OatsAndHall Posted December 9, 2016 Posted December 9, 2016 Just try and make some small talk between without interrupting the workout. You'll figure out if she's into you in a hurry if she reciprocates. If she seems into you, then just ask her out. What's the worst that could happen? She says "no". That's your doomsday, dude. She just says "no". She may think of you as some creepy guy, she may not. It doesn't matter in the end. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.
LookAtThisPOst Posted December 9, 2016 Posted December 9, 2016 Pfft! The gym is like any other place. There are people there. Some may be open to meeting people, making friends, making connections. Other's may not. I am sure it would be pretty evident once you make the first overture. For my part, I typically focus on my workout, and while I will notice if some attractive woman is there, I won't ogle her and I generally won't approach. However, I have REPEATEDLY been approached by women at the gym. In some cases, they had to go well out of their way in order to make that happen. I have been told that I presented a very frustrating scenario: they tried throwing glances my way, and I either did not see them or ignored them. More than one woman later told me that they had tried such hints for a while before just dropping the silliness and walking straight up to me. Where I am now, I figure, I *like* to work out, and I am likely to find a like-minded woman at the gym, so it is probably a GOOD place to meet people. That doesn't necessarily mean a good place to DATE people. I try to be open and friendly at the gym. I figure over time that might lead to dating, in some cases, but in any event, it makes the gym more fun, now that I am getting to know some of the other folks there a bit. At least well enough to say "Hi, how are you today?" Agreed...after all you're all like-minded at least when keeping in shape and working out. I get a kick out how single people do what they can to make excuses not to approach someone. It's defeatist.
Imported Posted January 12, 2017 Posted January 12, 2017 Been on a few dates with a girl I recently met at the gym. The way I broke the ice with her was purely unintentional and I actually was only trying to do exactly what I was trying to do. But she interpreted as me trying to break the ice and was very receptive. I was working out on a machine and chewing gum. I changed out to new gum, wrapped up the old gum in the wrapper and left it on the machine intending to throw it away when I moved on to a different station, but I forgot all about the gum. I was a couple sets into the next area and remembered I left trash behind. I'm actually a very clean person and don't believe in littering or making it so someone else has to pick-up my ****, so I went back to get it and throw it away. She was there on the machine and looked like in-between sets, so I just went up, apologized and said I left trash behind and was just gonna grab it and throw it away. That was all it took. She gave me a big smile, I smiled back and we just talked. 1
OnlyHonesty Posted January 13, 2017 Posted January 13, 2017 I can't even step into a gym without women perving at me, so I strongly suggest you do not stare at them. I even tried wearing ratty old T-shirts and baggy clothing but it didn't make a difference!
TheTraveler Posted February 16, 2017 Posted February 16, 2017 I've read multiple threads on here about staring and the women would be confused and finally ask the guy out So now I go to the gym and stare hard at the cute ones at the gym 4
hercules22 Posted February 16, 2017 Posted February 16, 2017 if she is wearing earphones dont approach she doesnt want anyone to talk to her
Miss Spider Posted February 16, 2017 Posted February 16, 2017 (edited) It's never creepy to be approached if the guy is hot Not serious (Okay Semi-serious) Edited February 16, 2017 by Cookiesandough 3
preraph Posted February 16, 2017 Posted February 16, 2017 Honestly, I think it's best if men do not approach at the gym, because it is creepy. And also, what if you did get her? She'd never want you to go to the gym again because she knows you pick up women there!! I think for men, it's best to let women come to you at the gym. If they are single and they are interested, they will start talking to you or flirting. And then it's not creepy, and then they don't think you're just there to pick up women. But then you'll never be able to relax when she goes to the gym, right? 1
thefooloftheyear Posted February 17, 2017 Posted February 17, 2017 (edited) I go to the gym....and train my ass off...I couldn't be bothered if Katy Perry had her tits in my face.. The End.... I wouldn't approach anyone at the gym...Leave them alone and let them be..Its especially tough for women as a lot of guys stare them down....It must feel like they can't do anything for fear of putting bodyparts in compromising positions..In fact, when I see a woman training, I deliberately look away, so they don't feel awkward.. TFY Edited February 17, 2017 by thefooloftheyear 1
GoldSparkz Posted February 17, 2017 Posted February 17, 2017 I think you should be careful approaching women in gyms as gyms are turning into cesspits full of dirty, learing men (and possibly women too!). I work out solely at home or outdoors as I found there were instances when guys would creep me out in gyms. One example, I was in the gym early one morning so I could focus on my marathon training, which meant I was doing HIIT on the treadmill for over an hour wearing a bra top and leggings (because of the summer heat). Turns out there was a guy on a machine lined up directly behind me the whole time - bear in mind the gym was empty and he could have used any other machine! Another time the same thing happen in a hotel gym, some sweaty creep staring at my ass directly behind me and we're the only two people in the gym. A gentlemen would have gone out of his way to avoid looking like a creep. I have now invested in a treadmill and other equipment as well as run outdoors to avoid this crap. Although running outdoors I still get plenty of guys making me feel uncomfortable. And I'm no Victoria Secrets model...just the sheer fact I've got female genitalia. So in my opinion, if she isn't giving you plenty of eye contact, leave her alone.
