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November 26, 2016

(Or frankly, a girlfriend who finds it too tedious to travel an hour to her boyfriend's place in the city on a weekend.)..

I think the OP answered that quite well in the post below, he makes it clear he doesn't want her there and as she says her motivation for visiting at the weekend "goes to the floor."

Well since he comes here from Monday to Friday, I find that ok, plus he never tells me '' oh come and visit me this weekend'' and if I asked him now he will say ''well you know I am studying and I don't have much time'' I mean Anyones motivation goes to the floor like that.don't you think?!!

Misspearl

Please walk away from this, as you are wasting your time.

No doubt once he is finished studying he will be gone and will leave you behind in a cloud of dust.

November 26, 2016

I don't know how to approach this situation and put a stop once and for all, The fact that I have not done is that I am the worst person when it comes down to talking out a situation, I get intimidaded to talk face to face and well I want this person, but I also don't think is fair for me to be sucking it all up just because I want him or thinking he is going to change!

Unless it's a company phone... this phone is no good.

This guy is using the fact that your intimidated to get away with a lot.

Think you should get down to the bottom of what's going on soon. You may care for him, but after the hurt you will grow and learn from this experience.

I suggest you breakup with him

November 26, 2016

it was not panties or anything like that, it was a hair comb that was thrown in the floor, an eyeliner in the bathroom,2 kotex. and also to bags that where from ladies clothing stores, it looked ike they had my bf clothes inside, a lot crap, he is super messy messy.:mad:

November 26, 2016

A burner is often a cheap phone that is untraceable, ie no monthly contract and is used often by cheaters.
Sounds like he is using his "burner" to talk to the OP, which is a bit worrying for her.

My sister has two phones. The number I have is the burner phone with no whatsapp.

The other smart phone with whatsapp and everything else, she has never given me the number of even when I have asked. Our mom doesnt have the number either. We both just have the number of the burner phone.

I guess my mom and I should worry and that there is a big conspiracy?

November 26, 2016

My sister has two phones. The number I have is the burner phone with no whatsapp.

The other smart phone with whatsapp and everything else, she has never given me the number of even when I have asked. Our mom doesnt have the number either. We both just have the number of the burner phone.

I guess my mom and I should worry and that there is a big conspiracy?

Read the rest of the thread.

November 26, 2016

If I had a BF that had two phones and only gave me the number to one.....it would have been an immediate dismissal of the relationship....in fact it wouldn't have gone past the second date.

November 26, 2016

Well since he comes here from Monday to Friday, I find that ok, plus he never tells me '' oh come and visit me this weekend'' and if I asked him now he will say ''well you know I am studying and I don't have much time'' I mean Anyones motivation goes to the floor like that.don't you think?!!

OK, so he doesn't want you to visit. And he's got random women's products at his house supposedly from a 3 year ago relationship.

Forget the dual phone thing - why are you still with this guy who's obviously leading a double life?

November 26, 2016

@basil67, the womenly things i saw was from a past girlfriend but i don't know if they were three years together or not

I feel that everything is making more sense to me know and that bandage I had over my eyes is now open

No wonder he was acting so weird when I went to his apartment here in town were I live a month ago, cause in front of his apartment lives a girl that I happen to know from the gym(not friends with her or anything) and one day when he saw that i said hi to her, he got all weird like 'oh you know her' ? and I was like yeah from the gym, and a month later he was taking me back home and the girl was coincidentally outside talking to another girl, and he got all sketchy and weird about it, he was like don't say hi to her, and told me to walk around the other way to avoid her(obviously) and I asked him' 'why are you so weird about me saying hi to her?' and he was like ' oh because I had an ackward encounter with her due to the fact that I parked my car a certain way' ,,,,,, seriously sound's stupid as hell but that was his answer, so I wonder if this girl knows exactly what goes on the rest of the week days that I don't see him, I feel that maybe he is scared of her telling me the **** that goes down, or the people he invites over. Just my supposition.

November 27, 2016

@basil67, the womenly things i saw was from a past girlfriend but i don't know if they were three years together or not

I meant that he was with her three years ago. Or did I imagine that? At any rate, I thought he'd explained them as belonging from someone before he met you.

My point is that if he's got girly things in his apartment that aren't yours, then there's a girl who's using them.

November 27, 2016

@basil yes, he told me that they belonged to his ex, but it was not a 3 year relationship ,they lasted like a year or less.

But I get you it sounds shady as heck!, ok he is the messiest person but still dammit its our apartment,clean those **** up and throw them away or give them back, why are they still hanging there

this was a year back,remember the last time I visited him in the city was valentines 2015, I have never gone again ever since that day.

