echocrush Posted July 15, 2005 Posted July 15, 2005 Can you have constant drama in your life without being a drama queen? I'm really confused, I don't see myself as a dram queen, and I don't seek out these dramas... I just keep getting involved and then in over my head before I know what is happening. For the last few years my family has been harassed by another family, to the point of animals coming up missing, things being stolen, fearing for our life and safety... and so we decided we were done and filed legal action... Then I find out that someone I care about was raped, she was raped by someone who tried to rape me four years ago and I never reported it... By getting involved I will be part of two court cases at the same time, but I feel responsible for the rape in a way. I knew what he was capable of four years ago, I just got lucky... there were witnesses and someone heard me screaming. I can't say being almost raped is any better than being raped, I was held down, my pants were ripped down to my knees and he was going to do it whether I liked it or not... he just got stopped short of actually doing it. So it wasn't just the shame of the attack, but the shame of all those people knowing, seeing me like that... it was awful. I didn't report it then because I was to ashamed... and now an underage girl has been hurt by the same man, only he didn't get stopped this time. So do we make these things happen? It seems like it is one thing after another... and now two things at once. Emotionally I'm not sure if I can handle it... but at the same time I've been working really hard to get my life on track, and I've been doing well. In a way I feel like there is some spiritual cleansing going on, dealing with things that should have been dealt with long ago... in fact both of the things started about the same time... and it's just taken me four years to really face them... Anyways... I finally called the police and they are on their way over to take a report. I'm scared... but I think I have to don't I?
Craig Posted July 15, 2005 Posted July 15, 2005 Sometimes to do the right thing we must leave our comfort zones. Yes, you can handle it and you will be a better and stronger person for it. As you're going through this stage in your life look at it as a learning and growth experience. If more people were like you are becoming this would be a better world. If you get to testify in court just remember that everyone has a job to do including the attorney for the side you are testifying against. Stick to the truth, speak clearly, don't get angry and regardless of what happens remember that you are now part of the solution not part of the problem. Thank you for calling the police.
griftymcgriff Posted July 16, 2005 Posted July 16, 2005 Yeah i think it was a good thing what you did
greenhorn Posted July 16, 2005 Posted July 16, 2005 Echocrush, you did the right thing by taking legal action and reporting the matter to police. Lot of time we think of things like unnecessary trouble and don't take action and this is taken as our weakness by the other party. Of course no one likes to get in matters like this but sometimes we don't have choice, if some one is troubling you then you must take action.
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