oman0115 Posted December 12, 2016 Posted December 12, 2016 Any advice on how I handle this situation would be great, even if anyone thinks I've been foolish please say. I own my own house and have developed feelings for my lodger. She's just generally an all round lovely human being, and this weekend I struck up the courage to ask her out on a date. Sadly she couldn't, she is in love with a friend of hers, and in quite a difficult situation herself where she is going to tell him how she feels. Have I been monumentally stupid and even selfish in telling her? The last thing I was is her feeling awkward, and she's also a good tenant so I don't want her to leave. I'm going to try to act as a frien to her, I know the Friendzone should be avoided at all costs normally but this situation is so complicated. On the plus side spending time with her has made me realise my ex had a lot of flaws and it's helped me get over her. How do I handle this in order to prevent her from feeling odd about it all?
PegNosePete Posted December 12, 2016 Posted December 12, 2016 I very much doubt that she is the one who will be feeling odd here. She knows that you like her but she's not interested. There's nothing particularly weird about that. She can probably go about her day totally as normal. YOU, on the other hand, can't! You have strong feelings for someone who does not reciprocate. Being "friends" with her will be torture for you.
TheAntiHero Posted December 12, 2016 Posted December 12, 2016 I very much doubt that she is the one who will be feeling odd here. She knows that you like her but she's not interested. There's nothing particularly weird about that. She can probably go about her day totally as normal. YOU, on the other hand, can't! You have strong feelings for someone who does not reciprocate. Being "friends" with her will be torture for you. Yep, and when she brings a guy over for "Netflix and chill", I'm sure OP is going to have a wonderful time. OP, you'd better be ready yourself for one or the other: let go of her as a tenant or expect her to bring home Sam, whom she met from the grocery store.
Author oman0115 Posted December 12, 2016 Author Posted December 12, 2016 Yep, and when she brings a guy over for "Netflix and chill", I'm sure OP is going to have a wonderful time. OP, you'd better be ready yourself for one or the other: let go of her as a tenant or expect her to bring home Sam, whom she met from the grocery store. She's in love with someone she's known for a long time, who sounds like he's friendzoned her... I intend to carry on dating and right now I'm probably feeling slightly more embarrassed than depressed... Although obviously I wanted a different outcome. I'm more concerned on how I handle the situation over crying into my pillow at night. I've mourned enough women in the past I'm old enough to know there's always another bus to catch..
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