In his other apartment here where I live I have not found anything, its almost empty,just a bed to sleep and a fridge ''student room apt'', but yeah

I have a friend that told me that I should have gone to the city apartment one day without telling him and see what he was up to, like spy on him, or maybe even knock on his door. I don't know if that is a good idea, 'im tempted I admit!!.

November 27, 2016

I have a friend that told me that I should have gone to the city apartment one day without telling him and see what he was up to, like spy on him, or maybe even knock on his door. I don't know if that is a good idea, 'im tempted I admit!!.

When you feel that way it's because the relationship is over.

You are accepting bread crumbs only because he's a medical student about to graduate. Like I said if he was a plumber you wouldn't accept this treatment. He is laughing at you.

November 27, 2016

If his phone is a work phone and only a work phone then I can see the point, not necessarily that you can't have the number but you cannot call him on it.

I personally know about 6 people in my life that have work phones and they keep them totally separate from their own personal phone, companies today can monitor all activity on work phones.

If it isn't then the guy is an ass and is doing something that you wouldn't like with the other phone.

If the phone isn't a work phone then you need to decide if this is a deal breaker, to me it would be.

Edited November 28, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

November 27, 2016

If a company is going to monitor your phone you would think you would refrain from adding such apps as Whatsapp. Unless you work for a cheap-azz company that would want you using that app to make long distance calls?

Chances are that's there for personal social reasons so no reason not to add your own g/f to the mix even if you don't use it with her.

November 27, 2016

If his phone is a work phone and only a work phone them I can't see the point, not necessarily that you can't have the number but you cannot call him on it.
I personally know about 6 people in my life that have work phones and they keep them totally separate from their own personal phone, companies today can monitor all activity on work phones.

If it isn't then the guy is an ass and is doing something that you wouldn't like with the other phone.
If the phone isn't a work phone then you need to decide if this is a deal breaker, to me it would be.

Hey, nope is not a work phone, he is a university student, why not just have 1 phone?!! if a person is going to cheat he will do it with having 1 mobile only as well, but its just weird for the reason that he is not working, and paying double the bills, it does not make sense at all,unless he is a spy.

What most of the people in the forum have told me is that perhaps he does have a double life, whether it is with another women or a man, I really don't know I believe anything in this life is possible.

I do have insecurities, but reality is reality and everything I have said in this forum about him is true not product of my insecurities, its based on things I have seen and for the fact that I liked and want this guy I have ignored and let go. and Honestly its not healthy and I don't want to end up marrying a man with mysteries. That's why I ask opinions and advice to not commit a stupidity and end up screwed in the long run.

November 27, 2016

like I a;ways say....if it doesn't feel right, then it's not.

November 27, 2016

I know I am talking to much about this, instead of doing something, but my bf is not currently not here he had traveled to get a medical exam he was studying for,,,, anyways There is another FACT that when we started going out he brought up and I never got it out of my head.

''Not long so ago maybe a year ago my boyfriend asked me to do him a favor and call a women that he described as a ''friend'' to give her the address of a lawyer she had an Apoinment with I searched on google for that address and it was like a divorce lawyer suite or firm.

He wanted ME to do it because the woman's HUSBAND is a jealous and somehow a violent man and he was most likely to hang up the phone if my boyfriend made the call himself,,,so instead he asked me to do it. so This man ( The woman's husband) has even been in jail and so on, also this man had even called my boyfriend a few times at midnight to tell him to not contact his girlfriend/wife anymore and the way my boyfriend was telling me all about it seemed like if he was angry about the situation and that the man was calling him and acting jealous!

So he asked me to call and I did him the favor but the phone never worked since I called from HIS mobile phone (which is the SECOND PHONE that we are all talking about in this forum, it was not the smartphone, at that moment he had a small samsung the he bought the smartphone) I guess the number was busy or the line, I really don't know, so he told me that we would call later again, cause this was important and she needed the Lawyers Address etc etc, and after that we never called anymore, But I did noticed he was tense and preoccupied about it letting the female friend know.

Also I remember he grabbed his mobile turned his back on me and was sorta of like texting or doing something on the mobile I can't recall (I don't know if he did it because of the sun or because he did not want me to SEE!!, and that is really suspicious to my knowledge. But I am telling you everything I remember.

What do you think of all of this, can this be his LOVER? a past ex girlfriend, or a women he had something with while her husband was in jail.

November 27, 2016

You're spending far too much time analysing this. You're not happy and you don't trust him. This in itself is good enough reason to end it.

November 28, 2016

''Not long so ago maybe a year ago my boyfriend asked me to do him a favor and call a women that he described as a ''friend'' to give her the address of a lawyer she had an Apoinment with I searched on google for that address and it was like a divorce lawyer suite or firm.

