VeveCakes Posted December 15, 2016 Posted December 15, 2016 I don't think expecting someone to not handle raw chicken inappropriately and not have their crotch smell like **** is over the top at all. I agree with you on the dishes too OP. UGH I hate that. Hello clean water rinse... anyways, sounds like she is maybe lazy... 4
Lady2163 Posted December 15, 2016 Posted December 15, 2016 A friend's son plays high school basketball. One thing that horrifies me is,during games his teammates and he will use their HANDS to wipe their shoes. It can be a nervous thing, but the bottom of shoes, even basketball shoes which are only worn in the gym are FILTHY. The son was laughing it off until I asked him about the urinals in the locker room. He realized the dozens of time he's stood in urine residue and then touched his shoes with his bare hands and then the basketball and then others have done the same.... You could have handled the bedroom scene better. You already know that. And you now know a way to get a girl to break up with you.
seekingpeaceinlove Posted December 15, 2016 Posted December 15, 2016 (edited) OP, I think you are perfectly reasonable in your expectations. Bad hygiene is a deal breaker for me and I (unless spontaneous sex) make sure I'm 120% clean before sex. Even if the sex is in the heat of the moment..I am well aware of my body and would not let a guy go down unless I know I'm decent. I would also be weary of eating someone's cooking knowing they weren't preparing the food safely. Ugh, I'm sorry but that is so disgusting that you smelled sh*t when near your ex' crotch. Foul. It's a good thing that you two broke up if she thinks you suggesting a shower is trying to "change" her. Can you imagine her reaction to any other suggestions in the future? Not compatible..move on! Edited December 15, 2016 by seekingpeaceinlove 2
5x5 Posted December 15, 2016 Posted December 15, 2016 5 x 5, I work in healthcare and I not only wash my hands when I come home, but remove all my uniform, have a shower, hairwash and complete change of clothes. Some of my clients suffer with incontinence, which is not their fault but I certainly don't want eau de wee wee on me any longer than necessary Given the same situation I would do the same. That said since I don't work in healthcare (and only know two other people who do), unless my hands felt dirty or appeared visibly dirty, I certainly wouldn't wash them on arriving at home. I figure washing ones hands before and after food preparation, eating, going to the toilet, plus whenever they otherwise get dirty is normally enough.
HorseLuck Posted December 15, 2016 Posted December 15, 2016 (edited) I wash my hands when I get home. Aside from the fact that I work with chemicals, I also use public transportation so I can't comprehend not doing so. OP, I would've made mention of it as well. The fact you stated you "smell poo" sounds a bit immature and likely did offend her- granted she was probably tired of hearing your suggestions, and grew more stubborn by the hour. But..it's also quite humorous. I prefer to have a partner who can handle a certain level of bluntness though. Let her go. Edited December 15, 2016 by HorseLuck 1
guest572 Posted December 17, 2016 Posted December 17, 2016 I don't think expecting someone to not handle raw chicken inappropriately and not have their crotch smell like **** is over the top at all. I agree with you on the dishes too OP. UGH I hate that. Hello clean water rinse... anyways, sounds like she is maybe lazy... I wasn't saying it was. But having to always shower before sex is odd to me. Particularly if you have already showered and then taken a walk or gone out for lunch and then have sex. It should be fine. this woman doesn't wipe properly. That's a different story. But saying "I smell poop" while giving oral would kill the mood for life. 1
Author monmon238 Posted April 11, 2017 Author Posted April 11, 2017 I wasn't saying it was. But having to always shower before sex is odd to me. Particularly if you have already showered and then taken a walk or gone out for lunch and then have sex. It should be fine. this woman doesn't wipe properly. That's a different story. But saying "I smell poop" while giving oral would kill the mood for life. i have to give you some context here, i love giving oral sex, and at that point i hane not done it for a couple of weeks cause i only do it if i am sure everything is clean down there (i.e. she showered), so i really missed doing it and i know she loves it, thats why i stopped when she got mad.
