SleekRow Posted December 10, 2016 Posted December 10, 2016 So I've been talking to this girl for about 2 weeks now. Our convos are really good i think. At one point she even said herself that she likes talking to me. We can talk almost all day and about anything, and it seems likes she putting effort into the convo because its basically never 2-3 word replies. I can message her long paragraphs and she also has long replies. So everything is good about our convos except for the fact that I am the only one really asking questions. Yeah she asks things once in a while but I am ultimately the only one asking questions. Even when I ask a question as simple as "how are you" i dont get that "how about you?" Now it sounds pretty bad but this is where im very confused. Our convos are a lot of fun when its not about asking questions. I never get bored of talking and texting her. But does the lack of questions show she isnt really interested? 1
Gaeta Posted December 10, 2016 Posted December 10, 2016 Why you have not met yet? When you meet her and spend time with her you'll see how she is in person. Now it's just virtual. 1
carhill Posted December 10, 2016 Posted December 10, 2016 Welcome to LS. Ask her on a date. If she isn't immediately responsive, erase. She's just hoovering your time and interest. If she doesn't show marked interest on the date, same. Like Gaeta shared, meet her and spend time with her and you'll have your answer. 1
Author SleekRow Posted December 10, 2016 Author Posted December 10, 2016 Why you have not met yet? When you meet her and spend time with her you'll see how she is in person. Now it's just virtual. We have met. The first time we met was in person.
Author SleekRow Posted December 10, 2016 Author Posted December 10, 2016 Welcome to LS. Ask her on a date. If she isn't immediately responsive, erase. She's just hoovering your time and interest. If she doesn't show marked interest on the date, same. Like Gaeta shared, meet her and spend time with her and you'll have your answer. I'm not sure but maybe I went to the wrong site? I just wanted to know what could be wrong if questions are minimal from her... I didn't meet her online, I met her in person. I knew who she was and she knew who I was, but as of 2 weeks ago I personally started talking to her.
carhill Posted December 11, 2016 Posted December 11, 2016 So, how did the date go? Questions from her and interest from her? A second date set? Etc, etc. That's how romance develops. It happens in person. Call her tonight and ask her on a date. You'll have your answer. Met hundreds of women in life and dated dozens and married one. Seen a lot of hoovers. They're everywhere. Get efficient.
joseb Posted December 11, 2016 Posted December 11, 2016 It's not a great sign she isn't asking questions. From personal experience, it usually indicates low interest. But maybe it's just her manner. Ask her on a date, two weeks is way to long to be playing pen pals especially if you already met her. She might be just bored of waiting for that.
BaileyB Posted December 11, 2016 Posted December 11, 2016 Communication is like tennis... You hit the ball to her, she hits the ball back to you. You hit the ball to her, she hits the ball back to you. If she answers your question but never engages you in turn, she doesn't really hit the ball back to you. This could indicate that she is shy or has poor social skills. Or, she could be very self involved. It's not wrong to feel like the conversation is very one sided. Maybe you can gently ask her about it "I feel like I'm asking all the questions, what would you like to know about me?" But just know, it's hard to maintain a long term relationship with someone who drops the ball all the time... 5
Miss Peach Posted December 12, 2016 Posted December 12, 2016 I've tried to date men and women with this issue. If it doesn't get better quickly then IME it usually stays the same and it's just how that person is. You'll have to decide if it's a deal breaker to you. 3
Michelle ma Belle Posted December 12, 2016 Posted December 12, 2016 Oh my goodness. If I had a nickel for every man I've met who did this I'd be in early retirement on some island holding a fruity drink with an umbrella in both hands by now! Ugh. Since she reciprocates when you speak in general terms I don't think her being shy is a good enough excuse which means she's either very self-involved and/or has poor social skill. Which one is better? Neither but that's just me. I'm with Miss Peach on this. It rarely gets better than this. If you're happy to continue chatting in generalities endlessly then awesome but if you want to be with someone who is genuinely interested in getting to know YOU better then perhaps she may not be the girl for you. If you really like her and want to see where it goes then let her know how you feel! Her response and her subsequent actions may be quite telling. Good luck. 2
Pill Posted December 12, 2016 Posted December 12, 2016 (edited) Some people just don't have communicative skills. This can stem from being only child, not going on many dates, being introverted, being nervous, etc. I met girls who didn't say a damn thing the first 3 weeks I was dating her and they were very into me. Edited December 12, 2016 by Pill
breakupthrowaway663 Posted December 12, 2016 Posted December 12, 2016 I agree with Michelle, Bailey, and MissPeach on this. I've dated many woman who had interest, but were self-involved or had poor communication skills. One even asked why I never asked for a 3rd date, when to me at the time I thought she wasn't interested. You want that chemistry in your life of being able to go back and forth and have good conversation.
SwordofFlame Posted December 12, 2016 Posted December 12, 2016 It's not a great sign she isn't asking questions. From personal experience, it usually indicates low interest. I have to agree here from my own personal experience dealing with women who behaved like this. Some of them can even talk on and on on a variety of subjects, but don't really try to get to know you at all.
CommittedToThis Posted December 12, 2016 Posted December 12, 2016 i met girls who didn't say a damn thing the first 3 weeks i was dating her and they were very into me. and you let them go?
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