bluepanox Posted December 13, 2016 Posted December 13, 2016 I have found this forum really inspiring. I would like to share my story. I was with a girl for 2 years. After the first 9 months I left the country for work and we decided together to break up. I was devastated and a month later I decided to text her and a bit later we ended up together deciding to do the long distance. I later became really stressed and anxious about my work and had feeling of sadness for not seeing her. In the end I developed Panic Disorder. As my condition got worse our connection got worse and worse. She was going to come to this country to do her masters. I was really happy we would finally be on the same country. One month before she moved here she broke up with me. I was devastated and became catatonic. I kept messaging her and everything which pushed her far away from me. I am now in daily contact with a shrink. However, last week I finally initiated NC by deleting my facebook. If you want more details about something ask.
umirano Posted December 14, 2016 Posted December 14, 2016 I'm sorry to hear your story. My GF broke up with me two months ago after having moved to another country in spring. She was adamant about making this work but during summer she became irritable and mean despite me bending over backwards to come see her, meeting her family, taking care of her business over her, etc. What can you do... Some people have zero loyalty or endurance. Again I'm sorry, but I'm also happy for you, you went NC, that's the beginning of the recovery!
Author bluepanox Posted December 14, 2016 Author Posted December 14, 2016 It made no sense in my head. Because she stayed with me all the time we were apart and the moment we are both in the same Country she breaks up with me. Also, she said she wanted to be friends and in the begging I tried to text her and chat up and she was replying with short answers, just trying to end the conversion as fast as possible.
basil67 Posted December 14, 2016 Posted December 14, 2016 It made no sense in my head. Because she stayed with me all the time we were apart and the moment we are both in the same Country she breaks up with me. Also, she said she wanted to be friends and in the begging I tried to text her and chat up and she was replying with short answers, just trying to end the conversion as fast as possible. In the opening post, you said that she broke up a month before you were together. Here you say it was the moment you were in the same country. Why the difference in your story line? As for this not making sense, did you forget that your panic disorder made the relationship worse and worse? Seems understandable that she wouldnt want a guy who's emotional disorder was affecting the relationship.
Author bluepanox Posted December 14, 2016 Author Posted December 14, 2016 It was actually a really confusing break up. She said she wanted to break up with me one month before but pretended like we were not broken up. Talked to skype every day as normal. When she come here I asked if she was going to visit me and she said no. Then I realized she had broken up with me. I am now regaining my mental health. Do you think I should contact her again when I am completely healed?
keiji Posted December 14, 2016 Posted December 14, 2016 I am now regaining my mental health. Do you think I should contact her again when I am completely healed? To accomplish what, exactly?
Author bluepanox Posted December 14, 2016 Author Posted December 14, 2016 Get her back? Or you think it is not possible anymore?
keiji Posted December 14, 2016 Posted December 14, 2016 Get her back? Or you think it is not possible anymore? Not a clue about your second question. I wish I knew. The thing is, are you sure you want her back after all she did to you and how depressed you were? Also, keeping one foot in the past wil surely cripple your healing process.
Author bluepanox Posted December 14, 2016 Author Posted December 14, 2016 I have decided to keep NC for a year. Work on and improve myself. Then I would like to meet her and see if there is a chance. I have known her since highschool but we only did something when we met again later in life. I know my feeling are mixed right now so dont want to make any decisions. Next year would be a good time to decide if I still want her or not.
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