nickflick Posted December 11, 2016 Posted December 11, 2016 Ok So I've started dating someone new a bit recently. We've had about 4 dates; 2 of them were established dates where there was a few kisses involved. Then, thanksgiving break came up and then she just stopped texting me for the longest time. I asked her straight up if something was wrong since she was so quiet and she said everything was fine she was just busy with family and stuff. It was just a super sudden change that has continued through these last few weeks of the semester. She used to be super responsive and now I can barely get her to respond to anything I say. Being busy with family or finals? I get that, I suppose. Mind you, I'm not overwhelming the poor girl. I wait a good 3-4 days before I send another text. I guess whats confusing me is I always assume if you like someone you would want to text them back whenever. I kinda assumed that was the outcome anyhow. Further, I've tried setting up small study dates and she said she didn't have time. With that, and it getting harder and harder to talk to her I'm worried I ****ed something up or she's bored of me or something. It doesn't help the fact that I don't quite know what we are yet and she hasn't given me anything that would give me a hint. I've tried indirectly asking if she wanted to still go out sometime after asking if she had anytime right before or right after finals to see each other because I figured this would be the last time we would see each other before break. She said 'no sorry' more or less and I specifically said "Ah, ok I understand :/ I guess sometime next semester if you still want to go out of course I suppose haha" and she responded with "haha yeah for sure!!!!" (then silence again, also I'd like to note I got her to talk was only after I started a light text convo in class) So then I thought, it wasnt super specific but if she didn't want to go out any more then she would tell me. I don't know maybe I'm worrying to much. Bottom line is, things have changed and I'm not quite sure what clues I should be looking at if any. I just don't want to end up in a situation where she just wants me to dump her or that shes not happy or that I'm boring her or something. And theres alot of mixed signals going on and its starting to drive me nuts because all I really want is a straight answer more or less. I also really don't want to be blind sided by anything. Like if you think I'm boring or you just aren't interested in me, just tell me; you are just making me spin my wheels at this point. Any ideas on how I should proceed? I've been stressing over this for a good long while now and I just want to know if I can move on to greener pastures or just wait.
smackie9 Posted December 11, 2016 Posted December 11, 2016 There is no such thing as "mixed" signals.....it's either yes or no. She has been blowing you off which pretty much is the norm....it's rare that anyone that will bluntly reject you. Most do it by avoiding another date, not responding to texts or give you every song and dance excuse as to why they haven't been available. To me it's pretty clear she wants nothing to do with you. Stop letting your feelings dictate what is happening..... Tip: if they don't have time, are always busy, don't respond to your texts, that means I AM NOT INTERESTED. A girl that is interested will stop at nothing to see you...... 1
Author nickflick Posted December 11, 2016 Author Posted December 11, 2016 There is no such thing as "mixed" signals.....it's either yes or no. She has been blowing you off which pretty much is the norm....it's rare that anyone that will bluntly reject you. Most do it by avoiding another date, not responding to texts or give you every song and dance excuse as to why they haven't been available. To me it's pretty clear she wants nothing to do with you. Stop letting your feelings dictate what is happening..... Tip: if they don't have time, are always busy, don't respond to your texts, that means I AM NOT INTERESTED. A girl that is interested will stop at nothing to see you...... Yeah, but that's beyond obnoxious. I mean honestly, I asked her more or less if she was interested and she would still respond to tell me that its cool? That's super confusing to me and super childish. Especially, when I've literally been nothing but nice to her I feel like if you aren't interested tell me. And if the kisses were nothing to you why keep up this charade? It's more work for you because I would keep asking. It just isn't very logical to me or at all respectful to someone.
smackie9 Posted December 11, 2016 Posted December 11, 2016 Even if she was sincere, or half interested, you are not a priority. This is what I tell everyone.....date those who treat you the way you want to be treated. She's got other things going on in her life that are taking up her time.....ditch her and date other women......always have other options.
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