S7182 Posted December 14, 2016 Posted December 14, 2016 (Please excuse the length) I'm a sophomore in high school and my (ex) boyfriend and I had been dating for 2 months. For the first month in a half it was amazing... Words cannot describe how well we got along, and how strong our feelings for eachother were. I had Never been happier and neither had he. I was seeing him every weekend and each time we were together we fell deeper for eachother. I spent so much time at his house parents loved me and his mom treated me like a daughter. He was very confident about our relationship, so much so he talked about spending his life with me. At first I was critical. But I'm a person with anxiety and he provided so much safety and I felt so secure I gave in. I started believing the things he said. We were such a good fit it felt like we were meant to be together. However things started to change. When we were first dating my volleyball season was in full swing, and I was super busy. But I made time for him and it wasn't a problem at all. His basketball season started in the middle of November and at first it didn't make a difference, but he started pulling away. He no longer wanted to talk to me on the phone, stopped texting as much, and it just felt different. I didn't care about us not talking all the time but he didn't seem to be putting in the effort he could've been. The first time I brought it up he said it was just because things aren't always going to be like they were in the beginning, and he was too busy, and we didn't need to talk all the time anymore... But he didn't even put in the effort to maybe call me once a week. I didn't feel good about us anymore and I was starting to become unhappy and anxious. Every time I brought up the problem he would get upset with me and I'd back down before saying what I wanted. Things were still great when we hung out, but last weekend he cancelled the plans we had on Friday and never gave a reason. Then on Saturday we still had a good time but he cut the time we were supposed to be together really short. At this point I wasn't ok with the way things were and I kept trying to talk about it but nothing ever changed, he would just get mad and I would apologize for doubting him. Finally a week ago I had barely spoken to him all day and I was so upset I blew up. He got so unbelievably angry. I backed down immediately but he said it was the last straw and that he told me the same thing over and over and I just didn't get it. We tried to work it out but he said after that he didn't feel the same about me. I kept trying to get him to talk to me on the phone about it but this was all over text which made it so much worse. He seemed to be trying to fix it but said I had made it too difficult. I was willing to change and not want so much attention if it meant not losing him. But Saturday he dumped me, over text he told me I was an amazing gf but he didn't feel the same and was too busy now. I was and still am devastated. I miss him so much because he was so good to me (especially at first) when I look back. I've spoken to him a few times since and I explained to him what I had really wanted but it was too late. He already seems to be over me... I don't know how..I'm starting the NC rule now.. Does this work? Do I have any chance?
bluepanox Posted December 14, 2016 Posted December 14, 2016 Start NC. It is the only way to heal trust me. I have panic disorder too. You need to learn how to live without him. Once you have achieved inner peace and are confident in yourself, then you can decide if you want him back.
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