does involve being at a computer for a lot of the day, but I doubt he would game there, because ... who's that brazen, and what job tolerates that?

 

From what I can tell he's not a grandma's basement type. He has his own place, car, etc.

 

It is very possible he does game at work. Otherwise he is doing about 10 hrs a day after work? When does he do anything else...

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It is very possible he does game at work. Otherwise he is doing about 10 hrs a day after work? When does he do anything else...

 

Others in this thread with gaming experience have pointed out that the 75-hour figure could very well be completely unreliable. That I shouldn't jump to conclusions based on it.

 

Of course there's also the slight (well, I hope slight) possibility that it's accurate. In which case, yes, he would spend nearly all of his waking hours outside of work gaming. If his addiction level is that high I imagine it won't take me too long to catch wind of it, at which point I'd be outta there very quickly.

 

I definitely intend to bring up gaming on our next date. I'll probably press him on his hobbies until we land on gaming and can get into it. I don't think I'd directly reveal my Google finds.

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Please post what the game is so we can confirm whether those are real logged hrs...

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Guess I'm the only person who's kinda weirded out that you googled this guy... If you want to know more about him, why don't you just talk to him?

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Guess I'm the only person who's kinda weirded out that you googled this guy... If you want to know more about him, why don't you just talk to him?

 

It is the smartest thing you can do when you meet someone. A lot you can gather online...more than what most people would tell you.

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No one else googles or goes to mugshot? LOL I do it to random people to just see what comes up..

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Well im a gamer I play like 10 hours a day but thats because I am lonely,depressed and work wont start again until late January gaming is a way for me to escape all my problems when I go back to work I choose working over gaming and if I had a girlfriend I will choose her waaay more over gaming

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The games he plays most are Fallout4 and Civilization.

 

Response to the Googling criticism: I think with someone you've just started dating that's fair game these days if not standard protocol. I'll bet he's done the same for me.

 

We met online. Big picture I really know very little about him. And let's face it, sometimes bad stuff does happen with Internet strangers so I don't see any harm into doing some minor research.

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Maybe if you dated him, he wouldn't have so many hours on a game,

Maybe he's passing time and saving money, doing both all the same.

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Guess I'm the only person who's kinda weirded out that you googled this guy... If you want to know more about him, why don't you just talk to him?
It's just one of those things that women are allowed to do, but when a man does it, it's creepy and borderline stalking.
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Response to the Googling criticism: I think with someone you've just started dating that's fair game these days if not standard protocol. I'll bet he's done the same for me.

 

We met online. Big picture I really know very little about him. And let's face it, sometimes bad stuff does happen with Internet strangers so I don't see any harm into doing some minor research.

 

People google, FB, etc. all the time. It is the norm now days, if not, it will be soon and why wouldn't you? I do ALL THE TIME. It has also helped me find clearer pictures of some of the people I've dated.

 

It's just one of those things that women are allowed to do, but when a man does it, it's creepy and borderline stalking.

 

I, a guy, have never heard there to be a double standard on this.

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Civilization is actually the game I usually have in the background Standard. Either that or Rome Total War. If his bosses and IT guys aren't anal it's very possible he has it running all day at work and just takes a few turns here and there.

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People google, FB, etc. all the time. It is the norm now days, if not, it will be soon and why wouldn't you? I do ALL THE TIME. It has also helped me find clearer pictures of some of the people I've dated.

 

 

 

I, a guy, have never heard there to be a double standard on this.

 

 

If anyone told me they said they knew how many hours i did X. That is in a cateorgory of bordline stocking.

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If anyone told me they said they knew how many hours i did X. That is in a cateorgory of bordline stocking.

 

It's really not. It's not like she's sitting outside his window cataloguing his video game sessions. She Google'd him, which is a pretty common thing to do nowadays, most of the results related to video games so she clicked on a link, it said how many hours he had logged. Big deal.

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First a question for those who might be in the know: Is it possible at least some of those hours are times when the screen is on but he isn't actively playing? In other words could that figure be completely misleading?

 

Yes, entirely possible. Some games log you out automatically but lots of them just let you AFK indefinitely. Some people have the habit of leaving a game on when they're at work or asleep. I don't even do that but I have more than double the number of hours on my games than I actually play, because sometimes I can't be arsed to leave and restart it all the time, so I just leave it in the background sometimes if I'm going to be cooking dinner or doing a couple hours of work or going out for a short time or such.

 

I mean, it's possible that he genuinely IS addicted, but I can't see how that wouldn't reveal itself real quick in other ways. Is he employed full-time? Does he express interest in going out on dates? Does he have any other hobbies?

 

Edit: I just saw your last post - you can AFK all day in Civ or Fallout 4 if you wanted to.

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I used to date a gamer and kind of hated it.

 

However, now I actually work at a video game company, and while most of the people who also work there are "core gamers," most seem to have balanced lives with SOs and outside hobbies, etc.

 

As others have said, there could be a big difference between hours played and hours logged in, so it's in your best interest, if you like this guy, to not make snap judgements. Just don't get into a relationship with him thinking you'll be able to change him later on, 'cause that never works too well. If you really don't want to date a gamer, then don't.

 

I agree with you, good suggestion.

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However, now I actually work at a video game company, and while most of the people who also work there are "core gamers," most seem to have balanced lives with SOs and outside hobbies, etc.

 

Yeah, the majority of gamers I know have pretty full/balanced lives - decent jobs, SOs, friends, everything that a healthy person would have really. It's a bit of a misconception that gaming hinders that, or that gamers are all necessarily living in their mom's basement with no job, relationships or other hobbies. Sure, addiction would be a problem, but one can get addicted to pretty much anything, including TV, football, etc.

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The games he plays most are Fallout4 and Civilization.

 

Response to the Googling criticism: I think with someone you've just started dating that's fair game these days if not standard protocol. I'll bet he's done the same for me.

 

We met online. Big picture I really know very little about him. And let's face it, sometimes bad stuff does happen with Internet strangers so I don't see any harm into doing some minor research.

 

 

You know some people do make a living at being professional gamers and do a lot of testing for software companies

 

Hell I would bet many of us would love to have a job being a gamer. It sure beats manual labor when it is 40 below outside. lol.

 

Don't get too hung up on him being a Gamer. I play GTA Online and spend a lot of downtime doing it but nowhere near what a professional gamer does.

 

You never know, OP. He might turn out more interesting than you imagine.

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