I'm really shy and this girl contacted me on FB. Help!

[Jacobbb]

Hello guys,

I would be really glad if you take the time to read this story and give me your opinion on it. I don't really expect you to help me in any way but just say what you think.

First of all I am a guy, 18 years old. I've been always considered as an attractive guy, with well proportioned face and body, I could say that girls like me. My biggest disadvantage is that i am really shy, that means i never make the first step in the relationship, i just don't really know what to do.

So this girl texted me on facebook, i didn't know who she was, she wasn't in my friend list. She was really attractive. We texted a lot the first day, she wasn't really flirting but i could see she was interested in me. I was kinda teasing her to show her that i'm also interested. The next few days we were texting a lot less. One day she starts the conversation, the next day I do. After a week of texting we suddenly stopped. 10 days we didn't have a single conversation and I kinda forgot about her. Then she texted me and we started again. We started sending pictures of ourselves and I started liking her a lot. She was really smart and funny. We started texting a lot more than before, every day actually, at least 1-2 hours. I started falling for her but i realised that sometimes when i ask her what is she doing she was saying something like "i'm texting a guy from Italy, he is so funny" and things like that. I thought that she might want me to ask her out and i was almost ready to do it but i had a lot of work these days so i told her that if i wasn't so busy i would take her out. She seemed interested. But then again she started sending me screenshots of some random pictures in facebook but i could see on the left corner every time a messenger icon with the picture of some guy on it. I started to feel sad about it. I didn't know what she meant. The next day the same. She even started asking me for pick up lines if she ever needs to use them on a guy. I was really disappointed so the next day she asked me if i was doing something and i answered "yea i am doing my homework" so she told me that she will leave me to finish my homework and i told her alright (i actually wanted to have a conversation with her but i was kinda mad at her). And suddenly she stopped texting me. I felt really weird but i also didn't wanna text her because i don't know what she is feeling and i don't know if she is saying the same things to 10 more guys like me. I told myself "she will text me again in a week and we'll see what happens" but no, she didn't text me anymore. It's been a month and she still hasn't. I feel weird now because now i can't stop thinking about her, even though i felt like she was using me. But I also feel it's wrong to text her again, because i am really emotional and i don't know if she is going to hurt me

[DarrenB]

Hi,

 

Welcome to Loveshack!

 

I'll speak from personal experience, what you're currently invested in is one of those flings that we all have been through. You find someone attractive, it's requited and then you begin a saga of sending texts, getting to know each other and growing an attachment to them. Sound familiar?

 

I think from her perspective, she saw the whole scenario with you as something she could have a bit of fun with. Unfortunately, there's always atleast one of the two people who becomes say, 'emotionally attached' to them. Perhaps like you are with her.

 

You stated it's been over a month since she last made contact with you. I think that's a clear and abrupt answer to your question: 'Is she still interested in me?'. I don't think you should send a text or anything for that matter. She's been clear with her actions, even if you don't think that. She's essentially already given you an answer w/o actually giving you one, which again answers your rhetorical question of 'is she going to hurt me?'

 

I think you need to just take this on the chin and occupy your mind with something other than her. No provoking, quit the shenanigans and continue finding someone else. Besides, at the age of 18 (believe me I KNOW), a relationship or long-term fling should be the very least of your troubles.

 

You'll overcome this small upset

[VeveCakes]

You have never met her.

 

She seems to like to message random people and probably gets off on the attention.

 

It's better to focus on things that are real, like in person. Work on your confidence and that will help break down your shyness. Don't put all your hopes in an online romance before meeting the person.

 

Shyness is something that can be changed, I have done it myself.

[TheTraveler]

Look at the positive. You just learned at the age of 18 texting all day and all night everyday is a big waste of time. Next time, ask to hang out.

[Poe77]

Hello guys,

I would be really glad if you take the time to read this story and give me your opinion on it. I don't really expect you to help me in any way but just say what you think.

