Tell me I'm doing the right thing

[rosierose87]

Today is Day 26 NC.

 

The 4th week has been the hardest. I've been missing him so much, but I've stuck at NC.

 

Today I logged into Steam for the first time in ages to see if the Christmas sales are up yet (they weren't) and my ex messaged me the second I logged on. I was hoping he wasn't online but yeah... :/

 

This is what he said:

 

Him: hello?

Him: sorry to message you if the last thing you want is a message from me, but I just thought I'd say hi and wish you well. I hope you're doing utterly fantastically

Him: and having a lovely holiday in preparation for christmas

Him: I've missed talking to you so so much

Him: and I hope everyone is okay

Him: you and your family too

Him: anyway I'll shut up now sorry

Him: please take care

 

A few minutes after that it said he was typing again but then he stopped.

 

I ignored it all and logged off. It makes me feel like such a b****. He's been sending breadcrumbs constantly this last month and all I've done is ignore him.

 

All I want to do more than anything is talk to him, but he broke my heart and ended up in a relationship with someone else a week later.

 

Please tell me I'm doing the right thing by ignoring him. It's not out of spite. The last words I ever said to him were that I wish him happiness and he has my blessing. I'm still in love with him and want him to leave his rebound and come back to me, and I'm worried I'm pushing him away by ignoring him when he's trying to talk to me so much. I feel terrible about it and need some encouragement that sticking to NC is the right thing.

[Satu]

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Today is Day 26 NC.

 

All I want to do more than anything is talk to him, but *he broke my heart and ended up in a relationship with someone else a week later.

 

Please tell me I'm doing the right thing by ignoring him.**The last words I ever said to him were that I wish him happiness and he has my blessing.

 

*You are doing the right thing. He's hurt you too much, and doesn't deserve the privilege of being listened to by you.

 

Is there some way you can block him, so that you don't receive these messages?

 

**When all the words have been said, there are no words to be said. Let your last words be your last words.

 

Focus on your healing.

 

 

Take care.

[Trinity_84]

You are doing the perfect thing. Just keep following your heart, he'll be a distant memory sooner than you think.

[Zahara]

In your last thread, after a month of NC (October), the same thing happened. NC was broken via Steam. It would be best for you to disconnect from Steam, block him. You know it's a way that he can connect with you and maybe deep down you wanted to hear from him.

 

If he wants to come back to you, he will come to you, Steam or not. Sabotaging yourself isn't going to help you heal.