Author griffindor Posted January 18, 2017 Author Posted January 18, 2017 Sorry to tell you this but he's been dating other women while you've been broken up. And when that doesn't go easy or well, he reaches out. It doesn't mean that he's an evil person..it means he's human and maximizing his own pleasure. Time for you to start doing the same. When you find out how to make yourself happy without an outside person, it will make any relationship clearer because it will be a choice for you to step into it. Right now, you're not making a choice...you're reacting. I know 100% that hes not dating other women.
Author griffindor Posted January 18, 2017 Author Posted January 18, 2017 No it wasn't nice or civil for him to do that knowing how you felt about him knowing he didn't want back. My ex stopped contacting me after I said what I did. That was her being nice and civil. If your ex now does the same, then you could say he is being respectful and civil. Don't get me wrong though. My ex was selfish with me too and really liked having me around, but I wasn't going to let her have part of me without having all of me. thank you for the validation
MeadowFlower Posted January 18, 2017 Posted January 18, 2017 ... I wasn't going to let her have part of me without having all of me. I kinda like that. All or nothing buddy.
Been Posted January 18, 2017 Posted January 18, 2017 First don't beat yourself up-we've all done things like you've done when we were madly in love with someone. Sometimes we think that love will trump the bad and make everything right. Second- you can't talk to him anymore. You love him too much and your at risk from letting your emotions overtake your thinking. And he knows that. Third-if you really want him back you have to show him that you can go on without him if need be. I know that sounds crazy but the more you pine away for him the further you push him away. Sometimes people don't know what they have until it's not there anymore. Fourth- if he begs you back you as a person have got to basically tell yourself that if I take him back and it doesn't work this time we are done FOREVER. Because if you don't you'll find yourself going back and forth until he finds someone he deems worthy of replacing you. Like the previous poster said-all or nothing.
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