First of all I am a guy, 18 years old. I've been always considered as an attractive guy, with well proportioned face and body, I could say that girls like me. My biggest disadvantage is that i am really shy, that means i never make the first step in the relationship, i just don't really know what to do.

So this girl texted me on facebook, i didn't know who she was, she wasn't in my friend list. She was really attractive. We texted a lot the first day, she wasn't really flirting but i could see she was interested in me. I was kinda teasing her to show her that i'm also interested. The next few days we were texting a lot less. One day she starts the conversation, the next day I do. After a week of texting we suddenly stopped. 10 days we didn't have a single conversation and I kinda forgot about her. Then she texted me and we started again. We started sending pictures of ourselves and I started liking her a lot. She was really smart and funny. We started texting a lot more than before, every day actually, at least 1-2 hours. I started falling for her but i realised that sometimes when i ask her what is she doing she was saying something like "i'm texting a guy from Italy, he is so funny" and things like that. I thought that she might want me to ask her out and i was almost ready to do it but i had a lot of work these days so i told her that if i wasn't so busy i would take her out. She seemed interested. But then again she started sending me screenshots of some random pictures in facebook but i could see on the left corner every time a messenger icon with the picture of some guy on it. I started to feel sad about it. I didn't know what she meant. The next day the same. She even started asking me for pick up lines if she ever needs to use them on a guy. I was really disappointed so the next day she asked me if i was doing something and i answered "yea i am doing my homework" so she told me that she will leave me to finish my homework and i told her alright (i actually wanted to have a conversation with her but i was kinda mad at her). And suddenly she stopped texting me. I felt really weird but i also didn't wanna text her because i don't know what she is feeling and i don't know if she is saying the same things to 10 more guys like me. I told myself "she will text me again in a week and we'll see what happens" but no, she didn't text me anymore. It's been a month and she still hasn't. I feel weird now because now i can't stop thinking about her, even though i felt like she was using me. But I also feel it's wrong to text her again, because i am really emotional and i don't know if she is going to hurt me

 

 

Ok first off you need a headline on this thread you will get a lot more responses if you add one..next walls of text will also put a lot of people off

try to break up your posts into paragraphs not trying to be a grammar Nazi honesty just trying to get you more responses!

 

Now onto the issue at hand were was this girl from? at least in your area? usually when I get those really random friends requests I just ignore them unless I can some how tie the person into one of my groups or a friend of a friend kinda thing to much random scamming going on on line anymore that said if she was telling you about other guys? that leaves us with a few options none of them very promising im afraid.

 

One she prob friend zoned you or she was trying to make you jealous? you guys are kinda young so I wouldn't put it past a girl her age to play those kinda games its now been a month with zero contact? so to me that means she saw she wasn't going to easily push your buttons or get what ever she wanted so shes moved on to other random guys on line.

 

That brings me to another option who knows this could be a regular game she plays to get stuff from all these guys wouldn't be the first time ive herd of women doing that on line..

 

OP block her delete her from your phone and be thankful she never got her fangs in all the way I know it kinda sucks but chalk it up to a leaning experience not to get to invested in random strangers on line I do hope you never gave out much personal info?

[smackie9]

As the saying goes......if it seems too good to be true, then it is.

 

Never invest in someone who you have never met AND always be cautious of strangers hitting you up on line.....have you not ever heard of catfishing? There's a lot of it that goes on. I remember one thread that a guy had a LDR with what he thought was a girl (for 3 years!)....it turned out to be some guy, The catfisher finally revealed the news with a fatal blow to the guy's heart. I tell ya he was so hurt he wanted to kill himself. Don't be that guy....always scrutinize whom you communicate with on line.

[bachdude]

I'm thinking you may have had an encounter with a scam artist.

 

 

These are women or guys posing as attractive women looking to develop an online relationship. Once they hook the guy they give a sob story and ask for you to wire money.

 

 

When you said you were doing homework, whoever it was realized you wouldn't have any money to send and they went on to the next victim.

 

 

Maybe, maybe not. But that was my first reaction.