basil67 Posted April 11, 2017 Posted April 11, 2017 i have to give you some context here, i love giving oral sex, and at that point i hane not done it for a couple of weeks cause i only do it if i am sure everything is clean down there (i.e. she showered), so i really missed doing it and i know she loves it, thats why i stopped when she got mad. ....and reading this, there's no way you're going to get her back.... 1
curiouslysearching Posted April 11, 2017 Posted April 11, 2017 First, I think she did you a FAVOR in the long run. It seems to me that eventually you and she would both grow to be unhappy. I am very particular about my hygiene, how I keep my body, what I wear, how my yard and house are kept so I can sympathize with you. 2
BeautifuLie Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 Hey everybody, i will try to make this as a short as possible, me and my girlfriend have been together for a year but we dont live together, but we love each other very much, i always had the feeling that she is not that hygenic, and i am kind of a bit too hygenic, for example, i always wash my hands when i come home, she does not, i told her she should and she felt offended, another one would be during cooking, she would cut raw chicken and then use a towl she uses to clean every thing to clean her hands, or even touch food that wont be cooked, and when i told her she should not do that and that we can get sick, she was mad at me and started fighting and in a moment of anger i told her she is unhygenic, the last thing that happened that she broke up with me after is, i though girls would usually shower if they know if they are gonna have sex, and at this paricular time i knew she did not cause we had lunch outside and then went to her place, and i told her lets go shower together cause its always fun, and she refused, later we were fooling around, and when i got near to hear crotch, i smelled something bad, i thought it might be residuals after going to the bathroom or something, it could have been her vagina, am not sure, and i stopped and told her i smell poo (that was dumb and stupid of me), and she got mad and i told her i just cant do it like this and maybe we should go shower together, she insisted on not going, so i just stopped and lied beside her. the next day she texted me saying that am trying to change her and that i say mean things to her and said she cant change herself and can't change me and said we should break up, my question now, is this all my fault, was i asking for too much? or ist it her fault? is this even a reason for her to break up with me? thank for reading all my crap. Thats not unhygeinic. Thats just plain nasty, and selfish. If you smelled poo it means she didnt wipe/wash properly after pooing. Gross. Thats so elementary school. And she says youre trying to "change" her? kaaaaayyy then. Simply put, move on. You need somebody who is keen on cleanliness like you. Otherwise it will always be conflict. 2
BeautifuLie Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 Two things here. Kitchen hygiene is important to avoid food poisoning. Showering before sex? I didn't know that was a thing. I've certainly never had a boyfriend who expected that. My experience would be them ripping my clothes off no matter whether I'd showered or not. And this was back in the days when we also had pubic hair LOL. They don't make men like they used to. Not with your nether regions smelling like poo tho. Nah, son. 1
BeautifuLie Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 Whaaaat ??! how am i a hygiene freak, nothing in this article applies to me:lmao: i just like things clean! would you go down on a man if his junk smelled?? Apparently some people would:sick:
LifeNomad Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 OP I agree with what you did and ive done the same, just straight up tell someone they smell funky and go take a shower. There is only so many subtle hints that can be dropped. 1
Altair0770 Posted April 13, 2017 Posted April 13, 2017 I'm sorry but is this a joke? I can't stop laughing. Sorry for your loss, and sorry for laughing but omg... "I smell poo" :lmao: OP, it's understandable to tell someone that they should wash their hands when dealing with chicken. Some people don't understand the risks. It's not always understandable to wash your hands when coming home unless you've been working with crap. I mean I wash mine when I've got flux on my hands because I use solder at my job. But even if it was freaking Emilia Clarke about to give me the worlds greatest blowjob, her telling me "I smell poo" would be a huge turnoff. While I'll say it's always great to be honest, that's a bit inconsiderate. It sounds to me you're too much of a germaphobe and the lack of hygiene was a big red flag. Or either that or she's disgusting as hell.
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