Author fred123 Posted December 25, 2016 Author Posted December 25, 2016 She just didn't feel it with you. My daughter (29) has been dating a guy for 3 months. He has asked her to meet me, meet her friends, and she said no to all of his requests because she doesn't feel he is the right guy for her. She kept dating him for 3 months hoping she would develop feelings for him because he's a good guy but her feelings never developed so she will break up with him this week. It's just that, you were not the right guy or her. why would your daughter wait 3 months to know this? and also what excuses did she give him as to why he couldn't see her friends etc. my questions remain the same. why would she enter a relationship with me and tell me she is in love with me and sees a future with me? doesn't make any sense. i feel like she didnt want to do anything public. also the time we were together she had numerous events she could have invited me too and i had some too but i never got asked once. and she turned down all of mine for reasons i believed at the time. also why would she lie to me when we were together and id ask her why she couldnt come to my friends birthday or why i can't meet her work mates? shed say something like she hates meeting new people and that she doesn't want her work mates to know about her dating life. she kept telling me that even when i changed my fb relationship status she told me to remove it. i believed her that she wanted to keep things private and is that sort of person. and as a guy I'm told to respect a womens values and opinions and not to force anything or have an argument about it as it comes across as pressuring if i did. now the new guy she dating within a month and half she invited him to weddings and met all her friends and everything she told me seems a lie. she even put pics of both of them on internet together and changed relationship status. how do we win as guys? are we always gonna lose and get hurt?
travelbug1996 Posted December 25, 2016 Posted December 25, 2016 how do we win as guys? are we always gonna lose and get hurt? You just have to be sure that most things you give are being appreciated and reciprocated.
Gaeta Posted December 26, 2016 Posted December 26, 2016 why would your daughter wait 3 months to know this? and also what excuses did she give him as to why he couldn't see her friends etc. my daughter never told the guy she is dating that she loved him. She was always clear with him that her feelings were not growing as fast as his and she needed more time. When he asked why she didn't want him to meet her family she told him the truth, it was too much pressure for her, meeting the family is for official couples and she was not ready to make it official. my questions remain the same. why would she enter a relationship with me and tell me she is in love with me and sees a future with me? doesn't make any sense. You girlfriend is lying to you and manipulating you because you let her and you don't have enough back bone to break up with her. It's obvious she is not into you but there you are licking her boots and ready to do anything just to be with her when she treats you like sh&t. Why she does that? I have no clue but I know I would not put up with it for as long as you have and I'd be looking for a real gf for myself.
LargoLagg Posted December 26, 2016 Posted December 26, 2016 (edited) Here's what she was really telling you: With this new guy, it is so easy and natural. She doesn't feel all worked up, because she isn't. She's completely comfortable with him in a way that she isn't with you. The Jewish thing might be true, but it's not really a reason. If she wanted you, she'd have found a way around it, or worst case, she'd have left clearly fighting her own will. I'm not really sure why she doesn't just tell you the truth. She's either afraid of hurting your feelings, or she thinks you're not really man enough to handle it. Either way, she is lying to you. That's all right. What do you care? Let's see, what else? "my girlfriend made me feel insecure"? Wrong. "I am insecure and for some inexplicable reason, my girlfriend didn't like that. Now I feel even worse than before." is probably more like it. This "I was so nice and I feel like she didn't treat me well in return" is normal, and it's too bad. Get used to it. Alpha up a little bit. You'll be fine. Oh, and this whole "good guy" thing of yours? You appear to now admit that your nice treatment of her came with strings. She felt that, and it could be why things never took off for the two of you. It might be why they never do. Next time, don't be so "nice". Be up front instead. Let the girls know you like them. Don't do a bunch of nice guy stuff and expect to be rewarded for it. Just act like you like them. If they don't return it, and some won't, then be done with them. Don't hang around thinking you can win them over by doing whatever it is you do. You can't. You won't. So don't even try it. Edited December 26, 2016 by LargoLagg
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