As you get older

[mortensorchid]

When I was a kid (as in in my twenties) I had heard older friends say this quite a bit but of course I did not believe it. They say that the want and need to socialize with others goes down as you get older. This is, of course, true, I see now that I myself am older. You change, the people around you change, the places you go to for entertainment change, etc. I find this to be true now, it seems that you don't want to put up with people and their nonsense as much as you did before. Like everything else, you learn.

 

I'm in my 40s now, I've learned a lot with people. There are so few good people or those you really want to be your friends after all. There will always be fall outs or issues even with those who are your good friends, nothing is perfect, but you realize that sometimes the best thing for you to do is to just be by yourself or you don't want to go out and mingle or whatever else. Plus we are going into winter, people in general do not go out as much once the winter months come in. And, quite honestly, I am reaching a point where I am tired of the disappointments and crazy things that I have experienced with a lot of people.

 

Do any who are also in said position or those who are loners or whatnot find this to also be the case? It's hard enough or was hard enough to find someone to be friends with, let alone a SO, but is it getting even more difficult for you as time goes on? I feel like I have used up every possible situation or venue in order to meet others. No wonder the internet is such a popular means of meeting others, we don't seem to leave the house as much as we used to at some point.

[bluefeather]

I started feeling that way when I was in my twenties. I'm sooo wise beyond my years.

[Popsicle]

I think the more introverted you are, the less you need to socialize. I'm only slightly introverted and I need to socialize and then I need a little time alone. If I don't socialize some, I'm not as happy. And yes, people can be a pain in the butt sometimes.