VeveCakes Posted November 28, 2016 Posted November 28, 2016 Dump this lying 37-year-old student, already!!! You've spent 2 years with him! You're 28. You're wasting your childbearing years, you know. Time flies. This x100000000000 2
ja123 Posted November 28, 2016 Posted November 28, 2016 Sounds like OP doesn't want to listen to reason!
Author misspearl Posted November 29, 2016 Author Posted November 29, 2016 Don't be so quick to jump to conclusions based on theories here. Maybe he just doesn't want to text you all day so he doesn't give you his what's app phone number. Its not like you think, read the other posts!! and you will change your mind!
Author misspearl Posted November 29, 2016 Author Posted November 29, 2016 Sounds like OP doesn't want to listen to reason! @ja123 what are the odds that nothing is really going on and its all in my head and not what it seems?! even tho it does!,
Author misspearl Posted December 5, 2016 Author Posted December 5, 2016 What are those big time hints a boyfriend you've had for a long time is just using you to pass the time with you and that's it?
NuevoYorko Posted December 5, 2016 Posted December 5, 2016 Are you getting your needs met on all levels, most of the time, in this relationship?
clia Posted December 5, 2016 Posted December 5, 2016 There could be many different signs, such as: Only comes around for sex. Doesn't take you out in public or on dates. Doesn't see you on prime date nights like Friday or Saturday night. Shows signs of lack of investment in the relationship -- for example, not introducing you to friends and family, not buying you gifts for birthday and Christmas, no discussion of the future, disinterest in getting to know your friends and family, only being available when it is convenient for him, doesn't spend a great deal of time with you, etc. Lack of or inconsistent communication. Probably other things also... 2
PrettyEmily77 Posted December 5, 2016 Posted December 5, 2016 When he showers you with shallow words and attention while having zero intentions of following through with action - so he says a lot of things, he apologises often, he promises a lot, but he does nothing. But mainly, it's that indescribable hunch, that general feeling you get when you are with him, that little voice in your brain that tells you you are being used - that's your gut instinct trying to tell you something. 1
eightytwenty Posted December 5, 2016 Posted December 5, 2016 No talks about the future was a big one... Might have a few small talks but nothing really moving forward Just didn't care too much about us. We were together grea . If we weren't great...
mikeylo Posted December 5, 2016 Posted December 5, 2016 Among others, if you are questioning it, then that is an answer in itself. 1
Lizabigs Posted December 5, 2016 Posted December 5, 2016 What are those big time hints a boyfriend you've had for a long time is just using you to pass the time with you and that's it? You can never ever know. That's why it's called a risk. You risk getting hurt. You risk it. You have to really take a person and ask yourself if you are going to risk it. Its only fun to date when you are happy on your own. When you are so content and figured it all out on your own, that is the only time it's fun to date. As people we tend to expect and expecting can cause disappointment. Most people end up married when they weren't even ready for the first date! it's important to only find people to support your freedom and not relationships until you say your ready. Supportive people are crucial to making it .. Don't give up!
Lizabigs Posted December 5, 2016 Posted December 5, 2016 Comon now be real. Having a generic answer for that or a reasonable answer is saying that people come with a handbook. The mind is a big place. God knows where the world takes them people you are with! amen.
Sweetfish Posted December 5, 2016 Posted December 5, 2016 When he talks about the future and your name never appears 2
smackie9 Posted December 5, 2016 Posted December 5, 2016 Only has time for you once or twice a week. Very little texting between seeing each other. Doesn't introduce you to friends or family. Doesn't care about your Bday. Forgets about dates, or cancels a lot. Only has sex and doesn't take you out. His words don't match his actions. 1
basil67 Posted December 5, 2016 Posted December 5, 2016 If you read through your old posts, you will find all the clues of a man who's using you. 1
kismetkismet Posted December 5, 2016 Posted December 5, 2016 These are mostly all mentioned, but just to agree -You see him infrequently, not on weekends -He doesn't take you out -You don't see his friends and/or family regularly, even though he has a relationship with them -He doesn't make your relationship public in any way - photos, including you in important life events etc. -he never talks about future plans with you basically if it doesn't feel like your lives are merging to a degree, then it's not really going anywhere. It obviously takes time for your lives to come together, but if you get past the first few of months of getting to know each other and your lives are still compartmentalized then there are serious problems. A good, strong, healthy relationship is about sharing your life with someone. If he's not sharing his life with you, just spending some time with you now and then, then you are not really a fixture in his life. 2
William Posted December 5, 2016 Posted December 5, 2016 Folks, I noticed the thread starter had duplicate threads and the content tangentially related to that of their latest thread so merged them all for continuity. Please continue the discussion of this relationship in this thread. Thanks!
Author misspearl Posted December 13, 2016 Author Posted December 13, 2016 my boyfriend asked me to do him a favor by calling a female ''friend'' !! Not long ago my boyfriend who is 36 asked me to do him a favor and call a Girl ''Friend'' he described as a friend to give her the address of a lawyer she had an Appoinment with. He wanted ME to do it because her husband is a jealous and somehow a violent man that has been in jail and most likely he would of hang up the phone if my boyfriend made the call, so instead he asked me to do it) this man has even called my boyfriend a few times at midnight to tell him to not contact his girlfriend anymore and the way my boyfriend was telling me all about it seemed like if he was concerned/angry about the situation and that the man was crazy and so on. So he asked me to call and I did him the favor but the phone never worked since I called from his mobile not mine, I guess the phone line was busy, I really don't know, so he told me that WE would try calling her later again, cause this was important and she needed the Lawyers Address etc etc, and after that we never called anymore, But I did noticed he was tense and preoccupied about contacting the ''friend'' and letting her know. Also I remember after we made the first called and it did not go through, he grabbed his mobile from the car turned his back on me and was sorta of like texting ro checking something (I don't know if he did it because of the sun or because he did not want me to see!!, and that is really suspicious to my knowledge. But I am telling you everything I remember. I find all of this quite weird to be honest, What do YOU think is going on here, can that possibly be his ex girlfriend , A lover my boyfriend had while the women's boyfriend was in jail. What do you really think about all of this? Why would he ask me to do him this favor. it sounded childish to me!?
GunslingerRoland Posted December 13, 2016 Posted December 13, 2016 Let's look at it like this. Even if he isn't cheating on you. What are your reasons for staying in a relationship where the man seems to have such little interest in furthering the relationship.
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