unsafe Posted July 15, 2005 Share Posted July 15, 2005 Ok I was dating a guy for 2 months. We have been friends for about 2 years. Anyway things were good. He is kinda flaky but not bad. But I was upset because about three weeks ago he was moving and work was getting very busy for him. I barely heard from him and he wasn't making time to see me. Then for the 4th he was suppose to come down and hang out with me and my friends. He ended up calling at 5 that night saying he was to drunk to drive. I was so upset. I was like I haven't seen this guy in over a week and he isn't coming now! Come on...make an effort if you like me right? Well anyway he asked me to call him later but I never did. Then he called that Wednesday and left a message but I didn't answer or call back. he asked if I was still alive? I blocked him on my buddy list and just left it alone. I figured if he likes me he would try harder and show me he cared. But nothing. He called twice left messages but I just let it go. Then I was on the aim yesterday and I decided to unblock him to see if he would talk to me. I really liked him but I figured he wasn't interested in me. He imed me and asked where I had been? I was like don't play stupid with me. He said he wasn't that he was wondering why I was ignoring him? I was like I am pissed you stood me up on the 4th of July. He appolized like 5 times saying his friend wouldn't let him drive cause he had a few drinks. I said well then you shouldn't have drank. He was like your right. It was very wrong of me. I am just the kind of guy that hate planning stuff. I was like well if you wanted to hang out with your friends you should have just told me. He said what makes you think I wanted to hang out with my friends and not you? I said because you never showed up. He said I am sorry really..I tried to leave I did. I told him nothing will make that go away. I was hurt and I don't know what I feel about it anymore. He said that he misses me and talking and hanging out. I was like ok. He asked if I was over him? I said well I really liked you. He said I get it past tense I get it. Ok well if your over it what can I do? I said well you know actions speak louder then words. He said thats what I like to hear now your getting it. He said I want to see you so I can show you the actions. He wanted to see me last night but I had plans. So I couldn't. He was upset cause he said he missed me. But I wasn't about to break plans for a guy that stood me up. I know he called and everything but it felt horrible. So I told him that I would see him Friday night and give him another chance. I don't know what to do? Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted July 15, 2005 Share Posted July 15, 2005 Well if you want to give him another opportunity then good to go.. go out with him on Friday and see where it goes... Good Luck Link to post Share on other sites
Leah Posted July 15, 2005 Share Posted July 15, 2005 Come on...make an effort if you like me right I am just the kind of guy that hate planning stuff. Well unsafe, you certainly chose the right name This guy is definately "unsafe". I commend you for your insight into this guy's motivation and I really admire your self restraint for not running after him when you know he's a jerk ... alot of women would do that. He's not mature and as a result he just doesn't care. He said I want to see you so I can show you the actions. Yeah, I'll bet he does Good going girl. Stick to your guns and stay away from this guy. Link to post Share on other sites
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 15, 2005 Share Posted July 15, 2005 I personally am a fan of second chances but I think that it has to come from both sides at the same time. If one person wants the second chance and the other doesn't but gets talked into it, It most likely will not last. I say Go For It !! Link to post Share on other sites
New_Wife Posted July 15, 2005 Share Posted July 15, 2005 If the guy had too much to drink, and he listened to his friends when they told him not to drive, that made the road safer for everyone on it. I can see where your feelings would be hurt, but would you have preferred that he did try to drive? At least he was honest and kept you informed. Just another point of view for you to consider. Link to post Share on other sites
Leah Posted July 15, 2005 Share Posted July 15, 2005 Well, yes. Go for it ... that is if you want to complicate your life. And yes, he was definitely honest with you, honest enough to give you good perspective into exactly what he is REALLY all about.... but I think you're a pretty slick cat !! Your first reaction to all of this was the right reaction. Stick to it Link to post Share on other sites
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