Girlfriend broke up with me

[MM0903]

Hi guys.

So I have been with my (ex) girlfriend for a year and 8 months ( we are both girls,long distance). Everything was pretty much good between us until after we met. I flew to see her last july and we had the most amazing time together.There were however two fights we had because she felt unsure of continuing long distance because well,its long distance and since we are both pretty young we didnt know when wed see each other again.

I flew back home in August and thats when it all started falling apart kinda. I became so insecure thinking she didnt wanna be with me again because of the things she said while i was there but she kept saying she was just afraid and that she loves and wants me. I was so pushy to make a plan to see her again( she was supposed to come to me next but we couldnt know the date for sure) and i'll admit- I was going crazy. I fell for her too hard and i when i came back home i became depressed because of some other family and personal issues and I took it out on her. I'd start fights whenever we'd talk about the future because in my head i thought she didn't want me anymore. She said things,I said things it was just all over the place. At the end of October she broke up with me. At first,I didnt really realize it was happening and i was just hurt and mad and that started even more fights. In the meantime i started making plans to relocate to her next year but im afraid she just might be over the whole distance thing. Also,her behaviour towards me changed a little after I came back,it felt like she didnt need me as much anymore and you know when youre with someone and you just know when something changed? She wouldn't call as much,she wouldn't iniciate skyping it was always me and then all that made me even more insecure. I'll be the first one to admit I ****ed up and i pushed her and was starting fights because i was so down but ****,i never thought she'd just up and leave like this? We are doing the whole NC thing rn and this is day 3.Needless to say im not doing good but eh,life. I want her back. I want her and i love this girl despite everything, I truly do. We spoke 3 days ago ( i called her) and she was distant and cold. I feel like shes pushing me away because all the fights drove her kinda insane( she'd hit herself and cry a lot and it was bad). She showed me no emotion. I know i should let her go but i also know we'd work if we could try again because i feel more like my old self again and i know i wouldnt push because im no longer in that place.I fear she just hates me now(her friends said i was an emotional bully? I admit to starting fights but i always made sure she knew i was commited,that she was perfect for me and that i wanted her,i never lied,cheated, i was in it + you know? It's hard to explain the whole situation but if anyone has any advice..Im giving her space but im afraid shes just in a place where she thinks the relationship was all bad and it wasnt and ah when we wwere together it was so worth it.To me. Maybe she just isnt into it anymore? I forgot to mention,when I called her the other day it felt like there was still something there but then again she was pushing me away and saying a lot of nasty things to me for a whole month so i dont even know. I want this girl. Yes we are young,yes the long distance sucks but im the type that doesnt give up easily and it seems like she has.

[Miss Clavel]

Hi guys.

So I have been with my (ex) girlfriend for a year and 8 months ( we are both girls,long distance). Everything was pretty much good between us until after we met. I flew to see her last july and we had the most amazing time together.There were however two fights we had because she felt unsure of continuing long distance because well,its long distance and since we are both pretty young we didnt know when wed see each other again.

I flew back home in August and thats when it all started falling apart kinda. I became so insecure thinking she didnt wanna be with me again because of the things she said while i was there but she kept saying she was just afraid and that she loves and wants me. I was so pushy to make a plan to see her again( she was supposed to come to me next but we couldnt know the date for sure) and i'll admit- I was going crazy. I fell for her too hard and i when i came back home i became depressed because of some other family and personal issues and I took it out on her. I'd start fights whenever we'd talk about the future because in my head i thought she didn't want me anymore. She said things,I said things it was just all over the place. At the end of October she broke up with me. At first,I didnt really realize it was happening and i was just hurt and mad and that started even more fights. In the meantime i started making plans to relocate to her next year but im afraid she just might be over the whole distance thing. Also,her behaviour towards me changed a little after I came back,it felt like she didnt need me as much anymore and you know when youre with someone and you just know when something changed? She wouldn't call as much,she wouldn't iniciate skyping it was always me and then all that made me even more insecure. I'll be the first one to admit I ****ed up and i pushed her and was starting fights because i was so down but ****,i never thought she'd just up and leave like this? We are doing the whole NC thing rn and this is day 3.Needless to say im not doing good but eh,life. I want her back. I want her and i love this girl despite everything, I truly do. We spoke 3 days ago ( i called her) and she was distant and cold. I feel like shes pushing me away because all the fights drove her kinda insane( she'd hit herself and cry a lot and it was bad). She showed me no emotion. I know i should let her go but i also know we'd work if we could try again because i feel more like my old self again and i know i wouldnt push because im no longer in that place.I fear she just hates me now(her friends said i was an emotional bully? I admit to starting fights but i always made sure she knew i was commited,that she was perfect for me and that i wanted her,i never lied,cheated, i was in it + you know? It's hard to explain the whole situation but if anyone has any advice..Im giving her space but im afraid shes just in a place where she thinks the relationship was all bad and it wasnt and ah when we wwere together it was so worth it.To me. Maybe she just isnt into it anymore? I forgot to mention,when I called her the other day it felt like there was still something there but then again she was pushing me away and saying a lot of nasty things to me for a whole month so i dont even know. I want this girl. Yes we are young,yes the long distance sucks but im the type that doesnt give up easily and it seems like she has.

 

it sounds like it's over. the reasons don't matter, but there are a lot of them.

 

it might work out, however, you will still take things out on her and push her away when you life gets rough.

 

you will have to work on your coping tools before you start over, with someone else that isn't long distance.