AgustAlsinga Posted December 14, 2016 Posted December 14, 2016 (edited) I don't know. I'm a little stumped and could use an outsider perspective on this situation. A problem. Do we need a backstory? Nah. How about a brief description, bullet pointed for easy viewing? (I don't really know how to create bullet points.) .Work with girl. Small talked for over a year before asking her out. .Went on a date. Smooth, real smooth as I've known her for a while. Shared a kiss at the end. .She started texting me daily. Morning, goodnights texts. I'm not really about that life. (Texting all day life.) Okay. Bullet pointing done. I tried to get her out again. @ work (Over the weekend. Friday/Saturday?) I asked her if she wanted to have dinner Tuesday. She said she would check her schedule and let me know. Monday came around and I told her not to worry about it as I had made other plans but I would love to take her out over the weekend I just didn't know what days I closed at work yet. She replied with the same message that she would check her schedule and let me know. (This never happened. Though we were still communicating daily over text.) That Sunday I told her that her communcation had to change or we would never see eachother outside of work and if that's what she wanted I had no problem with that just let me know. She said "I'm sorry, I'll try my best going moving". I replied with "It's not about trying. It's a matter if you want to or don't want to. She replied "Ok. I'll stand by my word and do what I say I'll do. Something along those lines. We continue to text. Wednesday comes around and I tell her that I'll be across the street from work at a friends how and to text me a few minutes before she was leaving so I could swing by and say hi. She replied with "Ok, I'll text you later when I'm about to get off." That never happened and in the two weeks since then we have yet to text. When this happened I took it as she obviously didn't want anything to do with me. I was ok with this. I just wished she would of communicated this to me before wasting more of my time. So we've seen each other a few times since this has happened at work. My demeanor has only changed in that I haven't gone out of my way to communicate with her. I'll say hi, how's it going. bye etc when I see her. Nothing beyond that. However her demeanor has been of anger/avoidance/ignoring me in non verbal cues. Cues that I've given my ex that I dislike. So I'm a little confused. Shouldn't I be the one who's mad because you didn't follow through and haven't said a thing to me about it since then? What yall think? Cheers. Edited December 14, 2016 by AgustAlsinga
strawberryshortstack Posted December 14, 2016 Posted December 14, 2016 I don't think it matters who has a right to be mad and who doesn't. She doesn't seem interested - you should move on. 2
Philosoraptor Posted December 14, 2016 Posted December 14, 2016 Could be multiple things. She could have just been blowing you off and didn't want to tell you directly that she wasn't interested. It also could be that she was genuinely forgetful, in which a lot of pressure was created in your conversation back and forth before she went silent. Regardless, it is what it is now. There is a lot of friction. Not worth wasting time or energy pondering. No one knows her reasons, and she doesn't seem inclined to clarify things.
Karma24 Posted December 15, 2016 Posted December 15, 2016 I guess be glad that she's not texting you anymore?
Mystique01 Posted December 15, 2016 Posted December 15, 2016 Soooo....what exactly is the problem here? This girl was flakier than a croissant in Paris. She obviously wasn't interested enough to follow through on ANYTHING! Who cares why she's acting cold/mad/distant? She's a flake. I say good riddance. Something tells me that you might still hold a torch for her if you're worrying about her actions (ignoring you, etc). Trust me, MOVE ON. If it's THIS hard to even nail her down for a 2nd date, can you imagine how difficult it would be to date this girl seriously? Trust me, a girl who is really interested in a guy doesn't behave in this manner. She's being a flake. Have some self respect and move on. She's not worth the time/energy. You gave her more than enough chances.
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