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He went MIA after our 6th date. I really like him. Should I stick it out for a bit or

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Hi guys.. I am in desperate need of help. Any input or advice would be highly appreciated. I apologize in advance for my grammar, English is not my first language. We met 2 months ago, he asked my friends to be introduced to me for a month before that.

 

We've been dating for 1.5 months now (he went on a vacation with his family shortly after our 2nd date) so I didn't count the 2 weeks since it was very new. We usually see each other during the weekend (mostly on Saturday) He initiated the first 3 dates, I initiated the 4th date, both of us planned the 5th and I initiated the 6th date. It was 2 weeks ago. However he doesn't really text between dates.. he would text probably once every 4-5 days. Sometimes only to arrange a date. He is very talkative and asks a lot of question whenever we're together in person, I can tell that he likes me. But then it got so confusing when we're not together since he doesn't really contact me. It's usually me who contact him first

 

Anyway the 6th date went well, although it was a bit awkward at some point cause I was still nervous around him. But overall it was okay, no awkward silences etc. So I texted him after the date which continued until Sunday (the next day). On Monday, Tuesday & Wednesday he didn't text.. So I decided to text him on Thursday to see if we are seeing each other again on the weekend. I mentioned about new movies in the cinema, hoping he'll say something and ask me out but he didn't so I asked him to go see a movie with me (for our 7th date) He told me that he wont be able to make it this weekend. He told me the reasons (it was legit - 2 events on Sat & Sun) and he told me let's arrange sometime next week. Then I didn't hear from him again until last Wednesday (Today is Friday) I decided to just text him about seeing the movie I mentioned before. He was up for it and now we are supposed to see each other on Monday after work. Now I will not follow up again on Sunday or Monday.. it is really his turn to reach out now right? Since technically I've asked him out 2 times now for our 7th date

 

What do you guys think? Does he like me? I am so confused. I really like him :( shall I just see how this pans out or can I ask him?

 

So sorry for the long message :( thank you so much for ur time & attention!

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If it were me I would just chalk it up as not fulfilling my expectations and move on. I get ya, you want to be more of a priority, want nice flirty communication between dates, etc. He isn't that interested or he is not that kind of dater that you are looking for. IMO if you are finding yourself confused and frustrated after 6 dates....he is not worth your time.

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Hi guys.. I am in desperate need of help. Any input or advice would be highly appreciated. I apologize in advance for my grammar, English is not my first language. We met 2 months ago, he asked my friends to be introduced to me for a month before that.

 

We've been dating for 1.5 months now (he went on a vacation with his family shortly after our 2nd date) so I didn't count the 2 weeks since it was very new. We usually see each other during the weekend (mostly on Saturday) He initiated the first 3 dates, I initiated the 4th date, both of us planned the 5th and I initiated the 6th date. It was 2 weeks ago. However he doesn't really text between dates.. he would text probably once every 4-5 days. Sometimes only to arrange a date. He is very talkative and asks a lot of question whenever we're together in person, I can tell that he likes me. But then it got so confusing when we're not together since he doesn't really contact me. It's usually me who contact him first

 

Anyway the 6th date went well, although it was a bit awkward at some point cause I was still nervous around him. But overall it was okay, no awkward silences etc. So I texted him after the date which continued until Sunday (the next day). On Monday, Tuesday & Wednesday he didn't text.. So I decided to text him on Thursday to see if we are seeing each other again on the weekend. I mentioned about new movies in the cinema, hoping he'll say something and ask me out but he didn't so I asked him to go see a movie with me (for our 7th date) He told me that he wont be able to make it this weekend. He told me the reasons (it was legit - 2 events on Sat & Sun) and he told me let's arrange sometime next week. Then I didn't hear from him again until last Wednesday (Today is Friday) I decided to just text him about seeing the movie I mentioned before. He was up for it and now we are supposed to see each other on Monday after work. Now I will not follow up again on Sunday or Monday.. it is really his turn to reach out now right? Since technically I've asked him out 2 times now for our 7th date

 

What do you guys think? Does he like me? I am so confused. I really like him :( shall I just see how this pans out or can I ask him?

 

So sorry for the long message :( thank you so much for ur time & attention!

 

Due to all the parts highlighted above he doesn't seem to like you a lot. Just enough to keep you around. I would say date other guys and do not initiate anything with him after your movie date (assuming he does keep his word). If he steps his game up and initiate texts and dates going forward then you can move him up on your priority list.

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Why are you chasing this guy?? If he was genuinely interested he'd be pursuing you!!

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Hi guys! I need your help please, any input or advice would be highly appreciated. I apologize in advance for my grammar, English is not my first language. We've been seeing each other for 2 months now

 

Went on 7 dates, 1-2-3 initiated by him 4-6-7 by me & 5 together. He doesn't really text between the dates, very rarely, usually it's me who initiated the texts. He did say once that he's not a good texter and a lot of people have said that about him. He's nice and talkative whenever we meet and I guess it's safe to say that he enjoys my company too

 

He went MIA after our 6th date. After a few days or maybe a week after the 6th date, I finally texted him to arrange our 7th date to see this new movie in the cinema. He told me that he wont be able to make it that weekend (25 November) he told me the reasons and told me let's arrange sometime next week

 

But then I didn't hear from him again until the next week (1 December) so I decided to just text him to follow up. He was up for it and we were supposed to see it on Friday (2 December) but turns out both of us had to reschedule, he offered to reschedule to the upcoming weekdays, he did say Monday or Tuesday. However until Sunday night he hasn't confirmed anything. So I followed up again and we did see each other last Tuesday (6 December)

 

I guess it is obvious that he is not quite sure how he feels about me or whether he's that into me or not. Question is.. what should I do? Give him space or just completely walk away? The thing is if there is still a possibility or a chance that this could work out, I'd really like to try. I do like him and he's a nice guy

 

Help me please? Is there any way I could still make it? Thank you so much for your attention & help :)

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Has he made any moves on you? For example kiss, sex, etc?

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Hi @Dashottcalla, thank you for your response. Due to both of our culture, religion & the way we were brought up, we haven't done any kissing and all that at least not until it is clear that we are together. We both know that, since we share the same religion etc. What do you think? Is it still possible?

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Hi @Dashottcalla, thank you for your response. Due to both of our culture, religion & the way we were brought up, we haven't done any kissing and all that at least not until it is clear that we are together. We both know that, since we share the same religion etc. What do you think? Is it still possible?

 

I can't really speak on the cultural difference but it does seem like he isn't too interested.. I wouldn't put too much energy into this situation at this point.. It is the man's job to coordinate dates for the most part.. If you find yourself consistently being the one trying to schedule a date that's a sign that his interest is low.. I would take a step back if I were you

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