delajoyajoshua Posted December 8, 2016 Posted December 8, 2016 So my ex broke up with me in September and blocked me on everything. Social media too. I never did block her because I thought it was immature. She once texted me pics of us and saying cute things but I never texted back. Recently she liked my picture on Instagram and unblocked me. I didn't really look much into it as I'm talking to a new girl and it's kinda serious. Then the next day she views my Instagram story for the next three days in a row. Then yesterday I posted a snap on Instagram and 10 minutes later she saw it. I got really annoyed. It kind of started effin with my head so I blocked her. Was that an immature move? 1
Philosoraptor Posted December 8, 2016 Posted December 8, 2016 Blocking someone is for your own mental health. It's only immature if you are doing it to get back at her, not to just avoid her to be able to focus on yourself. 2
Bromeo Posted December 8, 2016 Posted December 8, 2016 Social media is the king of mixed signals. I grew up where there was none, and people had to talk to each other. Liked post, friend requests, etc. You will drive yourself crazy with that noise. 3
Chief1970 Posted December 9, 2016 Posted December 9, 2016 They always come back around once you stop chasing them.
goingcrazy123 Posted December 9, 2016 Posted December 9, 2016 They always come back around once you stop chasing them. Chief nailed it. Block her. Focus on your new relationship.
MidnightBlue1980 Posted December 9, 2016 Posted December 9, 2016 So my ex broke up with me in September and blocked me on everything. Social media too. I never did block her because I thought it was immature. She once texted me pics of us and saying cute things but I never texted back. Recently she liked my picture on Instagram and unblocked me. I didn't really look much into it as I'm talking to a new girl and it's kinda serious. Then the next day she views my Instagram story for the next three days in a row. Then yesterday I posted a snap on Instagram and 10 minutes later she saw it. I got really annoyed. It kind of started effin with my head so I blocked her. Was that an immature move? People can see you looking on Instagram? 1
BAcK Posted December 9, 2016 Posted December 9, 2016 Blocking someone is not immature. It is for your own good. If her constant presence on your social media was bothering you, you did right by blocking her. And also when you stop chasing them and actually move on they try to come back. Human psychology is the most complex science. 2
umirano Posted December 9, 2016 Posted December 9, 2016 Going NC is a tool. Not more, not less. It particularly isn't childish. Theoretically you could cut down a tree with a shovel. Dig out and hack off all roots until it falls. Or even with your bare hands and a sharp rock, if you have the time. But that is not very smart when we have axes or saws. That is how you should look at NC. Apparently you were bothered by her social media activities around your account. If NC solves this problem for you, and I believe it will, it is the right tool to use. A longer, more abstract version of this argument here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/605440-discussion-nc#post7152431
Blanco Posted December 9, 2016 Posted December 9, 2016 People can see you looking on Instagram? Only the new Snapchat-like feature. It'll show who's viewed the video, which is important info to have for all of us lurkers out there.
Redhead14 Posted December 9, 2016 Posted December 9, 2016 So my ex broke up with me in September and blocked me on everything. Social media too. I never did block her because I thought it was immature. She once texted me pics of us and saying cute things but I never texted back. Recently she liked my picture on Instagram and unblocked me. I didn't really look much into it as I'm talking to a new girl and it's kinda serious. Then the next day she views my Instagram story for the next three days in a row. Then yesterday I posted a snap on Instagram and 10 minutes later she saw it. I got really annoyed. It kind of started effin with my head so I blocked her. Was that an immature move? Absolutely not. It's the best thing you can do for YOURSELF. After a break up, going No Contact is the best way to handle it. You remove all sources of contact and exposure to being hurt over and over again. Block her from your phone and all social media outlets/venues. You'll be able to move on faster if you do that for yourself. It also helps to not "contaminate" a new or developing relationship by eliminating possible sources of jealousy for the new partner or raising questions for them. 1
LargoLagg Posted December 9, 2016 Posted December 9, 2016 So my ex broke up with me in September and blocked me on everything. Social media too. I never did block her because I thought it was immature. She once texted me pics of us and saying cute things but I never texted back. Recently she liked my picture on Instagram and unblocked me. I didn't really look much into it as I'm talking to a new girl and it's kinda serious. Then the next day she views my Instagram story for the next three days in a row. Then yesterday I posted a snap on Instagram and 10 minutes later she saw it. I got really annoyed. It kind of started effin with my head so I blocked her. Was that an immature move?She just wants to add you to her list of superficial friends now that a sufficient amount of time has gone by since you dated. I can hear her now, if you guys happen to meet at a party and one of you is being introduced around: Yes, we dated for a short while back over the summer, but it didn't work out. That's ok, because now we're the best of friends! {hug} Ugh. If it bothers you, then it bothers you. Cut her out, but don't expect her to like it. She may lash out at you for it.
Chief1970 Posted December 9, 2016 Posted December 9, 2016 So my ex broke up with me in September and blocked me on everything. Social media too. I never did block her because I thought it was immature. She once texted me pics of us and saying cute things but I never texted back. Recently she liked my picture on Instagram and unblocked me. I didn't really look much into it as I'm talking to a new girl and it's kinda serious. Then the next day she views my Instagram story for the next three days in a row. Then yesterday I posted a snap on Instagram and 10 minutes later she saw it. I got really annoyed. It kind of started effin with my head so I blocked her. Was that an immature move? If you treated your ex with care and respect then at some point they'll come back around. A lot of times the relationship hits a lull patch and the grass appears to be greener on the other side. But there's no perfect relationship. At some point the puppy love will fade in their new relationship.
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