198711 Posted December 10, 2016 Posted December 10, 2016 So where do i begin...we had been together 13years, been through alot together. We had alot of ups and downs. Last year i just got to the point where i had enough and made the decision to end it as he became so lazy, never seen him as he was working, we did nothing together. So he moved out. In that time i was never interested in anyone else jusy needed time to myself. He did text but i tried to ignore him. In that came to realise that i loved him so much but i didnt want to take him back and it go back to how it was. 5 months later we ended up getting back together,in the beginning it was amazing, felt like it was a good thing, he had grown up as he didnt have me to everythinh for him and it was amazing. He got a new job, all good up until july of this year when he started going out with mates from work, which i had no problem with,however then in august there was a night he didnt come home,so when he did he said that he stayed at his mates, then september he went out every weekend and never come home, hed just come back on a sunday night for work, we were obviously arguing alot by now. I told him i couldnt do this, so he promised hed change and hes stop going out as much. That friday he went drinking after work and never come home. We argued. Then he said he was sorry and try again, we did the next weekend we went out was lovely but by mid week,thursday he never come home, nor friday, he did text asking to be picked up but i was asleep. The all weekend he never come home. He stayed away all week, then the weekend after he came to get changed and took his tv. He said he was moving out as this is what i wanted. I didnt argue back. I just stood there. 3 days later i went on the laptop and he was logged into facebook, i looked at his messages, their it was. Lots of messages to girls, mates telling them he has been single for 8 months. I was distraught. I was paying for his phone bill, he owed me quite a lot of money. And he had moved in with another woman. He told me that the messages were just banter and that he was just staying there unti he got a flat. That was mid october. I begged for weeks for him to come home,id made a mistake, it made me see that maybe i should have fought for him. He messaged back in this time,telling me he loved me but its gone too far, then another day he wanted to come home,then next i needed to wait until he gets a flat then we can work at it, then next he hated me. He ended up coming over 2 weeks ago and it was perfect, he kept telling me he loved me,making plans. Then next day he said he had to pop back and get his charger, he came back and said sorry i got to go over my mates, he needs some help ill be back later. Of course he never came back i text constantly and he then said that it wasnt going to work, didnt feel right. We continued texting. Then on the saturday he text some abuse about seeing one of my friends and she told him that i cheated on him and he said lots of nasty things. I knew he was lieing as ive never been with anyone else even when we split up. I told him i was with her and his excuse was well i want you to realise shes madr this happen, i hate her she chanhed you last year.Then he sent a message to say he was going out and to have a nice night. I told him to leave it. Then monday we text i begged him again, he said he didnt know what he wanted. Them tuesday again,untip wednesday i said enoughs enough either take the phone on or give it back and i will have to pay it off. Of course he blocked me,so i went so low to message this girl and she said she would get the phone to me by the monday. I ended up sayin well this is pathetic, ive paid all these bills and i just want it back now,hes played me long enough...oh dear...she started going off at me, asking me what hes been saying,so i screenshot some of the messages she just said thank you and blocked me. I managed to get the phone back that day by getting a friend to go there. Hes now blocked me on facebook. So im assuming they are together. Im feeling so low, helpless all i can do is cry wanting him back, wishing id tried stopping him. Hoping hes going to come home. But hes not, hes with her. I dont know how to get through this. I miss him and love him so much and have admitted my mistakes, but now hes blocked me i have no way of contacting him, its been just over a week now and am struggling to cope.
elaine567 Posted December 10, 2016 Posted December 10, 2016 Too much begging on your part. He has moved out and is now with another woman. STOP paying his phone bill and any other expenses he is racking up and accept it is over. Even if he came back tomorrow, do you really want to be a doormat for the rest of your life? He has voted with his feet as to where he wants to be. Leave him to it. Do not be be the besotted gf that he uses as a FWB. Have more respect for yourself. He has made his bed, so let him go and lie on it. Reserve your bed for a guy who wants you and only you. 1
Kelley Posted December 11, 2016 Posted December 11, 2016 I know it hurts like hell, but this guy has used you and moved on. He doesn't deserve your love, your tears you wanting him back. You need to take him blocking you as a blessing, you will heal quicker. You will be angry for sometime I know that, but you need to move forward and learn a valuable lesson from this. You deserve so much more, it's over it's time to look after you now. You can do it, one day at a time it will get better I promise.
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