thajake Posted December 12, 2016 Posted December 12, 2016 HI I am wondering if anybody tried this strategy for a break up. We know that most of the break ups come suddenly and dumper surprises us with a news. Those are the hardest to cope with. I am wondering if anybody responded break up with a break up response. So when we get caught off guard with " I don't love you anymore, or I need some space or other typical break up lines" instead of acting surprised you attack them with the same thing. Such us " yeah you are right I was thinking the same or It is very good idea to have some time off from this" and than you kind of mirror everything they do. Do we have enough power to do this during the initial shock and than persevere. I mean this could be super hard to pull off but if you had at leat one heartbreak before you know that when somebody means break up than they mean it. Although dumpers are preparing for it for some time but if you know that you can react that way and get them surprised , I wonder what effect could that have on later chances for reconciliation. I mean if we could not prevent the break up , than of course best is to walk away as fast as possible with little damage possible. Let me know guys and girls.
ExpatInItaly Posted December 12, 2016 Posted December 12, 2016 If someone has reached the point that they no longer love you enough to continue the relationship, the dumpee going along with it and agreeing is probably only going to provide relief to the dumper. They won't feel so awful for ending it if it is mutual. In other words, a "strategy" won't matter if the feelings are already gone. It will just make the split less messy, at least for the dumper.
whatdeww18 Posted December 12, 2016 Posted December 12, 2016 I think it depends on what you're breaking up for and things. Like the above poster, if it was falling out of love, usually stemming from some particular reasons, it gives the dumper relief. They see that you know and that your feelings are the same and, unless you were the world's greatest boyfriend/girlfriend, this would end in an amicable but probably not reconcilable break up. Kinda gives the dumper affirmation to move on. However, this doesn't always hold true if feelings of love were truly there, and the reasons for the break up were something that can be changed. I think the most important aspect of a break up, no matter what, is to make it as amicable and respectful as possible. You want the person to understand that it hurts but you will respect their wishes. Whether those feelings and actions following will suit what you like depends on your future actions and the relationship. Either way, I feel like this wouldn't be the best type of break up. If I told someone that, I think the response I would appreciate the most would just be one of respect.
bluefeather Posted December 12, 2016 Posted December 12, 2016 That sounds really dumb and childish. That will do more damage by being dishonest and just further cement the breakup.
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