My ex girlfriend says she still likes me, but not ready for a relationship

[Mike12333]

Hi, this is my first time posting here. I basically need some advice on what I should be doing. Here's my story, before I explain everything, thank you in advance for responding.

I am a college student, a freshmen, and I never been in a relationship until I got to college. I first met my ex through chemistry extra help session and first time I saw her, I wasn't that attracted to her, but I got her number regardless. I started to text her and we studied together for few times. I eventually asked her out and she said yes. While we were dating, everything was perfect, we only dated little over a month, she liked me and I liked her. Although I wasn't initially attracted to her, I learned to love her and fell in love with her personality. She is very nice, very against cheating since her previous relationships ended with cheating. She is smart and funny. I just loved everything about her. Then one Friday evening, everything changed. Since it's too long to explain, I'm just gonna point out the main part.

So basically one of her friends told me that my ex was roofied and that I needed to get her. I was worried about her so I called the campus police. Turns out, she was fine, but she lost her full scholarship and was busted. That's when our relationship started to fall. She was mad at me for couple days because I didn't "trust" her, she told me she wasn't gonna drink, but I told her that even if she told me that she wasn't going to drink, how am I suppose to act when one of her friend said she was roofied.... She broke up with me, but eventually we got back together like few days later. Then everything was good again. We were happy, until few days ago. I thought the problem with drinking was resolved by college and everything was good, but it was not. Turns out, she had to go trial as a witness because of the guy who threw the party. He was a senior and he was in **** ton of trouble because he had minors with alcohol. Apparently, he asked her to be his witness and say that she was not drunk, etc... And so she did. She also was worried about what she's going to do next year about coming back to college or not since she lost her scholarship so she was worried. While this was going on, we were still "together" but I felt the distant between us two so I confronted her and she said we should break up because she's not ready to be in a relationship. I was heartbroken, for the first time. I asked her if I can wait until she is ready to be in a relationship, but she told me to move on. So that's what I did. On Tuesday, I broke No Contact and we started to talk again. And today, we hung out. She told me that she is hanging out with this senior as a friend once a week. She also previously told me thru text that she doesn't want to date a senior. She's not hooking up kind of type so I'm not worried about her having sex with different guys. After she left my dorm, I asked her if she wants to be friends or more than friends. She responded saying she likes me, but she doesn't think she's ready to be in a relationship. That was my final attempt to get her back, but didn't work. I don't understand why she would say she likes me but don't want to be in a relationship with me? Is she just being nice? I feel like I would be better off if she said she no longer has feelings for me anymore. The question I have is, should I be moving on or should I be her friend and get her back once she's ready to be in a relationship? It sucks, but I managed myself to get my **** together. I just don't know what to do.... please any advice will help me. Thank you.

[oldshirt]

Never put yourself on the shelf for anyone. Always be moving forward.

 

Always be moving forward on your path. The one(s) that is/are right for you will be the one following you on your path. Never ever ever let anyone put you on the shelf to wait for them to make up their mind or to "be ready" for a relationship. Either they are into you or they are not.

 

Anyone that asks for a "break" or wants you to wait is not into you.....period.

 

That is just an ego ploy to stroke their ego and to give them a safety net to fall back on and a back up plan in case the dude they are scoping out currently doesn't work out.

 

Any time anyone gives you the brush off or isn't all-in, be moving on and carrying on with your own life. Always be moving forward. If someone is not keeping up, they are not the right one. Leave them behind.

 

No exceptions.

[Hoosfoos]

Never put yourself on the shelf for anyone. Always be moving forward.

 

Always be moving forward on your path. The one(s) that is/are right for you will be the one following you on your path. Never ever ever let anyone put you on the shelf to wait for them to make up their mind or to "be ready" for a relationship. Either they are into you or they are not.

 

Anyone that asks for a "break" or wants you to wait is not into you.....period.

 

That is just an ego ploy to stroke their ego and to give them a safety net to fall back on and a back up plan in case the dude they are scoping out currently doesn't work out.

 

Any time anyone gives you the brush off or isn't all-in, be moving on and carrying on with your own life. Always be moving forward. If someone is not keeping up, they are not the right one. Leave them behind.

 

No exceptions.

 

Totally agree with Oldshirt. You're young, you're going to meet a ton of more women. As much as you like this one, there is way too much drama with her.

[Mike12333]

Thank you so much, I will move on..... at least I'll try. Thank you, thank you

[oldshirt]

Thank you so much, I will move on..... at least I'll try. Thank you, thank you

 

"No!! There is no try! Do or don't do."

 

- Yoda

 

 

Saying I'll try is giving yourself a wuss-out clause. Don't try. Do it.