titicaka21 Posted July 15, 2005 Posted July 15, 2005 Well I definately need some help with this one. Let me say this is not a 'coping' issue. I dated a girl now referred to as 'jenius', lets see we have been broken up for 5 months. To make a long story short...I paid for a trip to the superbowl for her, cause shes broke off her ass and 2 weeks later she slept with another guy because she wasnt 'feeling loved' so 2 weeks after this all went down she comes back to me and tells me she wants to be with me, and this new guy is short and impatient with other people so she sees him doing that to her. hes a stalker, a creep and a douchebag from what i know of him. Thats what i got broken off for, and she lied to me and to my friends, did it on the phone after 2 years....actually left a voice mail. My 2 friends at the time tim and denise (who were dating had my back, told me i would be better off. Tim and I share hockey seats at a local minor league venue. Well about a month after me and this "jenius" broke it off he broke it off with denise. Well actually denise dumped him. She did it the right way, and didnt sting him along. I know he is hurt because he really like her. He and jenius work together in another office, and me and denise work together. He i thought was tight, and told me that I am doing the right thing by not dating her again, he said he dispised her and sees right through her. Well after hockey season, i am working 70 hours a week and busy. I have tried to email him invite him to things and he doesnt respond the way he used to. Now there was a staff meeting at work, I didnt go because I had a doctor appt. People told me tim & jenius are best friends it seems like. They are over the top friends.....like it wasnt abnoxious but you could tell something was going on. My question is, do i confront tim about this, and ask him why he would befriend someone who would run him under the train tracks at the first sign that she could help herself out, and not hang out with me, someone who dropped what he was doing to go fix his computer one night back in may. The jenius is a master manipulator, and I think she has turned a good friend against me, because shes ruthless and vindictive. Do i confront tim, do i ask him whats going on. when do i get to a point and say, l cant sit next to someone at a hockey game who can be friends with someone who would completely dick me over like that and lie to everyone. I really need advice on what i should do next.....
Merin Posted July 15, 2005 Posted July 15, 2005 Hook up with Denise and take her to the next Hockey game LOL Seriously that sucks about your EX.. If you want to ask Tim whats up with him and your EX I think that would be all okay.. if there is anything going on I don't think Tim will tell you about it though.. could be your EX is just trying to get back at you so to speak by dating your buddy Tim (or at least trying to date him) If she is that awful I'm sure Tim will find that out in time, just like you did.. Until then I guess I wouldn't give her (or even him) the satisfaction of letting them know it bothers you.. Hang in there.. Ex's are Ex's for a reason..
Author titicaka21 Posted July 15, 2005 Author Posted July 15, 2005 Denise is like a sister to me, but she is hot. The jenius isnt trying to hook up. She isolates herself. Relies on whoever shes with the be happy. She cannot be alone, she is a loner. I think it is convienant for her to be friends with tim, because he is easily a pushover. If it were me and a girl screwed over my good friend, I wouldnt talk to her again. I dont really know why tim would be ok with it. I know why she is doing it because she doesnt have any friends, except her boyfriend....im more concerned with if i should move my seats, or confront him. I am a man about this sort of stuff. I guess its possible that hes not talking to me because im still friends with denise. She was my friend before they dated, and still is. I am not going to not talk to her because she decided it wasnt working out and told him goodbye, simply because she was listening to her heart. She treated him like an adult and didnt string him along. The jenius on the other hand, lied to me, lied to tim and denise, and screwed around with the biggest loser that was desprate enough to be a pansy and give her whatever she wants, and be with her 24/7 so she feels 'loved'..... My options, Confront tim, and accept his side of the story Dont confront tim and let things slide, knowing that hes sleeping with enemy. Confront tim, and tell him he needs to be a man, and decide if he wants to be with a manipulator whos using him cause she doesnt have much, or with someone whos got his back through thin and thin.....
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