palmsand Posted December 9, 2016 Posted December 9, 2016 I'm 23 years old, only been on one date and never had a gf. I have worked at a huge store for several years now and have been attending college five years at this point. OLD is a bust. Every woman I get to know just sees me as a friend and politely shrugs off my attempt at anything more. I feel like I am isolating myself from others because of my interests and who I am. The town I live in is pretty crappy for us young people, just a suburban social desert. I know a lot of people however all but my best friends are either practically homeless or on hard drugs or other crap like that. It's like there aren't any decent, thoughtful people who I would actually want to spend time with. I could hang out with a bunch of girls anytime but they are basically criminal losers. I don't have much opportunity at school because my classes tend to be full of dudes, on account of my major. I know people say to just do something to put yourself out there, something different to meet new people. But if I am pushing myself to do things I don't like, aren't I betraying who I am? Why can't I just be myself and meet someone randomly, genuinely, like other people? Like I know why I am in this situation, I don't know why I should expect it to change. I know there isn't a magical answer to this, just venting I guess.
Philosoraptor Posted December 9, 2016 Posted December 9, 2016 If your area lacks women you are interested in, I'd suggest a change of scenery. There is no need to violate who you are in order to meet someone compatible. You say your interests hold you back? I've not seen much that women aren't interested in as well. Are there any clubs or groups in the area? How about searching neighboring areas for those groups? That way you'll already have something in common with the people there, and you'll be out of your normal social circle.
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