Not sure whether or not to tell

[HarKim]

I’ve got quite a bizarre situation and I’m not quite sure what to do.

 

Someone who is more of an acquaintance than a friend, he’s part of our extended group but I don’t know him well, needed a place for his girlfriend to stay. I had a spare room and was looking for a roommate. So she moved in.

 

She’s been here about 4 months now and I’m just on the verge of kicking her out. She is a nutcase, well more accurately a flirty piece of trash. She has “accidently” walked out of the shower twice claiming she never knew I was home. She was looking for her bra the other morning before work and came to the KITCHEN topless to ask if it was there. I mean why the **** would it be? She thinks lingerie is appropriate wear for around the house. She’s left a vibrator on the floor next to her computer which is in the dining room. This is a fraction of what I’ve dealt with and it’s only been 4 months.

 

She has not actually made a move directly for sex or even hinted that if I tried she would be receptive. Maybe she’s just comfortable being nude around other people but it’s too much for me.

 

So all of this was playing on my mind and I was sort of second guessing myself whether I was just too much of a prude. But last weekend sealed the deal for me. I was away for the weekend and when I came home I found a whole lot of used condoms in the trash in the bathroom. I wasn’t going to go through the bin but there must have been at least 6-8. I know for a fact her boyfriend was not in town that weekend either.

 

I confronted her and she said she had a small party and none of them had anything to do with her. She apologized for not cleaning them up. I spoke to the neighbors, they tell me there were only two girls and “a bunch of guys”. And that the girls were out the front “flashing” their boobs at passing cars being cheered on by the guys.

 

So I’m going to wait until after Christmas to ask her to leave, that is already decided. What I want to ask is should I tell her boyfriend what I know? If not, how far, how much do I tell him of the reasons why I am kicking her out?

 

The truth is, I don’t know if any of those condoms were related to her, they could be all from the other girl, as unlikely as that seems. Even though her boyfriend is nothing more than an acquaintance I’d hate to think that his girlfriend is doing this behind his back. Even forgetting the party, just what she has done around the house with me is wrong.

 

So what do people think?

[mikeylo]

Don't say anything to the guy. As for reasons to kick out, you don't have to actually kick her out per se. Tell that your mom , sister, brother ,cousin etc is coming to stay and you need the room.

 

Telling the guy may backfire

[doyathinkso]

If you were in your friend's shoes wouldn't you want your GOOD FRIEND to tell you?

 

Keeping her secret is being complicit in her betrayal of him.

 

Totally in disagreement with the previous poster.

[Gloria25]

Don't say anything to the guy. As for reasons to kick out, you don't have to actually kick her out per se. Tell that your mom , sister, brother ,cousin etc is coming to stay and you need the room.

 

Telling the guy may backfire

 

Don't wait till after Xmas. She doesn't deserve such consideration.

[road]

Tell her she has to move out by Saturday.

 

 

Then after she is gone and you have the locks changed tell her BF.