Laidbackguy18 Posted December 13, 2016 Posted December 13, 2016 OK so back when I started going to school I started dating this guy and I'm a guy I'm pan but the thing is we began dating and he presented as a tomboy type woman I thought he was a woman bit he's been transitioning to live as a man and I told my brother and friends and another relative about him as a wpman he doesn't want to be put to them but he wants to present as he is as a man. So how am I supposed to switch his gender like that without outing him? 1
salparadise Posted December 13, 2016 Posted December 13, 2016 Introduce him as a different person? Nah. The only good answer is to be open and unashamed about the whole thing. People are going to sense it otherwise and then probably be dismissive or resentful that you tried to pull the wool over their eyes. So he's a man, but is hesitant to reveal that he's actually a man because he was at first identifying as a woman... and his concern is that he doesn't want anyone to know that his gender identity is somewhat ambiguous? Is that right? 2
OrangeParty Posted December 13, 2016 Posted December 13, 2016 The only good answer is to be open and unashamed about the whole thing. People are going to sense it otherwise What? No. The correct answer for OP is "ask him what he prefers". Explain to him that you introduced him as a woman previously, but now am in a bind. Outing someone without their permission is not only a dick move, depending on where you live it can be life threatening. 1
smackie9 Posted December 13, 2016 Posted December 13, 2016 oh geeeezzz here we go. Yes discuss this with him and everyone else privately so there is no awkwardness. I think most anyone these days is used to it and don't even bat an eye about it. 1
Satu Posted December 13, 2016 Posted December 13, 2016 Just ask him how he'd like you to handle it and do it that way. Take care.
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