StrangerThanFiction Posted December 13, 2016 Posted December 13, 2016 I've been doing a lot of thinking since our break up a week ago. He wants us to be friends and so do I because he wasn't a bad guy, our break up was semi mutual, and we had a lot of fun before we got together as a couple...but I don't think I'm ready or capable of being just friends with him right now. There's still so much hurt and feelings involved on my end. I still have him as a friend on Facebook and I think that it's really holding me back from moving on. I'll admit that I've been almost obsessively checking his page multiple times a day and I get another shot to the heart every time I see that he seems to be doing just fine without me while I'm an emotional wreck. So I think that the best course of action would be for me to block him for the time being. The reason that I want to text him is to tell him I'm blocking him for now and the reason why. That it's not out of anger or spite but that this is something I need to do for myself and that when I'm ready I'll add him again. That we're still friends but I need the time and distance so that I can go back to that. That keeping him on there just makes it harder for me to kill that last tiny little spark of hope. I haven't really worked it all out what I want to say or if I should even send it yet and that's why I'm coming to you guys. What do you think? 1
basil67 Posted December 13, 2016 Posted December 13, 2016 I think it's a very good idea. You know what you need and you're communicating to to him in a kind way. There is always the chance he may not like it or agree, but that's his problem and not yours.
keiji Posted December 13, 2016 Posted December 13, 2016 I think that's the most sensible thing to do right now. I did exactly the same back in January. My ex-g totally opposed NC and I agreed at first, but after a couple of days checking my phone screen every two minutes I realized there was no way I'd heal while she was still there, even if not physically. Stalking his social media and keeping in touch is extremely counter-productive for you. If he's a reasonable person, he'll understand that you need to disappear for a while.
Trinity_84 Posted December 13, 2016 Posted December 13, 2016 Do what you think will make you happy or give you more peace of mind. Letting the ex know you're going NC and will block on social media is possibly the most sensible/polite thing to do. Sometimes it hurts too much to even let them know (as it was in my case) but I think as long as you believe and stand by your decision whatever it is (texting him letting him know/not), you will be OK.
Author StrangerThanFiction Posted December 13, 2016 Author Posted December 13, 2016 Thank you very much for the support, guys. I did send the text and block him off of Facbook. Spent all night writing it out on a piece of paper trying to get across all I needed to say without coming off as too weak. I think I succeeded? At least I hope I did. I feel a lot of relief doing it and I know it was the right thing to do but when I hit that block button I felt a little anxious that now I wouldn't know if there was another woman in his life. Stupid. It would devastate me to know that he moved on right now and the best thing I can do is just focus on my life and move on. 1
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