LookAtThisPOst Posted February 17, 2017 Posted February 17, 2017 I think you should be careful approaching women in gyms as gyms are turning into cesspits full of dirty, learing men (and possibly women too!). I work out solely at home or outdoors as I found there were instances when guys would creep me out in gyms. One example, I was in the gym early one morning so I could focus on my marathon training, which meant I was doing HIIT on the treadmill for over an hour wearing a bra top and leggings (because of the summer heat). Turns out there was a guy on a machine lined up directly behind me the whole time - bear in mind the gym was empty and he could have used any other machine! Another time the same thing happen in a hotel gym, some sweaty creep staring at my ass directly behind me and we're the only two people in the gym. A gentlemen would have gone out of his way to avoid looking like a creep. I have now invested in a treadmill and other equipment as well as run outdoors to avoid this crap. Although running outdoors I still get plenty of guys making me feel uncomfortable. And I'm no Victoria Secrets model...just the sheer fact I've got female genitalia. So in my opinion, if she isn't giving you plenty of eye contact, leave her alone. The OP was talking a,bout engaging in conversation with women at the gym. The men you mention here did not yet you still criticize? Sounds like a lose lose situation. Lol
GoldSparkz Posted February 17, 2017 Posted February 17, 2017 The OP was talking a,bout engaging in conversation with women at the gym. The men you mention here did not yet you still criticize? Sounds like a lose lose situation. Lol What is wrong with me stating my experiences when dealing with encounters with men in gyms? - including one exchange which was verbal (although this guy was polite). In the last part of my comment, I suggested that the OP only approach this lady if she gives the impression that she is interested as she may have felt uncomfortable from past experiences of dealing with unwanted attention in this gym.
winterkeep Posted February 21, 2017 Posted February 21, 2017 Hi, I go to the gym to train, not to pick up men. But in saying that I did date a guy from my gym awhile back (we ended up not being compatible but remain good friends now). He would just smile and say 'Hey" if we happened to be in the same area and our paths crossed naturally we started speaking more from there. His approach was normal and casual so I was receptive to it, however; I get creeped on all the time at the gym by total creepers who stare, follow me around and WORST OF ALL offer me training advice. Theres one guy in particular who is about 15 years older than me, overweight and just plain awkward who actually makes me nervous by his behaviour as he tries to give me tips and follows me around - i've shut him down to the point that he doesn't try to talk to me anymore, instead he stands behind me when I'm lifting. Don't be that guy! lots of women (me included) have developed the 1000 mile stare to avoid accidentally making eye contact with anyone to avoid the situation mentioned above but if the guys is attractive and normal I'd at least smile back
zeeohsixer Posted February 21, 2017 Posted February 21, 2017 There's this girl that goes to my gym and works out almost every night around the same time I do. Ive noticed she sometimes works out around me (not always and I don't think it's on purpose either)...she made eye contact with me once but only real quick. Anyways, I'm thinking about going up to talk to her, but I suck at pickup to be honest and not sure the best way to go about it, if at all. I'm not sure what to even say if I do... I know there is a bad stigma associated with gym pickup and don't want to be labeled a creep or make things awkward haha. On a side note, I'm finding it difficult to meet the opposite sex in my late 20s besides online which really isn't working...no friends since I just moved back to town and I work in a male dominated field and on top of that, I never work with the same people more than a day so it's difficult making friends to go out with. Basically I feel like my only option is to meet someone at the gym at this point or to hit the bars solo which I'm trying to stay away from. Ugh the struggle lol.. Any way to go about this without being labeled a creep or should I forget it? Just walk up to her and introduce yourself like you would do in a professional setting while networking. Ahead of time think of a innocent ice breaker related to the gym (maybe something about personal trainers, classes etc, any BS, you get the idea). Viola, you're in a conversation with her, progress with anything else you've thought of. If she is interested she will engage, if not make it quick and excuse yourself. 1
