Kkristine Posted December 11, 2016 Posted December 11, 2016 (edited) I've had this feeling for a while now that this man might be interested in me, but I just wanted to let things happen without any rush. A few things related to my question. We had a conversation weeks ago about marriage and weddings. We both have a very laid-back view of our future wedding and started talking about the thrill of running off to get married in places, like Jamaica. (Obviously not together ) Last night, a bunch of friends spent the evening together, and one of the girls showed everyone her dream dress. I made a comment that I'd want an off-white dress. He steps in and says "Or just a t-shirt and shorts in Jamaica." I nod and smile and he smiles back and laughs. Another conversation we had last night was about animals and how I've always wanted a class pet for my classroom. It was just a quick thought that I forgot I had made and he texted me this afternoon asking me if I wanted two guinea pigs for my classroom that he saw posted on Facebook. I was a little in shock because I didn't think he'd remember that or that he'd even bother to think of me and reach out. Reason I ask about this is because I forgot that we even had these conversations, especially the detailed Jamaica one. Edited December 11, 2016 by Kkristine 1
OrangeParty Posted December 11, 2016 Posted December 11, 2016 Hard to say, if you're considering this (this meaning "he remembers stuff about me") in a vacuum. I'm one of those people who tend to remember random details about other people. I'm very good with names. I work part-time as a receptionist, and sometimes customers come in through the door and I would remember (and mention) random details about them, even though they've only visited us once before. My point is that, it can be a sign he's interested, especially if he goes out of his way (like the guinea pig), or it could be that he's got good memory. You'd know with more certainty if you take into account his other behaviors around you. But it's definitely one more positive data point for you to work with. 1
mortensorchid Posted December 11, 2016 Posted December 11, 2016 I don't really know what to say about that, in that I am not sure if that shows another "interest" in another. Some people are clueless, some people are attentive, some are middle of the road. And some people take things about you and use them against you. Years ago, my 3rd LTR put on his bathrobe which had a big hole in the sleeve and he said "I need a new one". Lo and behold he got one for Christmas from me. He was happy for it of course, thoughtful and practical. Did he about me? Yes, little things but ... Not overtly. Another was ignorant, another was clueless, and another was apathetic. It's the personality of the person. 1
puzzledfemale Posted December 11, 2016 Posted December 11, 2016 That is very cute, I think he has a crush on you since I doubt a regular male friend would be so attentive. Why don't you try asking him out....perhaps not as a date....but like a hangout? See how it goes? 1
Satu Posted December 11, 2016 Posted December 11, 2016 Yes, I think he's interested, or at the least, he likes you. Take care.
Miss Peach Posted December 12, 2016 Posted December 12, 2016 I would guess he likes you too unless you see him do this to everyone. Most guys don't remember tons of details like that IME. 1
Erik30 Posted December 12, 2016 Posted December 12, 2016 I think it's a pretty good sign that he might like you. Whenever I'm really into a girl, I also tend to remember almost everything she tells me, the smallest details. (Without even trying) And at the same time I'm very bad with names
Author Kkristine Posted December 13, 2016 Author Posted December 13, 2016 The problem though is that he is a flirty guy. My best friend and his best friend are engaged now. He flirts like crazy with my friend, but he does it with the fiance sitting right there. Nothing sexual, but they banter back and forth. My friend has mentioned several times that she thinks he has a thing for her. He's very subtle with me. Not so much flirty. I sometimes feel like I get mixed signals. I guess I don't necessarily attempt to flirt with him either though. Maybe I should just keep my distance for a while because I see him a few times a week now, so the feelings keep growing. Time will tell I guess.
Versacehottie Posted December 13, 2016 Posted December 13, 2016 My opinion, generalized about guys (sorry, guys!) is that they have terrible memories about the types of things you listed UNLESS they are interested! Just a little warning a guy that is a notorious flirt would definitely throw you the jamaica comment if he thinks you are interested in him and wants an ego boost. So it could be for a good reason or for a self-serving one. The pet thing was better in my opinion as a clear sign he is interest. Anyway, keep you eye on things, I suspect you will be seeing more of the same & look for more signs. Good luck 1
winny Posted December 13, 2016 Posted December 13, 2016 My best guy friend... when I met him initially, he would remember such silly stuff and that's why we became best friends. It is obvious that he cares about you but these are totally platonic things that any friend will remember and talk about. Unless there is some flirting involved or this escalates into more intimate conversations I wouldn't think too much. Play along and have fun...!
Author Kkristine Posted December 13, 2016 Author Posted December 13, 2016 I agree in that I should wait it out and see if his intentions are platonic or wanting more. He does do things that aren't necessarily platonic, like taking my hand to dance and teasing me. yesterday, I had mentioned how I find a guy cutting grass the most attractive thing ever, and no one commented back or agreed. About a minute later, he brings it up and talks about how he cuts the grass with a shirt on and then throws everything off of him when he walks in the door. Lol
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