2011 Posted December 9, 2016 Posted December 9, 2016 Hey Everyone, I guess this has been triggered by yet another what I'm thinking has been another failed date, after such a promising start with this girl. I spoke to this girl who lived not far away and we had plenty of emails and talked about everything and anything, so we set up a date and I thought hey I'll be nervous a bit but am not bad at coming over it now. So as soon as we met I went into a total clam up I could hardly speak for a few minutes, I was blurting out things we had already talked about, but after a bit I grabbed hold of myself and settled into it and we were talking about this and that. I felt my face go scarlet for a few minutes at first but it disappeared. She was doing quite a bit of the talking and we had a coffee, but even though I was still kind of nervous I managed to talk about this and that but could still feel I was anxious the whole way through. After we'd finished coffees it was getting on and I thought to myself well I don't want to sit and wait till she's or me is half asleep as it was a weeknight as well as I was starting to feel worn out from the day, we'd had a good talk as well. I said I'll need to get going now and she "oh...right" as if to say are you finishing up already; this was after about an hour of sitting. So we went out the place we met up and had a bit of a talk and we both said it has been a good night and enjoyed meeting up. We turned and faced and had a few little kisses but nothing too much. I didn't want to stick my tongue done her neck, I'm not that kind of guy on a first date, and I don't think she would have either. It was kind of awkward I wasn't sure if I should have went more for a longer kiss. I'm wondering now does she think I didn't like her or wanted to get away. I wanted basically to lead the night as a guy should do and it was a first date for a coffee that was it. Didn't want to hang out it anyway. And this is the bit I always find really awkward on a first date. If you think ok I kind of like her and want to try a few more dates, maybe get a meal or whatever. I never know whether to say lets make another date on the spot as it looks clingy or desperate, plus you really don't know where she is standing either. I said ok give me a bell sometime and that was it. I also texted after meeting saying great meeting you very interesting and enjoy rest of night, she said thanks same here, and for making effort to come down etc. I don't know if that went down well tbh i.e. did it sound like I was saying nice to meet you and sort of bye anyway I'm not that interested? Any thoughts, should I give her a wee text maybe to sound her out at the moment as haven't heard a peep. Was trying to restrain from texting as didn't want to ask something stupid or make situation worse. Thanks
strawberryshortstack Posted December 9, 2016 Posted December 9, 2016 Hey Everyone, I guess this has been triggered by yet another what I'm thinking has been another failed date, after such a promising start with this girl. I spoke to this girl who lived not far away and we had plenty of emails and talked about everything and anything, so we set up a date and I thought hey I'll be nervous a bit but am not bad at coming over it now. So as soon as we met I went into a total clam up I could hardly speak for a few minutes, I was blurting out things we had already talked about, but after a bit I grabbed hold of myself and settled into it and we were talking about this and that. I felt my face go scarlet for a few minutes at first but it disappeared. She was doing quite a bit of the talking and we had a coffee, but even though I was still kind of nervous I managed to talk about this and that but could still feel I was anxious the whole way through. After we'd finished coffees it was getting on and I thought to myself well I don't want to sit and wait till she's or me is half asleep as it was a weeknight as well as I was starting to feel worn out from the day, we'd had a good talk as well. I said I'll need to get going now and she "oh...right" as if to say are you finishing up already; this was after about an hour of sitting. So we went out the place we met up and had a bit of a talk and we both said it has been a good night and enjoyed meeting up. We turned and faced and had a few little kisses but nothing too much. I didn't want to stick my tongue done her neck, I'm not that kind of guy on a first date, and I don't think she would have either. It was kind of awkward I wasn't sure if I should have went more for a longer kiss. I'm wondering now does she think I didn't like her or wanted to get away. I wanted basically to lead the night as a guy should do and it was a first date for a coffee that was it. Didn't want to hang out it anyway. And this is the bit I always find really awkward on a first date. If you think ok I kind of like her and want to try a few more dates, maybe get a meal or whatever. I never know whether to say lets make another date on the spot as it looks clingy or desperate, plus you really don't know where she is standing either. I said ok give me a bell sometime and that was it. I also texted after meeting saying great meeting you very interesting and enjoy rest of night, she said thanks same here, and for making effort to come down etc. I don't know if that went down well tbh i.e. did it sound like I was saying nice to meet you and sort of bye anyway I'm not that interested? Any thoughts, should I give her a wee text maybe to sound her out at the moment as haven't heard a peep. Was trying to restrain from texting as didn't want to ask something stupid or make situation worse. Thanks You kissed her, she kissed back, I assume. That's a good sign. However, you then left the ball in her court, and that's not good. If you'd like to see her again, you'll need to call her and ask her out. 1
Author 2011 Posted December 11, 2016 Author Posted December 11, 2016 You kissed her, she kissed back, I assume. That's a good sign. However, you then left the ball in her court, and that's not good. If you'd like to see her again, you'll need to call her and ask her out. We both did say we'd like to see each other again and have had a few emails and she said she's like to get to know me more. She thought I wasn't interested as I said I had to go after our drink. I explained simply had to get home as was up early in the morning.
puzzledfemale Posted December 11, 2016 Posted December 11, 2016 Ask her out again It sounds like the first date went well, or esle she wouldn't have kissed you back. Perhaps she is not sure how you feel about her too!
strawberryshortstack Posted December 12, 2016 Posted December 12, 2016 We both did say we'd like to see each other again and have had a few emails and she said she's like to get to know me more. She thought I wasn't interested as I said I had to go after our drink. I explained simply had to get home as was up early in the morning. This is all well and good, but actions speak louder than words. Ask her out for a second date. Preferably by phone, not text or email.
Author 2011 Posted December 21, 2016 Author Posted December 21, 2016 This is all well and good, but actions speak louder than words. Ask her out for a second date. Preferably by phone, not text or email. I did say to her let me know when you're free and we'll arrange something. She said will let keep me posted about day off next week but hasn't said anything since. I don't like asking because they always say well I'm busy then and then and they never seem to see yeah not that day, how about this day instead. Just so sick of being blown off (not the good way ha!)
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