Miss Spider Posted February 21, 2017 Posted February 21, 2017 Yeah, just take headphones in as the universal leave me the **** alone sign. Whatever you do,op,don't do like this guy. Started off well....I stuttered at first but luckily she had her headphones in and didn't hear me so I repeated myself I thought there was a connection because she kept walking past me and stealing looks so I went in for it I opened up with "you look like you know how to work out, better than the other chicks here who just walk around for attention" She laughed, told me she has a trainer and then we just started talking about random **** for 5 min Then I pointed and said I gotta get your number "I have a bf" my voice just locked up and I didn't know what to say, then my brain unfroze and I just blurted out "aw *** bye" racked my weights and walked to the bathroom to stare at myself in the mirror and review in my mind what the *** just happened. I hope I never see her again
coolheadal Posted February 21, 2017 Posted February 21, 2017 People always come up to me in the gym when I was going there. Sure you can talk to anyone there that is willing too. I had two women say boy your teeth looks so healthy. I was working out at the time. I had said thank-you. I had helped them with the exercise I was working on the lower stomach. If you interested in anyone at the gym, then you should find out first if they're not seeing anyone else. I don't see how you can when everyone so busy there working out. Smiles means likes then you need to hop on that opening before it closes.
risjurad Posted February 21, 2017 Posted February 21, 2017 Honestly, I think it's best if men do not approach at the gym, because it is creepy. And also, what if you did get her? She'd never want you to go to the gym again because she knows you pick up women there!! I think for men, it's best to let women come to you at the gym. If they are single and they are interested, they will start talking to you or flirting. And then it's not creepy, and then they don't think you're just there to pick up women. But then you'll never be able to relax when she goes to the gym, right? This pretty much limits picking up women to attractive men because the only way non-attractive men will be able to catch the interest of women would've been by talking to her. Some of us (including yours truly) need to hit on ladies to get dates*. If it's weird for her, then I'm going to say "sorry, but that's just how it is". You do miss 100% of the opportunities you don't take, but I'm not a mind reader. As a lady, you should expect to get hit on, simply by the laws of social nature. Yes, the men DO need to go about it in an appropriate way. If you're not interested, then say so, and I'll shrug it off. Hell, I've been doing that for the better part of a decade now. I'm not worried about it being weird for me, because if I don't talk to her, I'm going to be playing mind games, second guessing myself on how to chat her up, staring at her, and that'll make things weirder. * This is also akin to my job situation. I've gotten some good jobs, but I'm not a superstar that I get job offers thrown at me, unsolicited. I still need to pursue them.
blueskyday Posted February 21, 2017 Posted February 21, 2017 It must be easy and natural. The OP has a good idea. Jumping on the next treadmill, smiling and saying a quick "let's race," is hilarious and would get a laugh out of me. I might smile and say "I won," when I hop off. That would be it until a "hi" the next time in the gym. Natural. Something to build on... I've gone out with a couple of guys from the gym. (Not with any of the guys who creepily asked me if was a gymnast). But, I did say yes to the two that each said a casual hi and then later chatted me up on the way out or in the cafe. One guy later admitted that he sat himself there waiting for me to come in like I always did after a work out. The tip is to be friendly, funny, and quick. Then you save face if she's not interested. You were just being friendly. If she's interested, you'll get a smile or a hi. Then you can take it from there.
TheTraveler Posted February 23, 2017 Posted February 23, 2017 Yeah, just take headphones in as the universal leave me the **** alone sign. There was a girl next to me working out on a machine and I told her she should do it this way and she had headphones in. Then she's talking about how weak her upper body was. I didn't give her additional tips, but showed her and asked how it was doing it my way. She liked and I hope she continues it. I could've definitely gone more into it, but I'm finishing my workout I'll revisit her in a couple of months when she tones her body because she has potential to turn into a hottie:D 1
TheTraveler Posted February 23, 2017 Posted February 23, 2017 I get creeped on all the time at the gym by total creepers who stare My eyes are watching you HARD, but I'm definitely not following you around:lmao:
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