He wanted ME to do it because the woman's HUSBAND is a jealous and somehow a violent man and he was most likely to hang up the phone if my boyfriend made the call himself,,,so instead he asked me to do it. so This man ( The woman's husband) has even been in jail and so on, also this man had even called my boyfriend a few times at midnight to tell him to not contact his girlfriend/wife anymore and the way my boyfriend was telling me all about it seemed like if he was angry about the situation and that the man was calling him and acting jealous!

So he asked me to call and I did him the favor but the phone never worked since I called from HIS mobile phone (which is the SECOND PHONE that we are all talking about in this forum, it was not the smartphone, at that moment he had a small samsung the he bought the smartphone) I guess the number was busy or the line, I really don't know, so he told me that we would call later again, cause this was important and she needed the Lawyers Address etc etc, and after that we never called anymore, But I did noticed he was tense and preoccupied about it letting the female friend know.

Also I remember he grabbed his mobile turned his back on me and was sorta of like texting or doing something on the mobile I can't recall (I don't know if he did it because of the sun or because he did not want me to SEE!!, and that is really suspicious to my knowledge. But I am telling you everything I remember.

What do you think of all of this, can this be his LOVER? a past ex girlfriend, or a women he had something with while her husband was in jail.

Are you kidding? This is super sketch. Was the lawyer practicing family law or what kind of lawyer was he?

November 28, 2016

@Sunkissedpatio, I searched in google and it was like a divorce lawyer-or something that has to do with violence, I don't remember exactly. But to be honest I found it weird, so i'm wondering if this woman has a role in his life that I am not exactly aware of. why did he care so much of her in order to do her that favor, I know maybe she was in a dangerous situation I get it, but couldn't she search on her own or tell another women friend, why did it have to be him especifically!! that's what I find weird and he was so anxious about that situation.

The called never made it through, so I never got the chance to speak to that woman.my bf told me that the womans husband is so violent he smashed her computer on the floor because she was chatting with people on facebook.

November 28, 2016

Dump this lying 37-year-old student, already!!!

You've spent 2 years with him!

You're 28. You're wasting your childbearing years, you know. Time flies.

November 28, 2016

The called never made it through, so I never got the chance to speak to that woman.my bf told me that the woman's husband is so violent he smashed her computer on the floor because she was chatting with people on facebook.

bingo! There's the reason for the second phone with apps that you are no part of. He has FB on there and that is how they communicate. Husband prob found their FB communication, he had a cow and your man was trying to get her to go see a lawyer so he got you to send her the info.

November 28, 2016

bingo! There's the reason for the second phone with apps that you are no part of. He has FB on there and that is how they communicate. Husband prob found their FB communication, he had a cow and your man was trying to get her to go see a lawyer so he got you to send her the info.

@sunkissedpatio yeah, no wonder he always told me he was not the social media type of guy, BS of course he is!! lol, it was a way of him to make me think that he was not into that.and was a lay backed guy. and also no wonder he always told me he did not liked pictures, but in fact he has one real picture of him on his second fake fb profile. so the people that knows him can find him by the picture. I feel like its all a set up.and he is in fact living a double life. and I have a feeling this woman is part of it maybe!

November 28, 2016

Don't be so quick to jump to conclusions based on theories here. Maybe he just doesn't want to text you all day so he doesn't give you his what's app phone number.

November 28, 2016

@sunkissedpatio yeah, no wonder he always told me he was not the social media type of guy, BS of course he is!! lol, it was a way of him to make me think that he was not into that.and was a lay backed guy. and also no wonder he always told me he did not liked pictures, but in fact he has one real picture of him on his second fake fb profile. so the people that knows him can find him by the picture. I feel like its all a set up.and he is in fact living a double life. and I have a feeling this woman is part of it maybe!

Sorry I didn't understand your post. He won't take pictures with you, you mean because he "doesn't like pics" and he has a fake FB profile!? Why does he have a "fake" FB profile.

Did you meet him on Tinder?

November 28, 2016

@sunkissedpatio, No I meant that in thanksgiving 2014 he made a big deal because he did not want to take pictures with me because he said he looked bad, that he had not shaved and that he did not liked his pics to be put on facebook, yet he has 2 fake facebook accounts one without any content at all, no picture and the second fake facebook has a real picture of him and as far as I remember he told me he did not like pictures this and that,,but he has a picture of him in his fake facebook account ,he's a liar then! cause other wise why in the world a person that does not like to take pictures and put them on FACEBOOK!! would put a picture of themselves in facebook in the first place!

Sounds like if it was for some specific people to recognize him, I don't know!

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