Is this girl seriously?....Was she a narcissist?..A sociopath?...A psychopath?..

[RedRider600]

I met a girl at work 3 months ago. We clicked so good that I felt she was my soulmate. I felt as though she was the girl version of me. She was funny, smart, took interested in everything I had to say and even laughed at my lamest jokes. Throughout our tumultuous friendship there were several red flags that I chose to ignore. The day I met her I had told her that I had just come back from a trip to Mexico and soon after she was making plans to take a trip together. It's extremely odd for a female to decide without even giving it much thought that she wants to take a long trip with a complete male stranger. It's hard enough to get a chick to go out for Starbucks with you let alone take a trip across international borders along your side and with a total stranger too. She asked me for my number and I gave it to her. A week later I saw a different side of her. One that was just begging for sympathy. I had only spoken with her about two times then when she began to "open up" to me. She told me that her father's daughter is a complete jerk who refuses to pay child support and so and so on. She was telling me this "sad" story at work. While she was in lunch and I was working. It kinda bothered me a bit because it was distracting me but nonetheless I listened. That same day she was texting me non stop. Eventually towards the end of the night, she invited me for drinks. I was busy at work and took too long to reply so when I finally did, I received no answer. The next day she txt me and told me that she had "fallen asleep" even though I txt her back at 10:20PM on a Saturday. In one of her conversations she mentioned that she did not do social media yet later on I discovered that Twitter is basically her life line and every picture she posts is a selfie as though she's in love with herself or just wants to feeling of guys drooling over her. Another thing I found odd about her was that most her friends are guys. She has very few if any "girl friends" which is very unusual for a female. She told me that her and former co worker used to go out for drinks often after work. She mentioned that after a while rumors began to surface that the two were having sex. She denied the allegation by saying that they were just "friends" and that he was a married man with kids. I've never come across a married man in my life who who goes out with a girl unless that girl is his f buddy or he's gay. At this point in our friendship she would always call me endearing terms "babe", "love", "boo". Terms you would only reserve for your boyfriend or someone very close to you which I was neither. Every time she would see me, she would give a a tight hug, with her full body pressed up against and her breasts squeezing up against my chest. One day another female co worker spoke ill of me and after that day I noticed her attitude change towards me. I found her very attractive but it didn't bother me because I continue to be the same happy individual I always was. I caught her staring at me but it was very weird kind of stare. She had a blank expression in her face, almost 1,000 yard stare like in nature. We didn't see each other for about a month due to having different schedules. One day she called me up on my day off and she asked me if I could help figure out a problem she was having with a machine at work. That bothered me because it seemed like she only contacted me when she needed something. I helped her the best I could over the phone and the next day when I saw her at work she approached and said "Hey I forgot my wallet, can you buy me lunch?"...Being the nice guy I am...I did. I sat with her in the break room while she at her lunch. I was sitting at a typical distance that two non-romantic partners would sit but she insisted I sit closer to her. She then began telling me how a girl was spreading rumors (actually the same one who spoke ill of me) about how she was talking a lot of crap about another girl. I honestly did not want to hear it because I didn't want to get caught up in any drama at work. I wondered to myself what happened to the girl that I initially met who so full of life, witty, charming, and who a light approach to life. Soon after our friendship took a turn for the worst. One day she asked me if "I had an open mind". She began questioning me about a girl I used to like at work and and wanted to know the reasons as to why I didn't speak to her anymore. I felt bothered but also caught by surprise. I didn't know how to answer her so I answered in anger. I told her that the other girl was a "POS", "a user", and "childish individual". She then told me that's "pretty harsh and that she wondered if I would ever do that to her". After that day things were never same. She looked like she had lost interest in me. It became a chore to make her smile and started to distance herself. Lucky for me I didn't have any feelings for her. Unfortunately soon after I started to fall in love with her and fell hard. I felt guilty for not being nicer and felt guilty for not being more affectionate when it seemed like she was showering me with affection. I started to try and make it up by helping her finish her tasks at work. I would give her a lot of much, so much that eventually it backfired. One day she told me that she was in the process of getting divorced not from her daughter's father but from some other man. This man was former co worker which she married after only being with him for a short period of time. Their marriage only lasted one year. She said she swore to the world that, that man was her soulmate. They even got matching name initials tatted in on their fingers. In the end in didn't work out. She claims that she was more invested in him and not the other way around and that he was chronic cheater. Interestingly enough she told that she had met this man after dumping and cutting off all contact with her boyfriend of 4 years at the time. She said he was a really nice guy but dumped him because "she didn't believe in cheating on him". As time progressed her attitude towards continued to change and not for the better. The sweet girl I had met had turned into a total bytch. She would belittle me, put me down, was always uninterested in what I had to say, ignore me, and give me the cold shoulder. I would always buy her lunch and when we sat together she would just bury her face in her phone and made very little effort converse with me. By that point it was obvious that I was head over heels for her. There was a lot of people who put negative thoughts about me in her head which didn't help the situation either. She knew that I was love struck by her so she would flirt with other guys in front of me with a look in her eyes that just spelled "I know I'm torturing you and I enjoy it". I decided to have a heart to heart to talk with her which only made things worse. I told her that I miss the way she used to be and that we should start over. She became very angry at me, yelled, and made a scene at our job. My feelings were so strong for her that I became emotional and my eyes watered. Instead of feeling sympathy, the hurt that was being manifested through my tears only angered her further. She denied ever being bytch towards me and told me that "I was crazy" and that "I was too sensitive", that "I get hurt easily". She told me that "she didn't know why we had such conversation" and that "I had wasted her time". In the end she had told me that everything was ok and that we "should go back to normal". A week later I saw her and she was acting strange. She told another co worker that "I had run into her and was making her feel uncomfortable". Later on that day she txt me telling me that people were saying that I was talking "bad about her, that I was going around work telling people I had feelings for her, and trying to start problems between her and other girls". She told me "that she did not want to fight but was telling that our friendship was over". I pleaded with her over txt messages to not do this. I finally confessed to her that I did have feelings for her. I tried to have another heart to heart with her and to my surprise she seemed opened for dialogue. I became very emotional and told her that "I had strong feelings for her" which enraged her. She made another big scene, walked away from me and complained to her supervisor about the issue. I ended up quitting my job on the spot over this (didn't need it, it was a side gig).....But now I'm left heartbroken and confused.....Was it me?....Or does this girl have some serious personal issues?......

[eightytwenty]

I think you both have something going on...

 

 

First she was all into you, when you weren't into her.

 

 

Then, once you started to like her, the chase was over for her. She started acting crazy to get attention from overs. That's when you should have distanced yourself from her and kept away

 

 

Why on earth would you keep trying when she started to make scenes at work and started talking bad about you?

 

 

So she's drama, and you need to think about how she treated you. Why when she started blowing up on you still would keep trying with her.

Edited December 7, 2016 by eightytwenty